[JRod]

Why do women withhold sex when you're upset and on the flip side use it as a "reward" when we are "good"? Most claim to enjoy it and want it as much as we men do so why play this game? Men don't do that. Yes, I know, there is more of an emotional connection related to sex with women and if you aren't in the right state of mind.....yata,yata,yata. Give us more than that. Why can't we be in an arguement, have sex, then go back to the arguement hahaha

[LittleLily]

Hi JRod, how can we have sex if we are not in mood. Just tell us if at work, you have a arguement with him/her, are you able to perform your work?
I think that answer you well.

[lizzardb63]

Women do want it as much as men, but when its just "okay honey let me stick it in, 5 minutes later i'll roll over and sleep". Sometimes women would like a little romance or something to make them feel special instead of the usual routine sex or because of making up or something like that. Can't there be something special and romantic, JUST BECAUSE?

[JRod]

Don't get me wrong Lily, I'm not talkin 2 seconds after we just finished screaming at each other. Maybe we had a small spat early that eveining. We are no longer literally arguing but perhaps we are still upset when we get to bed or the next morning. Why do we have to talk it out for an hour and a half before there is even a chance at making love? What I'm saying is at That moment can't it just happen. We'll talk it out later lol

[ItsASecret]

Why do we have to talk it out for an hour and a half before there is even a chance at making love? What I'm saying is at That moment can't it just happen. We'll talk it out later lol

If a woman is obviously upset it is not just 'going to go away' so that her SO can have his 10 minutes of pump time. Next time you are in a fight with your SO why not ask her to just 'deal with it later' have sex and forget about whatever is bothering her...maybe it will work but there is only one way to find out.

[LanaBear]

Yada yada yada? Give you more than that? Why don't YOU give us more than that? There is such a thing as feelings. If a man is not in the mood, he can't get it up. If a woman is not in the mood, she can't enjoy it. If all you are looking for is to release your anger and bent up frustration after an argument, with no emotion or connection, go get a plastic vagina and go to town.

I personally don't use sex as a weapon, however, even if I DID, men can and will do it to. Generalizations, generalizations, generalizations.

[LanaBear]

Also, so you have to cater to a woman's emotions... If you love and care for your SO, that shouldn't be too big of a chore, unless said woman is too emotionally high maintenance and emotionally demanding for you, if so, then maybe it's time to find another girlfriend in which you can better relate to.

Men have more than enough moods that women cater to. Men are not emotionless creatures from another planet.

[Agony_Aunt]

I think that women have a completely different view on sex and their love that they give, compared to men.

They see it as something very important and special to them, so therefore they are not going to just throw it out on the table.

as you said women have more of an emotional connection with sex, so therefore, if after an argument she is annoyed or flipped off (which are emotions), those emotions don't relate to sex so there is a less chance of sex happening.
It's simply down to emotions, not her using sex as a weapon!

[rcoreyus]

The person in a relationship who wants less sex controls the couple's sex life. Some people chose to use that as a weapon.

[LittleLily]

Don't get me wrong Lily, I'm not talkin 2 seconds after we just finished screaming at each other. Maybe we had a small spat early that eveining. We are no longer literally arguing but perhaps we are still upset when we get to bed or the next morning. Why do we have to talk it out for an hour and a half before there is even a chance at making love? What I'm saying is at That moment can't it just happen. We'll talk it out later lol

Yup got it right. But what I can tell you guys, sex after 'cold war' is very pleasant and satisfying. When we have a couple of arguements, thing doesn't goes well. We'll take a break, might not even talk for quite sometimes. But after things back to normal, I think that is best sex we have ever had. Even when verbal communication does works, I think sex will bind us back. That's life, isn't it.