[kristalyn_04]

Why can't guys just say that they're not comfortable doing it instead of telling women that they taste bad when they don't? That's just a mean thing to say to someone and makes them feel bad about themselves, and sometimes can have lasting effects.

[rcoreyus]

I think that a lot of people don't want to do certain sex acts, and don't really know why. Since I like giving oral, I don't personally see what the problem is, but some men and women just don't want to do it. My wife wife said it made her gag (though she didn't seem to on the rare occasion when she did it), then eventually just said she didn't like it.

Maybe some people find it conceptually disgusting? I'm not sure they know themselves.

[Guest]

Wow, why would you ever give him a bj if he won't go downtown on you. Use your power, tell him no more sex until he brings you to a climax with his tongue, period. Just make sure to bath first so you are clean. You will be doing him a favor in that you won't leave him after 15 years of marriage when you figure out what you have been missing. There is a great book out every man should read about turning on a woman. Written by a woman Dr., sorry cannot remember her name though.

[ManINeedACoffee]

This is a VERY common malady.

Unfortunately, you are very right.

[Mitchel1870]

Unfortunately it is a common malady on both sides. My wife (of 15+ years) thinks it is degrading to give me oral sex and does not allow me to do it to her (even though I beg for both). I think it shows that your lover is selfish and I doubt it will change for you. You need to decide if it is a big item for you or not, the sooner you do the better off you will be with how you decide. I can not understand a lover that does not want to make the other feel exquisite pleasure. If you truly loved someone would you not want to make them feel such pleasure?

[WildChild]

Wow, why would you ever give him a bj if he won't go downtown on you. Use your power, tell him no more sex until he brings you to a climax with his tongue, period. Just make sure to bath first so you are clean. You will be doing him a favor in that you won't leave him after 15 years of marriage when you figure out what you have been missing. There is a great book out every man should read about turning on a woman. Written by a woman Dr., sorry cannot remember her name though.

Well find out and add it to the Books on Sex thread!

[Bubba J]

I'm honestly surprised to see all the comments that suggest using sex as a weapon. When women say they don't like oral sex on their partner, fellows are expected to back off and yet when it's the other way around it seems like the reaction is very different.

If your partner doesn't like going down on you (which I too don't understand personally at all), that's kind of his perogative. Whether you like going down on him is entirely up to you and him, but I would not suggest using it as a weapon to get what you want. Better to find another relationship than to descend into that pit, even momentarily.

[Guest]

Bubba: for gods sake, no one is using sex as a weapon. Withholding oral until they do oral is just common sense. Geez!!

[WildChild]

Got to agree with Phil here. I was giving bjs just about everytime I saw the man, never got any touching or affection, got a quickie a couple times a month (maybe) and that was it for me. I quit doing bjs and that was the end pretty much. If you want to receive you have to be willing to give, doesn't have to be *** for tat but it does need to balance.