[WildChild]

No matter what you decide to do it sounds like he could benefit from therapy. Do encourage him in this.

[Guest]

CM, thats absolutely horrible.

its unacceptable.

you shouldn't accept that kind of behavior, not sexually, not in any other way. here's a question that needs to be asked...how is he other than with sex? is he selfish in other aspects of life? for example, with money, with household chores, with other things? i can almost guarantee that he is.

unfortunately, he won't change if he is. you can talk with him and reason with him, but he is a "broken" man.

i don't know who you are, but everyone deserves respect and love. i'd get the out if i were you.

[prbyjennifer]

I am so sorry to hear your having to go thru this. I think your right in the fact that its time to do some serious sole searching, I myself am in the same sole searching situation in my marriage of only 7 yrs. I am not a Dr. so I cannot and will not give medical advise but in my line of work I deal with this all the time with my clients. I am a consulant for a company who sales lotions, lingerie & bedroom accessories so as you can see allot of what I deal with are clients in your same situation, but not as sever. Is this marrige something your willing to salvage or is it to far gone? If the answer is to far gone, then of course you need to do whats best for you and your mental well being & happiness. IF your willing to salvage the relationship and work on it, then of course there is always councling with or without him it may be something that if your willing to salvage it then bring up as an option. I know there is nothing worse then being in a relationship where you once were cared about and then it just went wrong. When I was young and dumb and thought I knew it all I was married before. We of course grew up and grew apart and it was for the best, but while in that situation I was told " When its gone its gone, but as long as you know that you did everything in your power to make it work and get the help that was needed to salvage what you once had.. then you can walk away.. Don't walk away with regrets or the what if's.. Leave knowing you tried.. " And in the end thats all that matters, b/c it may not work for you guys but you found a wonderful friend, had many many wonderful experiences and times together, and you tried it didn't work so take it and make yourself happy for a change and take what you learned from this one and apply it to the next. "Men are like Microwaves & Women are like crock-pots we need pre heating"!!!! All ladies reading this keep in mind In the female clitoris there are 10,000 nerve endings just in that little area so its no wonder we need foreplay, in the male penis they have total head, shaft & testicals 10,000 nerve endings so its no wonder we all have that 1 stroke joke!!!!! Just a little food for thought

[prbyjennifer]

Unfortunately I have to disagree as with any person male or female there is a chance that someone "broken" can change there behavior.
Now does this statement include Sexual offenders,murders etc.. "NO" to me with that issue there is no hope and I don't care what anyone says they cannot change.
Just my opinion though..