[waya]

You can also start moving on him when he's not very far in. Try making circles on just the end of his erection to stimulate the very sensitive first few inches of your vagina. The head of his penis should also be pretty sensitive so he could enjoy it, too.

[srussell]

Have you tried different sized dildos to work up to his size like darcdante mentioned? .....your height and weight and breast size don't necessarily correlate with the size of your lady parts (I'm guessing that's why you brought it up.)

I'm aware of that I just mentioned that to let you know I wasn't 4-6 and 85# which could be an obvious problem....that I'm normal average size except for my breasts, that's all. Also, I'm going to ask the doctor about the dildos working up to his size but first I want to make sure there isn't something I'm not overlooking medically down there. I've got an appointment for Thursday. Thanks for caring.

[waya]

I'm aware of that I just mentioned that to let you know I wasn't 4-6 and 85# which could be an obvious problem....that I'm normal average size except for my breasts, that's all. Also, I'm going to ask the doctor about the dildos working up to his size but first I want to make sure there isn't something I'm not overlooking medically down there. I've got an appointment for Thursday. Thanks for caring.

Ah, ok. Well good luck to you and sorry if I came off a bit snippy, it wasn't on purpose. I don't think I'm very good at communicating on these things.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Oh waya, "thanks for caring" spells a good sign to me

I think it's a good idea srussell to check with a gyno regarding anything medical you could be one of those "small" girls that don't open up easily or at all to accomodate such a size, not all women adjust to a man's penis, apparently...

[srussell]

Cancelation got me in early this AM instead of tomorrow PM....great. After 20 minutes talking and exam, my doctor says that I'm normal and that the problem is his size, width not length. I ask about using a dildo to help stretch me and he said it would be temporary and I should be able to accomodate his size although he is much bigger in width and might cause discomfort periodically or maybe more often. I said 'like every time'? Answer was could be, play it by ear!

OK now, we get to play it by ear. What does that mean? Lube, dildo, not sure how ready he's going to be for all this brand new stuff since it was all brand new to begin with. A nurse that I didn't know worked in his office came out wanting to know if I was alright and I briefly told her the problem. All she could say was 'I don't have that problem with my bf...not that I wouldn't like to.' I nicely told her she was clueless.

[WildChild]

Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay, arousal, arousal, arousal

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Fear stops so many things in life.

Instead of concentrating on whether or not it will work, hurt, look into his eyes, bond with him...

You can imagine if you concentrate on the negatives they remain...If you concentrate on wanting to be with man totally not just sexually, all sorts of doors start to open.

CW

[srussell]

Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay, arousal, arousal, arousal
Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay, arousal, arousal, arousal
Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay, arousal, arousal, arousal......and it still is UNCOMFORTABLE!!!

It's wearing on him thinking something is wrong with him. I told my best gf and she ask if he had been with other girls and have the same problem, which the answer would be no, I'm the first. I think he is thinking of going to a doctor about this problem or at least he mentioned Friday that he might. I don't know what a doctor could do for him, it's me that is hurting because of his size or my not adjusting to his size. Any other ideas?

[nic22]

sorry but I find this a little to weird. he is going to the doctor.....for what exactly to get them to reduce the size? I am on the larger size and my girlfriend is not that big of a girl. With proper forplay it isn't a problem at all. Any girl I have been with same thing. Im finding some trouble with this storey.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Our minds are amazing things, like I said, relax, concentrate on having feelings for him instead, you are both concentrating only on the penetration and what may occur....How can it ever change unless you forget it and go with it and relaxxxxxxx