[CuriousJo]

You seem very interested in women's responses to penises.

Yes I have always wondered about this. Why? Who knows. There is probably a name for this.

Anyway I'm picking up this is not the right forum for this.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

There is nothing wrong with being curious as to whether people really do this? discuss these things?

I think that you need to open a statement and follow through with why you are asking or posing a question so that it becomes a discussion...

So are you in your 30's do you have a boyfriend? Have you asked him what his thoughts would be if you were to discuss his? If you have one...

It's not the question it's that there is no following through with that question....

[CuriousJo]

No I don't have a boyfriend.

I always thought disclosing such details would be disrespectful.
But my friend took for granted that everyone talks about this and said that men disclose even more details about women to their guy friends.

I started becoming very curious to actually hear all these details myself.

I suppose it's a fetish. It's the opposite of how I used to be.

They say our fears are our fantasies.

[WildChild]

They say our fears are our fantasies.

That's an interesting idea. Would you say you are afraid of penises?

[CuriousJo]

My ex-husband was my best friend (before we ever dated). Sex made me nervous and I never liked it. He left me for a woman who really liked sex a lot. I was happy for him. They have since broken up.

Meanwhile, I have gone from never allowing myself to think about sex, to thinking about it with every man I see. Not necessarily imagining them with me, but just imagining them having sex with anybody, being naked, masturbating, receiving fellatio, touching a woman between her legs. Sometimes I imagine a man seeing a beautiful woman and getting turned on. Other times I just imagine them thinking about sex and getting turned on. This excites me. And I always think about their penis... about it getting hard and what it must feel like to them.

I don't know what to do about these thoughts and feelings.

[Texinator]

Why did sex make you nervous?

[CuriousJo]

I didn't want him to see me as a sex object.

[Hopeless Dork]

Nope... never been turned on by a friend describing her bf's penis... and believe it or not, the only time I've ever had a friend describe the man she was sleeping with's penis -- it was either an extremely unflattering tale... or some vague comment on its awesomeness.

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[Guest]

i never talked to another girl about her b/f penis nor did i ever talk to anyone about any guy i was with..

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Was that due to your up-bringing, or something that happened when you were young.

I did pose that notation to you on your first thread, as I felt there was a "back off" style there.

Maybe you are trying to let yourself be normal, think normally about sex, you are 30 or early 30's at the peak time for women.

I don't think any woman really wants to be a sex object, rather a two way street, with respect, intimacy and love...

Have you seen someone in this regard?

CW