[CHANDLERS WISH]

Okay... Seems that maybe you felt that it's about love after all and so you've made your decision...

You can ask what ever you like.

Can I ask why you only like to call him your boyfriend?

Erm, is an English term, reminds me of a past poster that always wrote that word, you bring back memories, only he was well a he

[Hooster]

Good for you, Chan, the best of luck to you. ^_*

[chanzian]

Erm , i like to call my fiance as boyfriend because the word fiance look much more older than BF..^_^" .....so i always address him as my BF ^_^ ........my question is ....can u all tell me > how do i present myself needed in sex and i lack of experience in sex.....and anyone teach me how to do , only will make my BF and i enjoy it.....because this is my frist time ....and i decided to it on this weekend...........can u all give a suggestion ...how to make love......erm birth control also.....^_^

[Hooster]

Wow... how to have sex? It is sort of like asking how to build a nuclear power plant. It gets complicated... There is lots of material on the internet and I encourage you to have a look.

What I can say to someone who is a virgin is the following. You have potentially a very beautiful experience in ahead of you, one that you will remember and cherish for the rest of your life. Try to make it about love and making love and not something mechanical. Remember that it is the journey that is important and not the destination. You are not making love to reach on orgasm or to give him an orgasm. You are making love because making love is a wonderful thing and it feels great. If an orgasm happens, fine. If not, fine too, as long as you remember to enjoy every minute of it.

If your bf is inexperienced he may not be able to make things last as long as you might like. If so, try to be patient and let him rest for a while. Then be passionate with him again and see if it is not better the second time around.

Regarding birth control, USE CONDOMS. I am sorry it is not romantic but it is the safest most practical way. It sounds like your man really cares about you so that should not give him any trouble.

Enjoy.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Erm , i like to call my fiance as boyfriend because the word fiance look much more older than BF..^_^" .....so i always address him as my BF ^_^ ........my question is ....can u all tell me > how do i present myself needed in sex and i lack of experience in sex.....and anyone teach me how to do , only will make my BF and i enjoy it.....because this is my frist time ....and i decided to it on this weekend...........can u all give a suggestion ...how to make love......erm birth control also.....^_^

lol's... that makes sense, it keeps things alive good for you...

Sweet, take it very slow, very slow.... Kissing is the entry to the soul.. So spend alot of time, looking into each others eyes, kissing and smiling.

You know, we are all different in the experience, so I would suggest lubrication, so that part is easier for you and again SLOW on his behalf, and special, ask him, slow and look at me, kiss me, all the way through....

Best wishes sweet, again, ensure your ready and YOU want to and YOUR not doing this for him ok.

CW

[chanzian]

ok ^_^ ....thanks girls..........love u all forever ^^ ...............should i decorate the bedroom........or go to hotel?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Well Hooster is a male

Romance... Candles.... Feeling safe... So where ever you feel all of those...

[Julietpinkrose]

My boyfriend always invite me to sex but i too scare to lose my virginity ........i heard a lot of people said that is painful to lose virginity......And he was my first boyfriend and we've been together 2 years .......and now i'm 26 .......he is a good man and he also treated me very well .......but since this few week that , he got a lot of pressure from work ...........should i lose my virginity to him,and make him feel relax or just ignore it .........anyone can help me?

Do what you feel is right, dont feel pressured to do anything you are not ready to do.

When its the right time you will know it and it wont be as scary.

The first time is different for everyone, for some people there is no pain at all for others its painful ...

If you dont feel right about it then wait untill you are ready

[chanzian]

Should i eat pill and without condom.......does it safe for me?..........i hope the first time without condom...any suggestion?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

You are on the pill? Have you been on it for a month, had your period? Do you mean the morning after pill?

I think if you feel safe with your man from sexual deceases, no condom is necessary, if worried about getting pregnant not on the pill for a month or more, had periods, then it's not safe. Morning pill is (only if needed) not recommended and only after sex, no condom, or pill... within 24hrs..

CW