[masterchief]

From what I've read, what often comes into play with rape fantasy is a desire to be able to let go sexually without being responsible for doing so. Basically it allows doing something you are inhibited against.

Same logic that's applied to submissives in BDSM, handing over all responsibility takes away guilt and inhibitions.

[lonestar]

yes. I've told him word for word what my fantasies are and he says that he's not rough when it comes to sex.

[Kallygirlie]

I peronsally think its normal. It's a fantasy. I have these aswell. I do not believe tho, you would want it to actually happen (raped by a stranger against your will). I had an ex that did rape me, against my will. Yet with my fiance, we fantasies about this alot. I've told him I want him to fight for it, even if I tell him no, I want him to take it. Now you have to be careful with this tho because you dont want it to turn in to you seriously feeling violated because you told him no. My fiance and I have a code word that we would NEVER use during sex but if one of us uses it, we know to stop. these things are fun if both parties enjoy it.

[WildChild]

I peronsally think its normal. It's a fantasy. I have these aswell. I do not believe tho, you would want it to actually happen (raped by a stranger against your will). I had an ex that did rape me, against my will. Yet with my fiance, we fantasies about this alot. I've told him I want him to fight for it, even if I tell him no, I want him to take it.

Kally do you think some of this is about owning the experience?

[Jimbeau]

Wanting your boyfriend to go crazy on you and a stranger rape fantasy are two different things. My S/O loves when I do the former because she likes knowing that she can make me so wild I lose control. I think many women find that a turn-on.

[barry dawson]

interesting...

[Tiptopshape]

If you fantasize about it, then it means you really desire to experience that kind of sex. Ask your partner to do an experiment about it...pretend he's a stranger by blindfolding you and doing rough sex with you. See if you both like it...