[Ashlee T.]

So I understand why he is frustrated, I just wish I could fix it.

You've been having sex for at most a month, give it some time. There's totally no need to feel frustration at this point and I honestly believe that you wouldn't feel this way if he weren't being such a baby about it. Unless he's just abnormally large, it WILL get easier and eventually you'll probably be able to be on top comfortably. He's being impatient and critical, and it's going to give you a "complex" of insecurity that you may never overcome with him.

[Casey715]

He is saying there is something wrong with you, because he doesn't want there to be something wrong with himself. I was the same way. Did I say it was good with another girl, nooooooo, but still, I felt it had to be her. It could not be me. It was good for the other girl. Therefor, it must be you. Hey, I was young. Like sourpuss HD and WC said, talk to him. Tell him its not a race. But be kind to his feelings if you can. And do try to keep a straight face when you tell him he is doing it all wrong. lol He will be really happy when you say, "Let me show you." Have fun em393

[stressed]

He knows he doesn't satisfy you so instead of admitting he's bad at it he uses his ex as a backup for his performance (which may not even be true). A classic jerk/defensive move to save his ego. He's the one who needs to improve.

[WildChild]

The two of you need to work together on this. He may not be a jerk so much as nervous and a bit insecure. Can you make it fun? Get some laughter going?

[em393]

Yeah but how am I not part of the problem when I am the one who has stopped things a few times once it starts to get intense. It also occurred to me today that he just might have been confused. The time we had sex before the most recent (which is when this conversation happened) I let him go in all the way because I was kind of drunk so it didn't hurt as much and he came inside of me (am on birth control). So this last time he went slow in the beginning but once it started to get fast we had to stop because it was too painful. So maybe he was just like WTF bc the time before it was good. His penis isn't that thick but its really long when he's hard and I'm pretty petite so maybe this will be a problem. I've only been with one other guy so this is why I need some feedback.