[e.s]

I have been with my current boyfriend for about 5 months now and he has never gone down on me, i always make an effort to go down on him and really enjoy it !
we have talked lightly before about previous sexual experiences and he has stated about how he hasnt liked or has been put off by a girl who didnt want to go down on him, and he has even acknowledged that he hasnt gone down on me.
i am aware that his previous girlfriend before me used to put pressure on him for oral sex all the time, maybe this has put him off ?
i dont want to be insensitive but im gettin frustrated!!

[jns]

I have been with my current boyfriend for about 5 months now and he has never gone down on me, i always make an effort to go down on him and really enjoy it !
we have talked lightly before about previous sexual experiences and he has stated about how he hasnt liked or has been put off by a girl who didnt want to go down on him, and he has even acknowledged that he hasnt gone down on me.
i am aware that his previous girlfriend before me used to put pressure on him for oral sex all the time, maybe this has put him off ?
i dont want to be insensitive but im gettin frustrated!!

Like you, I don't get it, and I am a guy. For me, oral sex on a girl is just about the most fun I can have. IMHO he is being insensitive and self centered.

[Guest]

Return the favor, don't go down on him..

[ilovhr]

I can't imagine a person enjoying it and not returning favor. You should talk it straight and let him starve for some time. Sex is give and take in all forms be it oral or else ...foreplay breaks all barrier and brings couple closure.

[rcoreyus]

Very common (for both genders). Some people just don't want to do it.

[Texinator]

Lots of guys are too 'penis-centric' and think that just because their tongue isn't connected to their privates means there is no point in going down on a woman. Or paying attention to her during intercourse. Or go for foreplay before that.

Though sexual selfishness is not exclusive to men either.

[budd]

Tell him he doesn't get it till you get it first.

[WildChild]

I have been with my current boyfriend for about 5 months now and he has never gone down on me, i always make an effort to go down on him and really enjoy it !
we have talked lightly before about previous sexual experiences and he has stated about how he hasnt liked or has been put off by a girl who didnt want to go down on him, and he has even acknowledged that he hasnt gone down on me.
i am aware that his previous girlfriend before me used to put pressure on him for oral sex all the time, maybe this has put him off ?
i dont want to be insensitive but im gettin frustrated!!

Tex may have it nailed. Penis centric men. I've known many of them. I've never cum from oral but still enjoy it. For me it's about balance.

Does he do other things to pleasure you? Does he show you that you count for something more than getting him off? Point out to him that what any other women did or didn't do has Nothing to do with you. If you let him get down that path you will never be accepted for who you are and will spend the relationship in the ex's shadow. That is a cold place to be. Take it from an older woman who has been there several times, you are probably going to have to be insensitive to get this dealt with. Men in general don't get hints, don't get it that you are being "nice" or "sensitive", if you tollerate it, they will generally think its all hunky dory. If you let it ride and try to deal with it later he will be defensive and indignant and think that there must be somthing else because HE wouldn't have put up with it that long without saying anything. (of course some men do but still may not understand that you would).

Increasingly I'm seeing that it isn't that you get what you give. You get what you are willing to accept or put up with.

[e.s]

thanks for the advice guys...
take all on board !
it just seems like he isnt interested in me at all and its kind of makin me feel unattractive to him..
its so annoying because hes perfect in every other way, im so attracted to him, he is such a genuine guy and he really is a nice person...
its just things seem to falter in the bedroom..
he doesnt really touch me at all he just seems to want to have sex straight away and then have me finish him off with a bj..

i know i need to say something but im being such a wimp and keep putting it off...

[kristalyn_04]

You have to be assertive to get what you need/want/deserve. Many men can be nice, caring, giving individuals in every way except when it comes to the sex. Do a site search, you will find many MANY women (and men) having the same issue with their SO. Too many men seem to think that their penis is the only thing that matters in the bedroom, and perhaps your guy just needs to be reminded that sex is about the both of you, not just him. Only open and honest communication can fix the issue and it can't hurt, so try that and let us know how it goes.