[Texasred]

Go and jump in that bed and have fun. Don't stop until you're satisfied.

By that time, I'll be there by myself...

[kristalyn_04]

Talking to her is something I tried a long time ago - a year ago; didn't get anywhere, didn't resolve anything. We talked and talked, but nothing changed,


Going to try the roll over/go to sleep thing. With luck I'll be asleep before she gets to the bedroom.
Thanks y'all.

Oh... sorry we posted at the same time. Well, I really don't know what the immediate solution is other than to just tell her you're not in the mood.

[Texasred]

You're only stuck with it if you choose to be stuck with it. Again, have you tried talking to her about this?

Talked myself hoarse. Talk requires someone to listen.

[JustHormonious]

If she's had some drinks, tonight might be the night...

[Texasred]

Oh... sorry we posted at the same time. Well, I really don't know what the immediate solution is other than to just tell her you're not in the mood.

Yep, that's it. Hard to explain not being "in the mood" after a 4 + month dry spell...
Not going to try to explain though. I'm just tired of it. "Wore out," as we say around here.

[kristalyn_04]

Ok, well there's a short-term solution. But, what about a long-term solution? Have you tried counseling? Seriously... don't you deserve to be happy in your marriage? What were things like in the beginning? I can't imagine it was like this or you probably wouldn't have married her.

[Texasred]

You're only stuck with it if you choose to be stuck with it. Again, have you tried talking to her about this?

Yep, we talked ad nauseum.
Time for me to turn out the lights!
Night y'all; thanks for the thoughts.
- TR

[jns]

I would say be the bigger person and give her what she wants. Don't play games back. Or leave, if you feel that strongly. I doubt she will get any of your lessons.

[JustHormonious]

I guess my thought on the matter was when intimacy becomes a *** for tat no one wins. What's left? I will never personally understand how a wife can allow herself to become so closed off that sex with her husband is not wanted or needed. No answers here I guess, I've never experienced this type of relationship.

[WildChild]

TRed I know there is more to your story and I understand why you would prefer not to get into this. Can you simply say that you aren't feeling well, are tired and need to sleep?
What do you think is up with her wanting to actually sleep in your bed with you? That sounds different.