[JRod]

Happy New Year ladies, I haven't posted in a while so here we go. -I'm interested in improving my oral skills and would like some tips. I realize that women are all different and what works for you may not work for another. Any help would be great though. So...fingers/no fingers? Focus on the clit or give attention to the entire vulva? Speed? Pressure? Just whatever really.
-Here's a thing I do with my current and it drives her nuts. In a puckered lips manner, I take her clit in my mouth and gently but rapidly suck while at the same time licking. Does this work for most of you or do you not really? Thanks for the advise!!

[Guest]

Have you done a search or an Advanced Search on the subject yet?

Like everything else about sex in here, this has been talked about a lot.

I think you might find the answers you are looking for if you did a search or two.

[kristalyn_04]

Check out the Clitical Thinking thread in the Lounge:

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/lounge/29454-presenting-texs-clitical-thinking.html

Lots of great info and tips on the subject, and you could also contribute and get some feedback.

[Guest]

Well on your end "scuba gear" is a must..

[Texinator]

Check out the Clitical Thinking thread in the Lounge:

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/lounge/29454-presenting-texs-clitical-thinking.html

Lots of great info and tips on the subject, and you could also contribute and get some feedback.

Yes, yes, the recipe book for giving her oral sex, featuring both techniques and philosophical discussions

[Guest]

there really are no "techniques" the best thing to do is listen to your lady and she will guide you through..

[SSDS]

I completely agree with sidneyalive. Listen and feel for how the person your with responds. Everyone is different. Certain things that I absolutely love at times, like a finger inserted during oral, I don't enjoy at other times. It is all about that exact moment.

[ItsASecret]

What you described JRod would not work on me, soft touching with the tongue gives no effect (even with clit in the mouth)...may as well be touching my elbow. I am not a big fan of oral but when it does feel better than normal it is completely due to the moment. I actually had oral yesterday from my bf and he went in slowly with kisses on my thighs and much slower movements, sometimes he gets so horny that he believes that things like jackhammer fingering and shaking his head vigorously on my clit will be ecstasy....its not. Those same slow movements with slow fingering worked great yesterday it felt much better than usual but he has done the same thing on other days with just as much prior prep kissing and it had no effect whatsoever. It is all the particular mood when receiving oral.

Just listen to her moans, what works today may not work tomorrow. All you can do is listen to any slight signal she may give. If she pulls her hips back away from you then maybe it was too much pressure or it tickles or it even hurts (sucking too long can hurt). If she grabs your head then do not change what you are doing. Pay attention to those types of signals and you will be fine.

[jns]

Just listen to her moans, what works today may not work tomorrow. All you can do is listen to any slight signal she may give. If she pulls her hips back away from you then maybe it was too much pressure or it tickles or it even hurts (sucking too long can hurt). If she grabs your head then do not change what you are doing. Pay attention to those types of signals and you will be fine.

I agree. A lot of times the advice given is to get verbal feedback from the girl. This can be good with those who can articulate what they want and what they are feeling while in the throes of passion, but many cannot clearly articulate at that point and others may not even know what what works. Being able to pick up on body language is very important when pleasuring a girl to orgasm.

I also agree what works today may not work tomorrow. It is not that the girl is bored with the same thing being done time and again, rather that the sensation may not be enough to take her over the edge. That is why it is good to revisit all of the erogenous zones and even zones that aren't classically considered erogenous. Build a toolbox of what has worked in the past and continue to add to it by being innovative.

If she is to orgasm during foreplay, start the foreplay slowly, building the mood and fantasy. Use teasing to build sexual tension, so she is mentally begging to go to the next phase. Introduce specific actions one at a time and don't abandon them until she has gone as far as she can go with them, then go on to the next. Sometimes go back to an earlier action. It may not be able to take her from the beginning to orgasm, but it might be the one that will take her over the top.

[JRod]

Check out the Clitical Thinking thread in the Lounge:

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/lounge/29454-presenting-texs-clitical-thinking.html

Lots of great info and tips on the subject, and you could also contribute and get some feedback.

OMG, I'm SUCH an idiot! I've seen that subject line a dozen times and thought it said "cRitical" and never bothered to read it. Lol.