[CHANDLERS WISH]

Honestly?

Somehow (in my opinion) they have that inner "sensuality" which makes the massage more enjoyable, whilst still addings strength where needed....

[Guest]

I wouldn't want to be touched intimately by a man because I was abused by one as a child. To me, a woman's hands are what nature crreated to caress and relax my body in all ways. Yes, you certainly find it very difficult to hide an erection if you are on a Nudist Beach ! But, like I said in another thread, being nude is natural as long as you behave in a natural manner. And that means, if you get a boner, that you don't go waving it in front of the ladies on the beach. You behave discreetly and try not to offend at all times. That goes for a man's behaviour when he's getting a massage from a woman. I have had several massages in the last few months. The one lady massaged my buttocks while I was stark naked face down ( I had a towel to cover my front bits when flip side up) She and I behaved properly at all times. Anything else than that would have been gross!

[Cheese5318]

Thomas, you can really get a massage nude without a sheet covering your butt? I thought you had to cover those areas for massages.

[waya]

Thomas, you can really get a massage nude without a sheet covering your butt? I thought you had to cover those areas for massages.

Depends on state laws

[Guest]

No, not neccesarily. And remember, we don't come under any state laws here. The Lady who did the massage is a qualified Aromatherapy Masseusse and also does Ladies waxing etc. She is very professional. She is quite ok with me naked lying on my front. She knows I have no problem with nudity but she prefers I change when she's out of the room and she prefers to keep the towel over my front groin area when I'm on my back. I understand this. A lot of women are not comfortable with seeing men's bits!
She massages my buttocks because Iplay sport that involves heavy use of these muscles. Like I said, both she and I behave properly at all times. Nudity, wherever or whenever it is practiced is only natural if you behave properly.

[WildChild]

I've had nude massages of my entire body, aside from genitals. Having discussed it with maggage therapists, the covering has more to do with not crossing people's lines and keeping them comfortable, than anything else. People have all sorts of don't touch areas or don't look and if they don't relax the massage isn't much use.


Thomas you bring up a point that many women deal with daily. Having been raped or sexually abused, unless we have an attraction to other women, we are sleeping with the enemy so to speak. Given the numbers, estimated 1/4 of all women (US assume similar numbers there) have experienced this, (1/8 of all men have) we learn to cope. I've brought it up before; if 1 out of 4 women and 1 out of 8 men have been raped or molested, then when you are in crowd you are not only surrounded by victims of this but also by perpetrators. We rarely talk about the perpetrators, mostly men, often unidentified, who surround us in our daily lives. Weird energy.

[Guest]

Good point Wildchild. We men often forget that a lot of girls/ladies have been abused. I can't say that it has done severe damage to me as I I have a very strong personality(if I were to divulge only half of what I went through as a child I'm sure you'd all be shocked!), suffice to say that, although I change with men after sport all the time, I do not like them in my "close zone". The only male who can come close to me is my son. I also get claustrophobic easily. Perhaps this comes from that time when I was abused. On the other hand, women have never harmed me, not physically anyway. And, even if I wasn't like this, I still would find the thought of ejaculating close to a man revolting even by accident !!!!!

[junk2007]

As a guy, I have unintentionally ejacuated a few times during massages. It was a basic massage to relieve back tension and there was no sexually stimulating thoughts or movement on my part at all. The massage therapist wasn't doing anything unusual and I was modest other than lying nude under the covered sheet. It has happened twice to me in the last two years, and it's strange to me. Has this happened to anyone else, and if you're a massage therapist, have you heard this before? Thanks.

Hi... just stumbled on this forum after experiencing this very issue myself this year. I see it's somewhat old, but wondering if anyone is still up for discussing this at all.

The story is full of little details, but in general... small town massage therapy office, highly recommended and accredited and adjoined to a physiotherapy practice as well. I'm married and a public figure in town (which adds to the issue of embarrassment) and I had five massage sessions to address a frozen shoulder, and a sciatic issue and it was going well and helping a great deal.

I was face down and felt as though an erection was beginning. I wasn't overly alarmed as I see this as somewhat natural and it wasn't going to bother me. The rocking back and forth, and downward pressure (to open up my lower spine) was a normal part of this for me due to the sciatic. In about three seconds it changed from being an onset of erection, to full ejaculation and I was mortified. I have a healthy sex life with my wife and I haven't had a super quick ejaculation since my first year of marriage (13 years ago) so it's not that. Why then did it happen? I was relaxed, and very trusting of my therapist by this point... had lots of previous butt work during the massage, inner thigh... all that... no issue till then. I read up on it, finding cases of ejaculation without much or any erection (which was my first and biggest wonder about this because I wasn't aroused for a time before it happening)... but it still baffles me that it happened.

My reaction was different than yours though Cheese... I stopped her, asked her to leave for a moment as I was feeling like I needed a break. I did a lightning fast clean up (not a very good one) put my pants back on and called her in. She was confused but very professional. I was very honest and told her what happened. We chatted a bit about it, she saying she wasn't going to worry about it, and "if it happens again, it won't matter"... and she finished the massage. I was amazed, and humbled and so appreciative of her ability to maturely process this. I've been back five times since... once more I've had to give her warning to stop the back work and move to my legs and I was able to avoid it.

I feel like if I hadn't brought the topic up with her directly, I likely would not ever have gone back, which would have been a shame as it has been an important component to my recovery from cronic back issues. Because I did and she was open and understanding, it allowed me to relax again (which took the rest of that one session, and a whole other one for me mentally to relax).

Now the question is should I always be on edge should I feel that it might be a possibility again, or should I just let it go.... ? I am absolutely not about to imply that she go out of her way to cause it to happen, but my lower back now seems connected to these feelings I get quite quickly sometimes... so it still plagues my thoughts.

Sigh - the guy who has grown up around women who I know would say I'm a creep and pervert says I should be ashamed, but I can't help feel like this is something that needs to be understood, not pawned off as a sexually divergent "behaviour"...

Any other thoughts?