[caterpillar79]

Do you ever get any negative emotional feelings if you try to masturbate, cat, or is it simply a lack of arousal?

Maybe a little bit of both. My upbringing probably has a lot to do with it as well - "you're not supposed to masturbate - it's a sin". And I really was sheltered so I never had the urge to try anything, not until I met my husband, J.

I get aroused when I touch myself but I really do not get off masturbating, so what's the point, I thought. It doesn't compare to how it is when my husband does the job. When I was single, I just kept busy with school work and played the piano, occasionally watched some porn online but it doesn't do me much. And mind you, I like looking at women's nice bodies (I'm not a lesbian, but maybe a bi(ke)-curious! LOL).

[Texinator]

Maybe a little bit of both. My upbringing probably has a lot to do with it as well - "you're not supposed to masturbate - it's a sin". And I really was sheltered so I never had the urge to try anything, not until I met my husband, J.

On the bright side, that makes this a time for discovery for you, where you can learn things that you didn't learn about when you were sheltered.

...and who doesn't like looking at women's nice bodies? They are the ultimate piece of art!

[caterpillar79]

We are experimenting with karezza method right now and it is really good. I still do not masturbate. He tells me I am a masochist though when I do my Brazilian wax on my own. Go figure.

[vicky1411]

I do several times a week, I have a selection of toys my partner has bought for me, I prefer him to use them on me but they come in handy from time to time.

[chaya]

I have masturbated but never could achieve orgasm. I tried when I was younger, my sister thought I was frigid because I'm diabetic. Since I've been with my husband, I achieve orgasm every time we have intercourse, sometimes more than once. When he was out of town for 2 weeks last month, I got so horny I would get soaking wet just thinking about him. It was embarrassing at school. I tried masturbating to get some relief, but I just made myself more frantic and horny. I'll stick to cold showers from now on, masturbation don't work for me.

[jns]

I have masturbated but never could achieve orgasm. I tried when I was younger, my sister thought I was frigid because I'm diabetic. Since I've been with my husband, I achieve orgasm every time we have intercourse, sometimes more than once. When he was out of town for 2 weeks last month, I got so horny I would get soaking wet just thinking about him. It was embarrassing at school. I tried masturbating to get some relief, but I just made myself more frantic and horny. I'll stick to cold showers from now on, masturbation don't work for me.

I think you will achieve the ability to climax from masturbating, just don't give up. Right now, being with your husband is enough. Being able to climax with masturbation is one more thing that you can bring to the table in the future to spice up things. Your husband would probably like to look directly in your eyes when you climax. Its a fun thing to do.

Since it makes you extra horny, masturbate before you two are going to be together, so you have relief, even though it is somewhat delayed. It may make orgasms easier to achieve.

[punchdrunkloved]

I voted yes. Like most women i don't get as much out of it however my opinion on masterbation isn't to achieve orgasm all the time. Sometimes it Can be a mechanism to amplify my thought process lol. My husband and I have an extraordinary open communication process but he also has a job that can take him away for a few days to a few weeks. We both have extremely high sex drives to the point on any given days off we could go at it 4 or more times in a day. So compromise had to to come in somewhere. I learned to enjoy it when he suggested phone sex, for the first time I climaxed without his physical touch but could hear him in my ear and then there are the obligatory pics on both sides that are shared. Not conventional I know but it worked. So I guess the point is, it's not my favorite thing, I prefer him to be with me watching me do it, but under the right circumstances it can be a great substitute.