[Tiptopshape]

I think it's just normal to watch porn even if you and your partner are not sexually active. It's better than cheating on your gf with another person physically, don't you think? Just make sure you still treat her the way she deserves to be treated and not rely too much on porn.

[justadudeguy]

PORN ISN"T ANY WORSE THAN HOLLYWOOD MOVIES

as a guy, I'm sick of women bashing porn, but them all going to the twilight movies is A okay, its such a double standard because THEY ARE THE SAME.

Porn = fantasy featuring sex men wish they were having. women get exploited (for arguments sake)

Movies for women = fantasy featuring the life women wish they had (male actors get exploited because they are paid to act like D bags for the camera and money)

Sure, both have their place, but both have also set up "unrealistic" expectations.

For every woman who feels like porn has ruined her mans standards, there is a guy who's woman's standards were ruined by nicholas sparks or twilight or whatever lame chickflick. Its the same thing though. Guys having porn inspired expactations in bed isn't any different than most women having movie inspired expecations of romance. Women get disappointed their husband doesn't look like george clooney with bill gates wallet and listen like doctor phil, how is it any different than a guy wanting jenna jameson in his bedroom. Want proof? How many women wear a shirt that says "princess", but do not look let alone act like one, yet they all expect a "prince" to come along for them. For every woman who gets stuck kissing frogs, there are guys stuck kissing frogs too.

statistically, the average women.....only deserves to get an average man. cuts both ways. At the same time, how many guys are really really huge fans of some porno actress, not a whole lot, just look at the oscars compared to some porno awards, you don't see millions of men following what the latest porn star trend is, what clothes they wear, silly BS like that, yet women gobble up tid bits about their latest movie hunk crush guys daily life all the time.

[LanaBear]

lol - um, well now, tell us how you really feel.

[justadudeguy]

besides, if your willing to wait for her, because her values take priority over your sex life, its your choice of course so she doesn't "owe" you, but I hope she does appreciate it, and it totally gives you the right to have sex with yourself however you see fit.

[masterchief]

I think what gets women is they believe that guys want to be with the pornstar rather than them and feel betrayed. In reality it'll never happen, much the same as window shopping for things outside your the range you can afford, and just as hurtful to guys that cant give them what they want.

Or maybe it's a feeling of inadequacy that they cant match the sexual skills of the image on the screen.

It's always the great irony that it's completely acceptable for guy to watch action movies or horror movies where people get killed in graphic or humourous manners, yet any equivalent image of love, sex or pleasure is branded perverted and sick.

[WildChild]

I think what gets women is they believe that guys want to be with the pornstar rather than them and feel betrayed. In reality it'll never happen, much the same as window shopping for things outside your the range you can afford, and just as hurtful to guys that cant give them what they want.

Or maybe it's a feeling of inadequacy that they cant match the sexual skills of the image on the screen.

It's always the great irony that it's completely acceptable for guy to watch action movies or horror movies where people get killed in graphic or humourous manners, yet any equivalent image of love, sex or pleasure is branded perverted and sick.

Nope not really.
You don't get it.
There are men, many men apparently who simply quit wanting or responding to sexual interaction with the woman in their lives. This is usually accompanied by a fairly complete lack of any other displays of affection too.

[ItsASecret]

I'm sick of women bashing porn, but them all going to the twilight movies is A okay, its such a double standard because THEY ARE THE SAME.

Yes, they are the same. Offering jail bait to consumers in an unrealistic way in order to make them drool over what they simply cannot have.

[tesoro]

Nope not really.
You don't get it.
There are men, many men apparently who simply quit wanting or responding to sexual interaction with the woman in their lives. This is usually accompanied by a fairly complete lack of any other displays of affection too.

Unfortunately, this was my experience with my ex. As a young couple, he tried to get me into watching porn with him. He wanted me to act like those girls in the movies. I didn't realize that he was so addicted to it that he couldn't have normal, loving sex with me. He wasn't interested in finding out what I liked. He wanted me to enjoy his idea of foreplay which wasn't working for me. And even though I asked him often to show me affection and just cuddle with me. He never touched me in any way other than sexual.

So, my young man, you sound like a very thoughtful and considerate person. I don't think porn is awful to watch because you seem to be balancing the idea of watching sexual entertainment with the idea of waiting for your girlfriend to be ready to be intimate with you. I think it's okay to watch porn in moderation...like anything else. Just be careful not to get addicted to it...needing it to relieve yourself. This can set you up for a lifetime of sexual dysfunction in which you won't be able to experience the relief you want because you need the hardcore visual fantasy. Be cautious and be wise. You sound like a smart young man to even be on this forum at your age. Don't get hooked to porn...trust me...there are consequences just like any other addiction.

[masterchief]

There are men, many men apparently who simply quit wanting or responding to sexual interaction with the woman in their lives.

I don't see that. Just about everything you read (other than this forum) put a much higher rate of frustrated men in relationships than women. This is reflected in any talk of real life situations of people around too.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Masterchief, where do you seriously see that?

There are what, sorry guys, 12, 4 regluar men, yes they are frustrated but 1000 women are members and they are having trouble..

I suggest you go back 2 years and re-read...

Yes men are losing, but so are women so is it, that they are not communicating with each other, working it out trying?

CW