[jlwelch]

Hello everyone. My girlfriend is truly awesome, and when we have sex I like to do what I can to make her ejaculate. I've given her oral and I know where to find the clitoris and G-spot. However, even though she has orgasms, she doesn't get the full ejaculate release that my previous gf did. I haven't brought this up with her obviously as I'm sure she doesn't care to hear about my past sex life before her, but I really want to maximize her pleasure. I've read online that some women simply are not able to come at all. Is this true? Is it that some women out there can and others cannot or is it simply a challenge to achieve? I'd like to think all women are capable of it but maybe require a different approach or something.

[ItsASecret]

I've read online that some women simply are not able to come at all. Is this true?

It is more of a random thing. Even those women who can ejaculate may not be able to each and every single time. Sometimes those who never did before will suddenly have it happen and when they try again it does not happen again. It is better not to think that ejaculation equals the utmost amount of pleasure because it is not. It is an accumulation of just feeling good while receiving oral or touches that makes the orgasm feel good. If she is not concerned about it then I would say just leave things as is and if she ejaculates then great but do not become overly obsessed just because another girl did it once before.

[Guest]

Well i've never been able to do that, in fact i never believed it could really happen, but i've seen others on here say they can, so i guess i'll believe they can, i just can't, so maybe she's like me.. That doesn't mean i don't have orgasms because i do, i just don't ejaculate..

[jlwelch]

Well i've never been able to do that, in fact i never believed it could really happen, but i've seen others on here say they can, so i guess i'll believe they can, i just can't, so maybe she's like me.. That doesn't mean i don't have orgasms because i do, i just don't ejaculate..

It is better not to think that ejaculation equals the utmost amount of pleasure because it is not.

Thank you both very much. That actually is very enlightening. I guess being a guy I have been operating under the assumption that ejaculation accompanies the greatest pleasure and I did not want for her to be missing out.

[Guest]

All she's missing out on is wet sheets, haha..

[LanaBear]

You can't make her squirt. You can work towards a goal, but don't solely focus on that.

Try different types of stimulation, different amounts of pressure, different techniques, etc. The main thing is that she's got to be on board. Fully relaxed and be willing to open up in a way she's never done so before. It's a very heady experience, IMO. With that said, not all women can achieve it. For some, they've always been able to do it, for others, it had to be worked towards (that was me) and for the rest, it just doesn't happen.

Pick up a couple of books. Two that I recommend are:

Unleashing Her G-Spot Orgasm : A Simple, Step-by-Step Guide to Achieving Ultimate Sexual Ecstasy by: Donald L. Hicks
and
Female Ejaculation : Unleash the Ultimate G-Spot Orgasm by: Somraj Pokras, Jeffre Talltrees

[WildChild]

Not all women squirt, some gush. Not all women are comfortable with gspot stimulation. Reading and learning more is a good idea. Why not read it with her and see what sounds like fun to both of you?

Lana, why not add those to the book thread?

[carmen_rose]

Personally i think it has to do more with 'concerntration'- what your doing is important yes, but she needs to be truly comfortable and involved! if that makes sense?
but yeah.... female ejaculation= wet sheets which can often be pretty awkward for the girl!

[eagertosee]

Hi jlwelch! I`ve known some 30 women in the course of my sexual life. Only one - it was my first experience - never had an orgasm and I`m the one to blame in hindsight. All the others did brought about by all sorts of stimulation. I never thought female ejaculation really existed, until I experienced it once - a very short one day affaire. It was incredible, the most intense orgasm I ever witnessed. It is quite messy, indeed and I wasn`t sure I realy liked it. But nontheless, all the other women were very content, too and enjoyed their orgasms just as much. I also noticed that the woman that ejaculated could only come once, then she was exhausted, while with many others it was normal to have between 10 and 20 orgasm in a row. That`s not exaggerating. I personally found that women felt more at ease after 10 "dry" orgasms than the one with only one wet one...

[LanaBear]

Lana, why not add those to the book thread?

Good idea! I will go do that.

I also noticed that the woman that ejaculated could only come once, then she was exhausted, while with many others it was normal to have between 10 and 20 orgasm in a row. That`s not exaggerating. I personally found that women felt more at ease after 10 "dry" orgasms than the one with only one wet one...

That is definitely not the case with all, thank goodness. I'm multi orgasmic, whether it be an ejaculatory orgasm or not.