[rcoreyus]

You can introduce sex toys without them being a substitute. Tell him you want more things at once - want to give him oral while being penetrated, want DP penetration or something, so you are not "replacing" him but just adding more fun at the same time. Unlike the others here, I don't think I'd suggest a strap-on - it makes it too obvious that you are fixing his deficiency. I think a toy he uses with his hands is a much better idea.

[Guest]

I've been with a man who had micro penis and it doesn't sound like your hubby is almost, I'd think he qualifies. In all honesty I was ok with the guy I dated but it was short lived relationship for other reasons. I rather doubt that it would have lasted long term. Some women really don't care about penetrative sex, it just doesn't do anything for them but for those of us who not only orgasm with penetration but also want the special connection that comes with that, its a problem or at least a significant challenge.

I can think of two avenues that combined might just do the trick. One is the strap on. Visit a higher quality adult shop, they should have some products that offer a very lifelike feel. The other is to investigate sacred sexuality. There are activities and ways of creating a deeper connection during arousal and intercourse that may help.

so micropenis really exists???

and i thought i was small!

[oxy-moron]

Something you can try is lying on your back with him lying on his side forming a T shape.
In this position he can penetrate you with his thumb and Penis at the same time.
It can take some working in with a normal Penis but with his equip it should be easy.
He can use the other hand to play around the front. This goes along with some dirty talk about DP as an added extra.

[ladylook]

What a great site, was expecting answers like 'dump him' or 'just have an affair'

I'm a little confused on why it took 5 years for you to realize that this is a problem. You said you were sexually experienced before you met your husband and you dated him for 3 years before you were married.
Didn't you miss the "just sex" penetration during the first 3 years? As open and honest as your relationship seems to be, you must have discussed this lack of fulfillment before now. If not, I can't even imagine how your husband is going to feel.

I love him, he's brilliant at loads of stuff within the bedroom, his oral is to die for. going from previous relationships where there was only sex with minimal before & after play, he was a breath of fresh air and its only over time that I've come to miss penetrative sex.

I'm kind of on Pretzel's side here a bit (us men ganging up!) No seriously, if I loved a woman that had a flat chest, or a loose vagina, I would still love her and want to make love to her. I do understand that penetration for some women is very important, but surely there are good ways this can be achieved without giving a smashing guy the "heave-ho"? None of us are perfect. As usual I find Hopeless Dork's words wise as well. Try Wildchild's ideas. x

Won't be giving him the heave-ho, it's just stuff is missing and the feeling that its missing has grown.

You can introduce sex toys without them being a substitute. Tell him you want more things at once - want to give him oral while being penetrated, want DP penetration or something, so you are not "replacing" him but just adding more fun at the same time. Unlike the others here, I don't think I'd suggest a strap-on - it makes it too obvious that you are fixing his deficiency. I think a toy he uses with his hands is a much better idea.

Not brought up the idea of the strap-on yet and he's already brought me a rabbit & a 6" dildo for us to play with, which is great.

so micropenis really exists???

and i thought i was small!

Yup, it certainly does. we measured whilst fooling around last night & he was at 2" hard. He said that was smaller than last time he measured a few years ago.

Something you can try is lying on your back with him lying on his side forming a T shape.
In this position he can penetrate you with his thumb and Penis at the same time.
It can take some working in with a normal Penis but with his equip it should be easy.
He can use the other hand to play around the front. This goes along with some dirty talk about DP as an added extra.

Good call, will get to it next time.

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Having spent a couple of days thinking about this, I think I've just got a case of the caricature itch that needs scratching

We've almost had our sexual relationship in reverse, where it starts off with the sex being great and then over time you move on to new ways to please each other. Whereas we started with the new ways, and haven't really had the worthwhile sex bit of relationship and as I previously gained a great deal of pleasure this way... I'm not sure I can put the genie back in the bottle, so to speak.

[pretzel]

Having spent a couple of days thinking about this, I think I've just got a case of the caricature itch that needs scratching

We've almost had our sexual relationship in reverse, where it starts off with the sex being great and then over time you move on to new ways to please each other. Whereas we started with the new ways, and haven't really had the worthwhile sex bit of relationship and as I previously gained a great deal of pleasure this way... I'm not sure I can put the genie back in the bottle, so to speak.

Well, I'm glad that it's an itch. I had gotten the impression that it was becoming an obsession which I'm afraid would have been pretty hurtful to him based on my reading of your OP. Not sure I'm in total agreement with some of the suggestions but that's a decision that the two of you would compromise on.

As for your perceived reversal of how your sex life has evolved I disagree. To me, it seemed to evolve extremely well for you, although the ways and different forms of pleasure to you were not the same as your previous relationships. Unless you're comparing his ability to perform vs. your past partners then it seems to me that his performance has been better than you'd hoped for but different. I tend to think he's been great given what nature has presented to him and has learned that other aspects of sexual pleasure are just as important. Not many men have the wherewithall to understand that.

[robtil]

better strapon

My wife has been good at understanding .. I know she has had other “different” experiences in the past.. that’s ok, make me unique.
We do experiment with sexual aids.. the best in this situation is an extender. She did need time to get over the initial feeling.
However, is a quality product is important . Introduce this idea and see if it works out. Start with Rxsleeve.com company..

[Caussie]

You could try the We Vibe or seeing as he is quite small maybe the Rock Chick. The RC is a bigger clit/gspot stimulator but not so big that it would not allow him to enter as well. Sounds like you guys are very open so why not give it a go.