[stressed]

So he basically has no idea how to treat a real woman, you're his first 'real' relationship. You have to teach him everything about women and relationships, even about men and how frequent masturbation and porn can affect a man's sexual performance. Do you think you have the patience to go through this? I wouldn't recommend it and it's far from certain that you will succeed.

It's not your fault, you just got together with a man who is inexperienced with real women and very experienced with fantasies and looking at boobs on a screen.

Welcome to the club......

[ilovhr]

To me it appears that your bf is a good lover but suffering from some stress condition that he is not sharing with you. Unless a guy is very religious and does not love the girl I don't see any reason why he should not be engaging in the foreplay initiated by you. Also check with him how he is educating himself on sex matters. Forums like this and other online reads are a great deal of turn on for men, he must spend some time daily to educate himself and ready to experiment.

[Sumerain]

best way to deal with a boyfriend who may be asexual?

so i had posted a thread a while back about my boyfriend who wasnt' very sexual with me . he loves to cuddle , kiss, hug ..etc and is very romantic but he has a low los sex drive. After alot of reasearch i have come to the conclusion that he is asexual.. i ve talked to him about this but he is in denial and claims out sex life will improve . He just doesn't understand why the lack of sexual attention bothers me so much just as i don't understand why he doesnt want any.
its wierd like he will have sex with me ...to make me happy and satisfy my needs but he just lacks the desire to .
how should i deal with this? i love him sooooo much and would never leave him . and im not the kinda girl to have sex with any random guy ....to me its about closeness ....
advise please

[jns]

Guys usually don't change. Are you OK with a almost sexless relationship?

[Yamimi]

Ugh, I have the same exact issue with my boyfriend at the moment, and so far the responses here are better than the ones I got in my thread Lol

[Sumerain]

yamimi, how are you dealing with your situation? ive talked to my man and he claims he is not asexual and that our sex life will get better but i kinda wonder if thats because the longer we are in a relationship the less sex he thinks I'll want to have ? i don't know . all i know is that id rather give up something i want and need for all of the things i love and if he will be willing to father a child to me all the better and so far he tells me he will.
yes sex is important but its not everything and most of the time doesn't bother me and when it does ..he's pretty good about um ya know puttin out ...just not the same as a man who wants sex alot i guess