[Hopeless Dork]

Yeah I have always thought there was some sort of valve that prevents urination when a guy was about to ejaculate or these types of incidents would be much more common.

But that being said, the human body is still a bit of a mystery and shirt happens. I don't think I could throw away a relationship over an isolated incident of this in the chance that it was just an accident... especially if the guy has never been disrespectful and doing something this degrading would be way out of character for him.

[kygirl]

I think you should just try to talk to him. Maybe it was accidental. I don't know how old you are, but I do think it *could* happen. then he had to try to stop it and I know as a woman at least, when you have to pee and you get going, it's hard to stop sometimes.

At minimum, I think you should talk to him. It could be that his apparent "lack of concern" was more of extreme embarassment. I would be MORTIFIED if I did that and if he didn't know what to say or how to say it or what happened, he might have felt the same way.

Yes, it was gross. Perhaps even not accidental, I don't know, but if you've been with him for 6 months and this is the first time it's happened, I'd talk to him at least.

[sallywi2003]

I think that this is totally wrong he should have apologized right away if it was a accident. From what my BF says when you have a erection you cannot go pee. It is after orgasm and the erection is gone he can go pee. It sounds like a kink job and he was fulfilling fantasies. I would talk with him and tell him your concerns and how he made you feel and ask for an apology.

[jns]

If I have to pee in the morning and I am hard, I cannot pee until it goes soft somewhat and then I have to push hard to make it happen. It depends on how hard for me, if I am really hard, I cannot pee.

[i know i need help]

Maybe he is extremely embarrassed that it happened and thats why he wants to make light of it, he just wants the incident forgotten.
Its up to you though, either drop it and get on with your future or, if you cant you need to be honest with how dirty the whole incident made you feel but be realistic in how he can make amends as he cant undo what is done, also if he's that embarassed you could be pushing him away in keep bringing up his mistake.
good luck

[maverick]

As noted by several other male bloggers, it is quite possible to pee with a full erection. It's more difficult, but entirely possible.

As for accidentally, peeing, some people do have bladder issues. If this is not the case, I can't imagine "accidentally" peeing more than a drop or two. Certainly not enough to drench someone.

Talk to the guy and find out what's going on. This is not going to improve on its own.

[kat252]

you really really need to tal to him about this- i may be really ignorant on these matters- but i wodner if its possible he has a weak bladder and had driunk too much before sex with you.
i think its important to remeber that this may have been an unfortuate accident.
but if he had a weak bladder- surely he would ahve stopped the sex and said- im sorry i really need a wee- then carried on
seems like he got carried away.
some men unfortunately have strange kinks- you ought to talk to some prostitute who have seen it all
also the fact he always likes missionary positions maybe suggests to me that he is confused- has urges he doesnt undertsand-
he doesnt sound much of a turn on or a nice guy- why are you with him
i had a friend who slept with someone- first day and they wanked on her face- and someone else- slep with someone the first date tried to do anal- but like he didnt know how to do it any other way- know what i mean?
this is hat puts me off sex- this is why i think you have to get yourself a nice bloke- someone who you can fully trust- someone who you think is a really decent guy

[Guest]

As femme says, most men are unable to urinate when erect. It's almost impossible as the uretha "gate" is closed off at the time. (leastwise it's impossible for me)I'm surprised he produced any fluid after having sex twice before. If he geunuinely couldn't help it then perhaps try to understand. You'll only know it it happens again. If it's deliberate and you don't like it then tell him plainly.

[Mitchel1870]

Say it was an accident, I would have apologized profusely, as I think any honest guy would.

Since he was nonchalant about I think he was trying something, I have heard of this fetish before. I know the difference between orgasm and peeing, I have time believing it was an accident.

Personally i can go while erect, but it takes a bit of time and pushing to get it to start.

I'd talk to him about it if I were you, since it seems to be bother you so much.

[josh1]

hey im a guy, here's our side of this

Earlier today for the first time, the guy that I have been seeing for the past 6 months urinated on me when I was expecting him to ejaculate (as he said he was going to). Without being too graphic, I ended the event being completely drenched in and having swallowed urine. I don't know if its psychological or actual, but I feel queasy, and moreover, it is 3:32am and I cannot get to sleep from thinking about it. He says that it was an accident and he simply did not have any semen left after the first two completed rounds of sex, but it just doesn't seem physically possible to "accidentally" urinate instead of ejaculating. I feel completely ashamed and violated and don't have anyone that I would want to talk to about it. Is this somehow possible that this is an accident, and if so, how can it be avoided? Is my reaction a normal one? I feel inordinately bothered by this situation and I can't seem to settle myself about any of it. In all honesty (even though I feel that it sounds trite) I feel a little dirty and he is making it into such a "non-issue" that I feel very confused and alone. I don't even know what my question is, I would just like some knowledgeable advice, solid facts and/or helpful suggestions about any of this!

Hi I'm a guy and felt i really had to respond to this especially given the nature of all the female responses on here being so harsh, i have recently discovered a problem with myself where when i reach orgasm, if my penis is erect at the time... that's right it's possible to orgasm non erect! then i actually produce urine instead of semen, and its horrible, i disgust myself and don't even have the confidence to hit on a woman at the moment. It may be that he has a similar issue, this is caused by damage to either the muscles or the nerves controlling the bladder being damaged and depending on what has caused it may or may not be reversible. I fear mine is not but seeing a doc soon.

FYI it is nearly impossible to voluntarily urinate while erect and actually quite painful, however this is a completely involuntary action that happens upon orgasm only.

please be supportive of him because if he feels anything like i do about it then he's probably horrified about it especially if its led to issues between you and him