[Hopeless Dork]

You're in a real bad spot because since he's made reservations about going to down on you... for me it would make me really insecure when he did it -- like he was doing something he hated. Part of what makes my bf going down on me so enjoyable is knowing how excited it makes him to be playing with me there. I'm sure your like me, and most women in that you want to feel desired, wanted.. like your guy can't get enough of you... and when a guy goes down on you, its such a selfless act, its all about your pleasure, and even more of a bonus when they love the pword enough to want to have it in their face like that.

Sometimes I wonder if guys that don't go down even like vagina. I know for me I think chicks bodies are hot, I'm attracted to lots of women... but I could never imagine going down on one...but i day dream about going down on my guy most days of the week.. because I love the penis.. his penis in particular. I've always wondered if guys that won't touch or go down are just selfish... or their really not that fond of what girls have between their legs except for as a place to put their penis to get off.

[Colorado]

Wow, this is always a mind-blower to me...
I can't even imagine that a guy would not want to provide oral to his lady.
Seriously, if for some odd reason, she wouldn't let me do that, I don't know what I would do.

It's a staple for me (I can't remember the last time we has sex, that I didn't go down on her) - I seriously can't get enough of it. It's not a chore, its a pleasure for me as well as her!

I have to wonder if HD is right - maybe he really doesn't like Vag. or has a serious hang-up from childhood or other beliefs that it's somehow dirty? or seriously selfish?

[kristalyn_04]

It seems to be quite common. I had this issue with my FWB... he had some sort of hang-up about going down on me. He wouldn't do it because he said he wasn't ready for that yet, he needed to be more comfortable with me before going there. 2.5 months later, he still hasn't done it, yet he would ask for a BJ from me quite often. I tried to talk to him with no results. Honestly, if a guy has a problem with it in the beginning, that's probably not going to change. Luckily for me it's easy to get rid of a FWB because there's no commitment, not so easy if it's a LT relationship or a marriage. In that case, I really don't know what the answer is.

[jaydg]

I LOVE going down on my wife. Partly, because I really enjoy tasting her and making her go crazy with my tongue and mouth, but also just seeing her smiling and looking pleased makes me feel so manly. I'd go down on her every day if she'd let me, but she seems to need a break here and there Bottom line, tell him it's really important to you. If he still doesn't take your needs seriously, you have to find someone who will. Now if you'll excuse me, this thread has inspired me and I'm going to go upstairs and enjoy my wife's beautiful flower Yummy!!!

[Texinator]

my FWB... he had some sort of hang-up about going down on me. He wouldn't do it because he said he wasn't ready for that yet, he needed to be more comfortable with me before going there. 2.5 months later, he still hasn't done it, yet he would ask for a BJ from me quite often.(

So what's the difference? Why does he think you need to be ready to give him oral and yet it's perfectly alright for him not to be ready to return the favor?

[WildChild]

So what's the difference? Why does he think you need to be ready to give him oral and yet it's perfectly alright for him not to be ready to return the favor?

This is a VERY common malady.

[clumsygirl]

it is simple theory: he does love you at all. if anyone falls in love with anyone else, he/she must fall in do anything for other.

kick him offffffff, and find another one

[kristalyn_04]

So what's the difference? Why does he think you need to be ready to give him oral and yet it's perfectly alright for him not to be ready to return the favor?

I really don't understand his logic, so I really don't know. But, notice I used past tense, meaning I'm not hooking up with him anymore, because I really don't want to deal with this. The whole reason I got into a casual FWB situation was to get my sexual needs met without any strings attached, and that wasn't happening so... yeah. But I don't want to hijack the thread here, so let's get back to the OP's issue.

[tinycit]

There's something I've never understood, why any guy would not want to do oral. My husband loves it. Says I taste like sugar water. So do other women not taste good? Not bathe? Or do some guys have severe hangups or what?

[Hopeless Dork]

There's something I've never understood, why any guy would not want to do oral. My husband loves it. Says I taste like sugar water. So do other women not taste good? Not bathe? Or do some guys have severe hangups or what?

Guys will say that you taste like honey, sugar water, peaches and cream -- maybe you do, but likely you don't... taste yourself and see Its just there way of saying they love your taste. I've tasted myself and its pretty dang neutral with a hint of a sweetness -- I am extremely hygeinic -- but it doesn't taste like koolaid... more like bland water with a hint of sugar.

Diet and things like that can affect our taste as much as it does the taste of mens bioproducts :P There are some women that may have yeast or other infections, may not have bathed recently, don't wipe properly or something else that cause them to taste foul but the majority of guys that don't do it just probably have those severe hang ups you mention.