[ayushi daswani14]

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well i personally do not want to have it FOR NOW... because we tried it once before.. and i was hurt.. i did bleed and i had to seek medical help..now he is saying that he wants to go for it again.. and he is like nothing will happen...and stuff.. i told him i want to wait i have my most important exams after a month..and i dont want to waste a single day in any discomfort..but after every few days he is coming up with the same demand...and this is irritating me like anything..
and somewhere am just too afraid by the first experience to try it again..but he is just too obsessed with this concept of anal sex..even i want to try it...but am too afraid.. suggest me ways and tips.. if we have it ever..so that it is does not injure me or.. make me uncomfortable and so it is least painful...

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Things like this gets me mad...He's demanding? You can't talk, and tell him the way you wish for it to happen, yet you're compromsing for him, but selfishly, he is demanding...

Who are you going out with?

Forget the painful, you bled, you had to see a Doctor, he want's Anal? Then ask him to google how you do it properly without causing so much pain, blood and Doctor's visits, he's in-considerate, un-carring and you don't have to do anything you don't want to do with YOUR body.

In addition, you don't have to do anything to "please and keep someone" consider, he isn't considering you at all.

CW

[Maximus]

What about him having it after you have given him one first ?!
Sorry, but being so disrespectful and inconsiderate is not Love.

At least remind him this.

The rest is for you to see and know who you are willing to have in your life.

[WildChild]

If you bled, then he must have been very rough! If he isn't respecting your needs, your pain and your concerns, why are you seeing this jerk?

[BettyCrocker]

Agree I do with the other ladies. slap his (excuse my vulgarity) if he get's overbearing and pushy. I am not sure how Indian culture is with males treating women but no matter where you are and where you live it shouldn't matter. You shouldn't have to do anything you don't want. And if he is being a about it get rid of him.

However if he is just curious and annoyingly persistent go ahead and use LOTS of lube, and a condom of course. Both lay on your sides your back to his..and relax. The first 30 secs to min is always the hardest to get used to but after that it's not so bad. I never thought I would ever try it...but I guess tequila, watching porn, and the guy you love change things lol.

[Magnetism]

If it hurts, you're not doing right. I agree with others that he should respect your needs. If a man loves you, he doesn't want to see you in pain. Nobody has the right to demand something from you that you don't want. Your body is yours. I knew some Indian men that said, "Girls who can't take the pain from anal sex are wimps and suck at bed." Give me a break.

I don't know if leaving is an option for you (don't know if you're dating, married or if divorce is stigmatized where you are), but a man should be patient and help you relax when it comes to anal. Use a lot of lubrication and go slowly. Using butt plugs can help.

[Guest]

I personally see no thrill in anal sex. However I know that some people, both men and women, like it. But, and this is a big but, no one should do it if it feels uncomfortable. So if you don't want him to enter you there then tell him so and let it be an end to it. The vagina is perfect for the insertion of a penis. The anus was not designed for this .x

[young aussie male]

My ex used to prefer anal. to start off, maybe use a finger, then find a small dildo/vibrator and slowly work your way up. Use lots of lube. Ive been told by a few females if done right it feels amazing, can also add to the pleasure and double penetrate yourself with a toy.

[cathygirl]

My partner (husband) and I do this every once in a while and only because I know he likes it but won't press for it. I'm not a big fan, but we both do things for each other that aren't our "favorite" just because the other likes it. However, we've had to find techniques so that it is something I can actually accept. For example, no amount of lube can get me ready for just a "big plunge". We have to work up to it. First one finger, then two fingers (very well lubed, etc.) and then after getting used to that and maybe part of a third finger - slowly, slowly, patiently - then I'm ready for the main event. Even then, he knows he cannot pound away like his urges might press him to do. Actually, I get a kind of pleasure out of him gently doing it knowing he'd like to go wild, but keeping control so as not to hurt me. When he's like that it makes it all worthwhile and I want to do all kinds of other stuff he likes just to reward his restraint :-)

[ayushi daswani14]

thanks for the advices... anyways..he is obviously never forcing it on me.. and the 1st time we had it..i didn't bleed because he was rough.. i just got hurt at an initial point itself..so we never went forward with it.. that was maybe because of less lubricants and stuff..but still for now i dont find myself prepared for the thing ..so am not letting him do that anyway.. and i suppose..i was a little hesitant in saying a strict NO ...but now..will ask him to wait till i feel like having it..