[Ashlee T.]

I think your guy has a sexual dysfunction (mental...) that has nothing to do with you, or with other females that were in his life previously. Clearly, if all it took was his girlfriend using a toy to cause him to "lose" his self confidence, then he really had none to begin with.

You're obviously not like these other women he tells you about (if fact were known, they probably aren't at all like he has described them), and your bf knows you're not like them......so why does he still insist on withholding himself from you in this way? See....it makes no sense.

I think he's using this as an excuse for something that is a MUCH deeper issue. And I think that one day, you're going to stop buying into this excuse, and you're going to be very resentful that you've spent years of your life with this person and countless hours researching and pondering this issue that's really not even the issue.

[ItsASecret]

Assuming or being pretty sure doesn't confirm. LOL I know you know that. I just wonder why I've never seen any clarification on that. I do get annoyed with "studies" or "research" that fails to report in a manner that is clear.

There is no confirmation in "the clitoris has 8000 nerve endings" either. They say clitoris, so everyone assumes it is just the small visible portion (which I admit to assuming as well) but anyone who knows what the clitoris is will know that it continues beyond the tiny portion that is seen on the exterior, so are they counting the entire defined clitoris or just the visible portion? I do not know what the answer to that is either unless they start blabbering on in the report about anatomy. No idea why a study would not report where they are counting from, usually that is in the methods section of the report, unless it is a quick blurb on some online thing that needs to get to the point with readers so they just say "clitoris" or "penis" lol. They could be focusing on one single type of nerve (or receptor that leads into the nerve) that may be present on the clitoris, which they assume readers would be familiar with if they are even reading the report, so they leave out the part saying "we collected the data from this area". I am curious though if you really did not find anything relating to some type of clarification...may have to search through my big books in my closet to find an answer lol.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I personally despise these type of articles.



"After a guy Comes hes useless.."

"Its easy to pleasure a guy"

"Men's masturbation is the same and boring, us women are more Interesting"

"Vibrator to us is what porn is to men"

"Vibrators and Many toys are best for Women"

"Men are jealous of our Vibrators"

"Vibrators and Toys like Rabbit are the best!!!"


Either these ladies that wrote this are "men haters" because their men were caught watching porn or, have no comprehension what so ever, of how to please a man, therefore, use vibrators and even make suggestions of which ones are better...

Mind you you elaborated on your terminology on each quotation, I assume they had their own?

Simply put, the art of seduction, passion, bonding, soul searching, finding, is a joint effort.

Both a man and a female can be left out, in non understanding of the above and miss out on the joys of the above...

If these women are claiming a vibrator is better, you can bet your bottom dollar all they ever did was a 5 minute suck and tug, he entered, came and so, they derived that men are useless creatures.. That is what they are saying...

Yet, I bet, the many things you pointed out, they didn't even know, including anal stimulation, nor would they even go there, as they would relate it to porn...

But, keep in mind that, on the same accord, the men they are describing as being "useless, dildo's are better, try a rabbit", probably didn't understand a female's body either, or how to bring her to the end of the earth in an intimate way that was meaningful...

Lastly HD has pointed out something very valid, she is all for ensuring her man is fully pleased in every shape and form.. And, WC is pointing out be careful what you search and view as gospel..

My only concern is that you feel it's "you" and your not understanding enough or doing enough to please your man, as he has a problem with toys when it is his past that is his problem..

It's one thing to gain more information to be more understanding and loving and intimate another to think your wrong, it has to be you... Just keep that in mind and keep learning it's a good thing if a woman can learn to let go of her inhibitions but remember, it ALWAYS has to be respected by her man, in a loving way...

We give because we love and because we understand that bond... Not to try to be better than anyone else was, or to be perfect for a man, if that man can not see the effort and can not respect it, and can not love us as we are and admire the effort and give it back in return...

CW