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  • whatp
    Junior Member
    • Oct 2010
    • 6

    selfish

    Does being selfish regarding sex come naturally to women? My wife refuses to give me a blowjob but is more than happy for me to go down on her. Is she being selfish?
  • WildChild
    Banned
    • Sep 2008
    • 14142

    LOL
    Over the past couple years I've gave out about 20 zillion bjs and was essentially untouched. Sexually selfish people come in both genders and all ages.

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    • masterchief
      Member
      • Sep 2010
      • 41

      Most people are selfish when it comes to sex. Pleasing themselves is a major part of it.

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      • Olympia
        Veteran Member
        • Jun 2010
        • 1049

        Unlike, WC..
        I find it erotic...
        BJ's are sexually rewarding to me.. But i have the same partner, Which may effect such reasoning..
        I love my partner, and he me...
        I love the all sensory,, visual, scent, touch,,Ohh, my.., i am giving a bit much here...
        well, i believe it is whom you are with..and for how long.. LOL

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        • kristalyn_04
          Veteran Member
          • Oct 2009
          • 2164

          A while ago I was in a 2-year relationship... he got BJ's almost every day, but never wanted to go down on me. And for me, that is one of the few ways I am able to orgasm, so it was incredibly frustrating for me and he didn't seem to care. He was very selfish, unfortunately I was unable to change it. You should try talking to your wife at least, let her know that it frustrates you and what you two can do about it as a couple. It is unfair, but it won't change unless you talk about it.

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          • WildChild
            Banned
            • Sep 2008
            • 14142

            Originally posted by Olympia
            Unlike, WC..
            I find it erotic...
            BJ's are sexually rewarding to me.. But i have the same partner, Which may effect such reasoning..
            I love my partner, and he me...
            I love the all sensory,, visual, scent, touch,,Ohh, my.., i am giving a bit much here...
            well, i believe it is whom you are with..and for how long.. LOL
            It was entirely with the same man. I enjoyed pleasuring him. But when there is virtually no reciprocation, it starts to wear thin after a few years.

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            • Olympia
              Veteran Member
              • Jun 2010
              • 1049

              Originally posted by WildChild
              It was entirely with the same man. I enjoyed pleasuring him. But when there is virtually no reciprocation, it starts to wear thin after a few years.
              You are correct.. i never faced the lack of reciprocation..
              I do receive, XX again, not just give...!!

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              • Casey715
                Senior Member
                • Feb 2010
                • 179

                To the OP, yes she is being very selfish. No question about it. Ofcouse you have talked to her about it and really tried to understand just what it is that is keeping her from giving you BJ's. What was her reply?
                I am happy because I am content with who I am. My wife is not responsible for my happiness, she enhances my happiness because she is so good to me.

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                • stressed
                  Veteran Member
                  • Jun 2009
                  • 1914

                  Yes, she is being selfish. No, it's not natural for women to be sexually selfish.

                  There are many cases of both men and women who behave in this manner.

                  Talk to her about it and be firm.

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                  • foxdana
                    Member
                    • Sep 2010
                    • 72

                    Try suggesting flavoured condoms! Maybe she doesn't like the taste or smell of your penis. Or you could try flavoured lube!

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