[mid30male]

Hello ladies and the gentlemen that frequent these threads. I have been a reader for a few months now and just became a member. I have an issue that just bugs the out of me. Perhaps I found the one person that is just not into all her person can do. Perhaps she is not the only one. It seems that 1 orgasm or sexual peak is all she wants or can handle. IF it was up to me I would and can make her orgasm 4 or 5 times every time. I know as the first week or two we were together this was the case. then all of the sudden she seemed scared after that. her words are "I feel like i am losing control of her person" So now after the first one I get the words "its to intense" or " thats enough can't take anymore".......Whats wrong there? I do take my time and stimulate her and make sure shes really turned on. Of course there is oral stimulation of the clitoris which makes her scream a bit. Much after that she's mush and doesn't care for more. I can talk her into more maybe one more via intercourse but its like pulling teeth. Its not that she don't enjoy it she is just SPENT I guess after one.

This is the real kicker. If intercourse is the first in line to cause an orgasm she is really spent. I recently tried oral and then tried to stimulate here "G" spot and she closed her legs and told me basically off limits till she calms down. She wants to calm down before preceeding. Women have to stay worked up to keep them going. Whats wrong with this picture. Every woman I have been with will allow me to give them orgasms all nite and then some. Its my great pleasure to make my loved one be "ALL SHE CAN BE". Anyone else with this prob. Curious to know anyones ideas.

On a side note I am not bragging. I simply don't like being called lazy. So if its climaxes and orgasms women want. That they will get. I guess I should say I put my lover ahead of my own needs.

[ItsASecret]

I know I am spent if I do manage to have an orgasm. That 'too intense' feeling she describes is true for many women including myself. Once the orgasm is done I am far too sensitive to keep going, at least 10-15 minute die down is needed. Forcing more stimulation can actually hurt I know if my bf was like "no I am going to rub you anyway you are supposed to have more orgasms" I would clamp my legs because that intense stimulation is not arousing it is uncomfortable for however long it takes to die down. More orgasms does not equate to a better time, it is quite often that one is plenty and the rest of the lovey dovey stimulation can still come from cuddles and kisses and such. It does not mean more rubbing, more fingering, more pumping, more oral is needed.

[waya]

I like multiples but there does come a point when things are just too sensitive and any more stimulation hurts. Look at it this way, maybe you just give her such intense orgasms she needs to come down for a bit

[Tool]

My Wife likes only one.. Several times she has had more then one but she says there are not as good as the first so she would just rather have one..

[Agony_Aunt]

I agree with ItsASercret.

After one, I rather to just relax then and enjoy the after math. That is not to say that because I could have another orgasm, that I want one.

And as Tool states about his wife. I too personally find that after the first one, they do not seem to be as good. And again with ItsASecret, it can get uncomfortable, as many men don't realise.

For me, personally. "Quality is better than quantity".

[WildChild]

Get a copy of the book, One Hour Orgasm, they explain peaking.That will take care of the "too sensitive or intense" issue. Another good book is Extended Massive Orgasm, they deal with it too. He, ummm, fear of flying, I don't know. Probably a matter of trust?
Who wouldn't want the most intense sexual experience possible? I just can't relate to not wanting it.

[LanaBear]

I do enjoy multiple orgasms, at times it just feels like one big huge gigantic orgasm during the whole session, no peaks and valleys. However, YES, there is such a thing as too much. If I get to the "too much" portion, even if I'm still enjoying myself, my body shuts down. I'm no longer wet and trust me, for me that's a huge sign because generally I'm very very wet. After 45-60 minutes of continuous orgasms, there is only so much my body can take and I have to put a stop to things.

Keep in mind, for many women, it's not about quantity, but rather quality when it comes to sex. I know many guys feel like they are suddenly He-Man by being able to give a woman 5, 6, 7, 8 orgasms, but for us it really isn't that big of a deal. Most times I'd rather have one or two mind blowing, earth shattering, head spinning orgasms, instead of 10 or 15 orgasms that feel great, but not as phenomenal as the one or two we know you are capable of helping us achieve.

[mid30male]

Well that was a very interesting group of responses. Perhaps she can't handle more then one based on the comments. Maybe its just that good. Either way I know she isn't the only one. Thank you for your wisdom and helpful insight.

[alicat]

let me ask you this, when you have an orgasm are you IMMEDIATELY ready for another one?

the clitoris is just as sensitive as the glans of the penis (the penis and clitoris are formed from the same tissues in utero) and intense stimulation can get to be just too much. I usually have multiple orgasms, 5-6 per session, with each one building from the previous one, but once the BIG one is reached then my clitoris simply needs a break. My husband will usually give me a sensual massage stimulating other areas of my body such is the inside of my thighs or he'll touch everywhere except the clitoris. This is also a great time for me to pleasure him and once my insides have settled back down then we can move on to the next session.

every woman is different, but I can tell you that the biggest turn OFF is being pressured into something that is uncomfortable

[Guest]

My wife says that she can have big 3 but no more...she does say, however, that she feels a lot of waves of pleasure during intercourse....I have found though that with the Hitachi Magic Wand, she really loses it.....I can't let her hold my penis, because she hurts me....like I say, she loses control when I estimulate her with the magic wand....when she is done her first big "O", I would lick her vagina...she enjoys it very much....then, little by little I introduce the magic wand again, I give her several minutes worth of waves of pleasure...that is how she describes it....she moves around the beth, moans, scream bit the pillows and blanket, by the time I penetrate her she is full cracy to make love to me like the world is gonna end....which is not the best because she makes me cum rather quickly like that....but she ends up so exausted and finished that I am just so proud ........and don't have to mentioned what it does for you hearing and seeing her enjoy sex so much....all because of you...it it the best.....