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  • Hopeless Dork
    Veteran Member
    • Dec 2008
    • 4255

    Jrod you have pretty much described me as your girlfriend... I feel like you should have at least taken me to a movie first!!! Jokes aside, I am the same way... I am in the mood to pleasure my boyfriend every single day... where as my mood for being pleasured varies. Sometimes I want it 3 times in a day or once in a week but when he's always happly to please me when I want it but a lot of times I get my satisfaction in giving him satisfaction. It fills an emotional need... as well as a sexual one for me and I'm guessing your lady is similiar. No its not all that common and yes you are lucky
    Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.

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    • WildChild
      Banned
      • Sep 2008
      • 14142

      Originally posted by jns
      This is intriguing. How would I find more information about this?
      This is in the tantric community. I don't agree with all they do but they do have some really good ideas

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      • jns
        Assistant Admin
        • Mar 2010
        • 8398

        WC, I figured from past posts it had to do with tantric practitioners, but I couldn't come up with a search targeted for good results.
        I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
        ...
        Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

        From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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        • Guest

          I give my b/f oral sex just about every morning to see him off to work, if he's running I don't have time to take care of him..

          However I expect the favor returned on me when he get's home in the evening..

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          • JRod
            Senior Member
            • Jul 2010
            • 141

            Hopeless, I'm glad you feel where I'm coming from (no pun intended), Sidneyalive, your man is so very fortunate;-).....So, Hopeless how long have you been with your current? What is your take on previously posted opinions (ie Allies/Wildchilds). They make good points. Do you feel you will be content in your relationship as is or could you see things going in the direction they described?

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            • Give 2 Get
              Junior Member
              • Sep 2010
              • 5

              I feel the same way

              Originally posted by Hopeless Dork
              Jrod you have pretty much described me as your girlfriend... I feel like you should have at least taken me to a movie first!!! Jokes aside, I am the same way... I am in the mood to pleasure my boyfriend every single day... where as my mood for being pleasured varies. Sometimes I want it 3 times in a day or once in a week but when he's always happly to please me when I want it but a lot of times I get my satisfaction in giving him satisfaction. It fills an emotional need... as well as a sexual one for me and I'm guessing your lady is similiar. No its not all that common and yes you are lucky

              ^^^ +1 ^^^

              Giving is it's own reward as long as you have no expectations
              One's own truth is so simple, most people ignore it to concentrate on what they feel is a "Deeper" truth.

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              • LanaBear
                Veteran Member
                • Jul 2009
                • 8373

                I absolutely LOVE doing this. I'd much rather give this than receive. Not that I don't want to be the recipient in oral, but for me personally, it is a much headier experience having his arousal in the palm of my hand (pun, no pun, I'll let you decide). If I hear a zipper, I'm seeking him out. He's definitely not selfish, by any means, but I get pure lustfilled pleasure by doing this. I don't see it as a contest of who gives and receives more in a month, for us, it's about what brings us both pleasure.

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                • WildChild
                  Banned
                  • Sep 2008
                  • 14142

                  Originally posted by LanaBear
                  I absolutely LOVE doing this. I'd much rather give this than receive. Not that I don't want to be the recipient in oral, but for me personally, it is a much headier experience having his arousal in the palm of my hand (pun, no pun, I'll let you decide). If I hear a zipper, I'm seeking him out. He's definitely not selfish, by any means, but I get pure lustfilled pleasure by doing this. I don't see it as a contest of who gives and receives more in a month, for us, it's about what brings us both pleasure.
                  This can be very true, IF he isn't sexually selfish otherwise. It isn't a contest but it does have to have balance. When it gets really out of line with one giving and giving and almost never getting sexually, it really isn't healthy for either and then it does get much harder to have any enthusiasm about it.

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                  • LanaBear
                    Veteran Member
                    • Jul 2009
                    • 8373

                    Originally posted by WildChild
                    This can be very true, IF he isn't sexually selfish otherwise. It isn't a contest but it does have to have balance. When it gets really out of line with one giving and giving and almost never getting sexually, it really isn't healthy for either and then it does get much harder to have any enthusiasm about it.
                    Definitely good points. I won't say neither of us have never been selfish regarding sex. We've been there and done that, but were able to work through our issues, now we are pretty much on the same page. Neither of us are sexually selfish.

                    I think the reason I'm so free and open with giving BJ's is because I can orgasm at the drop of a hat. It doesn't take much at all, oral, manual, penetration, etc. I have multiple's all the time, so for me, it's no harm, no foul and pure enjoyment to see to his pleasure because I know I get mine times 100.

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                    • Allie602
                      Veteran Member
                      • Jul 2010
                      • 324

                      JRod I think your girl is as lucky to have you as you are to have her. I read over your post and I just think it is so nice to see that you really like this woman and you are concerned about how to respond to her generosity in ways that will sustain the relationship. I hope the ladies who are abundant givers will give you more info about the length of their relationships and how they handle the ups and downs without losing their penchant for giving.

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