[sarahlee20]

I agree with WC. I think different ways to show her how much you like her, love her, etc...Make her dinner. Set up a date night with activities (outside and inside) the bedroom. Give her a card and flowers for no reason telling her how you feel. Go for a walk. Simple and kind efforts go a very long way

I agree with that. I like when my SO does things romantic for me. To me it's the small things and simple things that counts...

[PandaPaws]

You probably already do this but my biggest turn-on is feeling like my man reeeeeally wants me. So for me it's someting like pushing me up against the wall and kissing me like crazy as soon as he walks in the door because he can't wait to get to the bedroom before being inside me

Yes! That is the best! Feeling so irresistable, he just can't WAIT to get his hands on you!

I love it when my guy is really into it. Passionately kissing me all over, literally from head to toes I like it when he teases, and then goes all out on me, teases, etc. I love the tying up stuff too, a lot. I love it when he tells me I'm sexy, beautiful, loves my body, loves me, etc. You compliment a girl in the bedroom, and I guarantee she's going to get more confidence and be more into the sex! Actually, complimenting and doing things already mentioned, flowers, nice notes, etc helps in the bedroom too, but sounds like you're already doing that!
I also love knowing that I'm pleasing HIM. So, him telling me it feels good, or just clearly displaying he's really enjoying what I'm doing is awesome and makes get more into it too.

I really wouldn't be so concerned about it though. I mean it's great you're looking for ideas/suggestions, and variety is good. But, sometimes repeating things isn't such a bad thing There are some positions I would be happy to do every day! Good luck and have fun

[JadedQueen]

I think the sexiest thing a man can do is hold me close after the love making, treat me with respect all the time and every now and then, breakfast in bed served to me with him wearing nothing but an apron. Of course in order for ALL of this to be perfect and work.... he also has to make sure he cleans up after he prepared me breakfast.

Romance is NEVER a disappointment when you are wondering what to do for your woman.... just knowing that you went out of your way to make things special speaks volumes... how about a wonderful picnic lunch/dinner and afterward.... change of scenery etc....

[cathygirl]

It depends on the day. Some days I want tender sweetness and caring. Other times I want him to talk really nasty to me, pull my hair, and use me for his selfish pleasure. There is no one answer.

[WannaBee]

Ahh, finally a thread I enjoy reading.

I do feel that the threadstarter is somewhat overdoing it a bit, but I applaud his efforts in coaxing out good ideas from the ladies. I'm always interested to read what they replied.

I want to take the oppurtinity to make some advertising for a different thread https://www.womens-health.com/boards...nsights-3.html

Now addressing the actual topic:
Get a book (for what I have in mind I highly recommend The Animals' Conference by E. Kästner). When it's bed time ask her, if she wants to unwrap a gift. Of course she'll want to do that. Surprise, it's the book. Now invite her to curl up and READ it to her.
Girls like that kind of stuff, me to!

[Guest]

Your relationship with her not just not be the thing you do in bed with her. As a woman I can sense how sex alone cannot gratify us and we want something beyond sex. Love and romance must be preceded by sex and if there is no love sex is just a physical or mechanical act and two machines striking each other

[cathygirl]

Yeah, I think the error in this whole line of discussion is the implication that people are like robots, if you push button A you'll get result B. It may (or may not) work that way for the guys, but women don't quite work that way. Maybe it's because our internal mechanisms vary throughout the month, or because we attach emotions to things that are more mechanical for the guys. In any case, there is not one "do this and I'm off to the races" thing I could say "works". It's a matter of relationship. There are things my husband and I do that I would find disgusting and intollerable with someone else, but exciting and wonderful with him.

[WildChild]

Yeah, I think the error in this whole line of discussion is the implication that people are like robots, if you push button A you'll get result B. It may (or may not) work that way for the guys, but women don't quite work that way. Maybe it's because our internal mechanisms vary throughout the month, or because we attach emotions to things that are more mechanical for the guys. In any case, there is not one "do this and I'm off to the races" thing I could say "works". It's a matter of relationship. There are things my husband and I do that I would find disgusting and intollerable with someone else, but exciting and wonderful with him.

I agree with you.
Sexual and sexy are not the same thing.
And sensual is altogether another thing. It lovely when they are all tied together and in a good relationship, I don't think you can really separate them.

[JustHormonious]

In my opinion the sexiest thing a man can do is: Listen.. Very simple and very rewarding for both.

[stressed]

Telling her what you want to do to her... and doing it.