[horologium]

I'm 19 and am basically the opposite of a sexual being. Although I prefer men on the basis of looks, I've never been sexually attracted to anyone and have never desired sex, ever.

So, I've come to terms with the fact that I'm most likely asexual and there's nothing I can do about it. However, through researching the asexual community online, I've found I'm a rather rare breed in the fact that I am incapable of being aroused and I have no physical sensation anywhere. Whatsoever. (I've attempted masturbating, obviously, though not out of sexual desire. Just to see what everyone was talking about.) I mean, I can feel being touched on my clit or something going into my vagina, but it's no different than if I, say, touched my arm. You realize someone's touching your arm, but you're obviously not going to derive any sexual pleasure out of it. I thought perhaps manual stimulation wasn't enough, or that I was doing it incorrectly, so I bought a vibrator. Got nothing out of it. Bought a different one. Got nothing out of it. Bought another that provides a -very- intense vibration... nothing. I derive absolutely zero pleasure. If anything, I can feel temporary throbbing from blood flow, but that's it.

So, what exactly is the deal? I've had my hormones checked, and they're normal. I can't find anything like this online... most posts are just people complaining about not having orgasms :P I was not sexually abused, and I don't feel my home environment was particularly disapproving of sex. I'm really quite baffled. I did go to a gynecologist, but she had no answers.

[shweedart]

Well your first problem is that you masturbate 'just to see' and not because you want to. Have you read eroric stories? Watched porn? Anything along those lines and been turned on?

And yeah, out of context, touching your clit or anything like that will feel the same as touching your arm. You dont get aroused when washing your bits in the shower (well I dont anyway)

Masturbating or feeling sexual isn't always about physical contact. The best thing going for you is your imagination.

Before I met my bf...all of my ex's were good looking, kind...but I wasnt in anyway sexually or physically attracted to them...I loved kissing and huggin but the thought of them tiuching me put me off wanting to see them! When I met my bf I decided I wasnt gonna be a 'fraidey cat and bite the bullet...best thing I ever done!

[horologium]

No, as I mentioned before, I have never been turned on by anything. I have no sex drive, no ability to be aroused, nada.

[Gigi007]

Wow, this is ... interesting. Do you feel your life is incomplete or lacking because of lack of sex drive? Obviously this would be something that would hinder a relationship... You mentioned that you can feel temporary throbbing from blood flow; maybe your body IS getting aroused, maybe you're not feeling it? I really don't know... Sorry that I really didn't provide really any useful information.

[horologium]

Mm, to be honest, I think if sex didn't exist, I really wouldn't care since it's not part of my life anyway and has never been. It's really only a problem in the fact that basically every other person does have an interest, and I don't. It's difficult to relate to people sometimes because I can't possibly understand what desiring a relationship or sex is like, and I can never contribute to conversations about "who's hot" because I simply don't think that way about people.

Although I don't have a strong interest in relationships, I'm definitely disinclined to even try because most people would obviously expect sexual reciprocation, and I wouldn't want to disappoint them in this regard. I think if I were able to at least feel, I'd be willing to attempt a relationship even without the sexual desire, but... doesn't seem to be the case :P

[teenie]

I think everyone is normal. You might be like this forever, or not. Either how, there's nothing wrong with you ata ll. If you WANT a relationship- look out there for like minded people. There are some other asexuals out there (granted not a high percentage but there's billions of people on this planet!). Think of how well you would get along with them? Just don't go after someone with a libido at all, or it will end in tears. Good luck!

[WildChild]

Are you emotionally disconnected in other ways?
Are there things you really love? Delight in? Anticipate and thrill to?

[jessysmithpoo]

Mm, to be honest, I think if sex didn't exist, I really wouldn't care since it's not part of my life anyway and has never been. It's really only a problem in the fact that basically every other person does have an interest, and I don't. It's difficult to relate to people sometimes because I can't possibly understand what desiring a relationship or sex is like, and I can never contribute to conversations about "who's hot" because I simply don't think that way about people.

Although I don't have a strong interest in relationships, I'm definitely disinclined to even try because most people would obviously expect sexual reciprocation, and I wouldn't want to disappoint them in this regard. I think if I were able to at least feel, I'd be willing to attempt a relationship even without the sexual desire, but... doesn't seem to be the case :P

hey. i feel the same. but know what: i don't really care. there are so much more things out in the world and sex to me is just something i don't need. so what? life is beautiful without it too.

[ItsASecret]

I sort of feel the same way sometimes but I consider myself a sort of "bi polar" when it comes to sex. I could care less about it some days, he can touch rub and poke any part of me and I will just stare at the tv zoned out and other days I will get wet the instant he touches me. I get no pleasure from daily activities though. Everything is too routine to bother. Get up, drink coffee, go to school, talk to no one because I do not want to talk, come home, eat, go to bed. Masturbating is pretty much the same as you. It is the equivalent of touching my arm but I do it anyway because my bf says I should be getting pleasure out of my days in that manner. I do not, it is boring, and I have no fantasies...no spouts of pleasure when thinking about sex.