[Texinator]

You can be compatible in many ways and get along very well... and that's still not always enough to make for a good romantic relationship.

[Allie602]

Don't be a girl and sacrifice your life because you're being manipulated and guilted into marrying this guy. If there is no chemistry then you need to allow him and yourself to find someone he will have chemistry with. It ain't you. Woman respond to being expected to sacrifice their happiness and then get trapped in a marriage and children and have deep regret.

If it was the other way around and you were a man, do you think I man would stay with a woman he had no chemistry with and would have to give up sex to marry. Noooooo. Are you as a woman less deserving of love and a good sex life? Men have it right - they are selfish when it comes to what they want. Women need to learn to do the same.

You have no obligation to save this man, he does have problems but you cannot fix him and he has to do that. Don't be a sap and let him suck the life out of you. That's exactly what he is doing by telling you he can't live without you. Its BS, and very selfish and manipulative. He will eventually stop being so nice and resent you if you stay with him because you wont fix him and he will blame you. Women go into relationships with flawed men and expect a man to change, it does not happen and you buy a life of grief. Your instincts are right, get out this at all cost even if you need to go back home and ignore people who don't have your interest at heart.

Of course his family wants you to marry, solves their problems with a troubled son, fob him off on a nieve girl. Do you think they care about you. Noooo, so you better care about yourself. Your family relations are bad but look around for a healthy relationship with a whole man you deserve that and you can find it if you know you deserve it.

[Mes T]

I think Allie put it amazingly.