[CHANDLERS WISH]

especially if his reactions good

Take that totally out of your mind, the negative part of "if".....

What man in their right mind isn't going to enjoy seeing anything sexy from his lady?

Affirmation:- "His reaction is going to be great", repeat this to yourself over and over and over and watch the confidence, stream through

[Guest]

Could your expectatons be set too high? IN your mind, are you setting yourself up for failure? Isn't this the man that loves you? What is it about yourself being naked that make you lose confidence? Or do you lack self confidence all of the time?

A strip tease is probably one of the oldest and most basic forms of visual excitement known to men. Any of us with eyes in their sockets and a brain in their head will tell the woman we love that a strip tease is a turn on...If it isn't, then he's brain dead! Call the morgue...

What, on a basic, just gettin' started level, could be more exciting then watching the woman we love undress in a sensual sexy way, s-l-o-w-l-y, for us? It's fliipin' hot!
I'm telling you. If you are still lacking enough self confidence to pull this off do one or both of two things; A) Think of it as undressing only much slower.... You dress and undress almost everyday right? Got confidence in your ability to do that? Of course you do. Ever dress or undress in front of the man who loves you? Of course you do. This doesn't have to be any different. B) PRACTICE...take some extra outfits into the bathroom with you in the morning for after your shower...put them on...Now stand in front of the mirror...turn around, the mirror has now become your man...."fog" up the mirror so to speak. As you unhook your bra, look over your shoulder at the mirror/man, how do you look? Make changes as necessary. Drop the bra one cup at a time offer the mirror your breasts...how do you look?

Same thing for the bottoms....take your time...entertain the mirror...check to see how you look in the mirror...sexy enough? If you don't think so, make slight changes.

YOU WILL turn your man on.

Enjoy yourself! He's going to!

[Guest]

Meg,

Remember one thing:

Where women see bumps, bulges, scars and stretch marks, the men who love them see nothing but curves

[Meg :)]

CW Saying that to myself could be a good idea, I've used things like that before and its worked but I never thought to apply it to this

Seeker_Advice.. You've made me smile so much, especially the call the morgue comment..
I don't have much confidence in just everyday life and the minute I'm naked I start worrying about how I look so yes I probably have set myself up for failure in my mind..silly me.

I think I'll give both of those ideas a go, the first one made me laugh because I suppose thats all it really is lol. As for the second it's a really good idea, I went out today and bought some new underwear that I know he'll love so I might give it a go in them and some other underwear I know he likes. I really do think he'll love the strip tease, he always says how much he loves my body so showcasing it like this could be really good and I think once I get over the feeling of being silly by doing it for a mirror it could actually really boost my confidence having the extra practise

And I absolutely love the little saying, reading it made me feel better, I think I'm going to have to write it down as a little pick me up line, thank you so much

[Texasred]

Texasred your definitely right where you say it'd take my mind off things and thats a very good thing in my case because i tend to over stress about things lol. Oh and I asked him last night after posting on here what he would find sexy and he said he'd like it if I went up to his room and just waited on his bed in my underwear for him or something else like that.

Well, there you go!

...And I too struggle getting his pants undone...

Do this: go through his clothes and find a pair of pants that you CAN easily get undone. No belt, eh? Or some really simple belt. (I know what you mean: my gf sometimes struggles with my belt, then gives up!)
Before you go upstairs to wait for him, tell him to wear those pants.
Believe me, he'll appreciate all the effort you've put into this.
Have fun!
- TR

[skirt99]

Heels and undies are great but before all that I think a bit more makeup than usual and a short skirt will help you get the party started.