[ayushi daswani14]

And panerabread divorce is not stigmatized for us.. i am dating him..and anyways..i am free to leave him whenever i wish to even if we were married..
BettyCrocker..i suppose maybe the relaxing factor would have been missing.. .and males here in India do treat women well.. so.. that is not a problem.. and haha the guy you love change things..lol..

[ayushi daswani14]

but you see the other problem that still continues to be is because i got a little hurt in my 1st attempt to have anal.. i have this fear settled inside me..i suppose it isnt him saying that irritates me .. it is my own discomfort that i feel when i think of trying it.. i wonder how will i get out of this fear...

[BettyCrocker]

Yeah I hear you on the first time mishap though. Do not, I repeat do NOT do it doggie style the first few times you do it. That position puts your body in a way that makes it tighter, thus hurting more. I have only started doing this the last few months...not regularly but here and there. Get's easier every time. There are a lot of pretty comfortable positions you can do to make it better for you. On your side, kind of a leg crossing thing um that's hard to explain. I am sure there's videos or pics online like Kama Sutra. Anyways relaxation and focusing on relaxing is huge. Your has a natural tendency to wanna clinch, it feels super gross and weird to start so you're like "omg what is that going in there...agh!" But relaaaaaax, lube up that condom good..let him just sit there in for a minute or so until you relax and get used to the feeling. After that you can slowly move into things and it becomes pretty easy and not too bad. I prefer regular sex but anal is a nice change of pace and a little bit kinky which is the main turn on for me.

Remember it's only you're sphincter you need to relax the rest is easy. You won't be able to do the porn star buttsex right off the bat but it is just something to try for a couple mins here and there. Remember to remind him to use a clean condom or wash up if you go back to regular sex..you don't want an infection!

[karennicholls]

hunni, people who do anal sex do it because they enjoy it and get pleasure from it. If this is not what you are getting from it then you shouldn't be doing it. having tried it a few times myself i personally am not a fan of it either, if my current partner (who i believe to be the man i will spend my life with) wanted to try it once, as we haven't yet, i would do it for him but once and once only! If you don't like it your partner really should respect your choice and drop the subject altogether. hope you make the right decision

[Yamimi]

Even though this guy might be a pain in the butt (Oh, sheesh no pun intended. So sorry about that) demanding anal all the time, for future reference there IS a way you can try to prep yourself for next time. You gotta..well..practice. If you have a vibrator toy or something.. practice. That's all I can say. But I am warning that it'll still be uncomfortable, so if you deem anal not to be for you then don't do it. No guy should make you.

[nehakhetal]

Dont be too tense abt anal sex . It is ok if you are willing . If you have fear about it then you wil contract your anus unknowingly and it may be painful. So try to relax while doing anal. Use lube while doing anal. You may start giving warm water bath to your hole and try to strech it with oil. We use jelly which makes anal pleasurable although it is painful initially but later on i enjoyed it a lot.

[Magnetism]

Where in India do you live, if you don't mind me asking?

[cathygirl]

If you still think it might eventually be something you're interested in, why not work up to it? Maybe you could just have some anal play like, for example, while he's giving you oral. If you learn to associate stimulation "down there" as pleasurable (and for me, what I've suggested is VERY pleasurable) it might facilitate progressing farther.

[Magnetism]

.and males here in India do treat women well.. so.. that is not a problem..

You can disagree with me, but my friend showed me this article. I'm not causing any problems, but I think it's important to be more aware than ignore it.
Indian men lead in sexual violence, worst on gender equality: Study- Times of India
Nearly one in four Indian men has committed sexual violence at some point in their lives and one in five has admittedly forced his wife or partner to have sex. "

[ayushi daswani14]

yeah...i cant disagree totally because there are man who actually dont treat their ladies well.. and you know i have a strong desire to work for such ladies..on the equality for sexes.... once am independent have a job in my hand..i would really work for girls and ladies treated bad.. deprived of anything on gender basis ..
and i live in "bhopal"..and i am just not brought up in that atmosphere where men treat women bad..this is common in places where women are less educated..more into their household chores..have less exposures..and so they dont take a stand for themselves.. i mean i personally have no experience of meeting such people...but yes just cause i have never seen..doesnt mean it doesnt exist..
all my life i have just seen men who treat their wives with all the respect and love..and my dad being the most perfect man i could ever imagine..treating my mum like a queen..and me like a princess.. ..