Female ejaculation without orgasm?

[Lilah]

If it is an orgasm then it is really lame and not worth all the effort.

LOL Same here.

Maybe it's hard to explain to others, but this is NOT an orgasm, and it is achieved by long and intense CLITORAL stimulation. No G-spot involved.
It's just ejaculation. Nothing to be jealous of.

It strikes me that women with this problem (including myself) never have normal orgasms and don't seem to be able to have orgasms at all. Maybe these women come to ejaculation because they go further than 'normal' women trying to get an orgasm. Normal women stop when they have an orgasm, so they usually don't come to the point of ejaculation.

Or is it just that ejaculation comes before the actual orgasm (like Wikipedia says it can), and that we are just to distracted by the ejaculation fluid that we don't come to the orgasm anymore?

[mewhenim]

If I think to hard about it, like just having a quickie with the rabbit, I find it harder.

[sexually_distraught]

It's hard because I don't want him to think he sucks or something, so I just kind of make excuses to either stop it or get him to get it over with. Poor us!!

[krscutie421]

hahah man I know exactly what you mean.. you don't tell him do you? It's so hard to say I just want to stop because I don't want to make him feel bad LOL but I don't know what else to do so I just kind of nudge him away and tell I just want to have sex now.

[sexually_distraught]

I have also never had an orgasm.. Like Sexually Distraught I have gotten there a couple of times where it has started to feel really good and then it just becomes a tad painful and I feel like I have to pee and after thinking about that I am not usually aroused enough to keep going and it seems pointless... I try not thinking about it and just letting it happen but that doesn't seem to be helping me? Because after a while it just isn't enjoyable anymore.

Exactly! Not enjoyable at all, and all I think about is how uncomfortable it feels and then I just want to stop all together.

[krscutie421]

I have also never had an orgasm.. Like Sexually Distraught I have gotten there a couple of times where it has started to feel really good and then it just becomes a tad painful and I feel like I have to pee and after thinking about that I am not usually aroused enough to keep going and it seems pointless... I try not thinking about it and just letting it happen but that doesn't seem to be helping me? Because after a while it just isn't enjoyable anymore.

[308dulce17]

married for almost five years

I have only had an orgasm twice, i discover this a couple months ago. I used to stop right at the same spot , and then decided to keep going and had it. too bad hes not in the mood lately.

[sexually_distraught]

I'm the same

Hello,
I'm 23, I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now, and I also have never had an orgasm. There has been multiple times that I have "ejaculated" but I never feel a thing, no release of any kind. When we mess around it feels ok for a while and then it starts to feel a little good, then it just hurts and I feel like I have to pee really bad and I don't want him to continue anymore, and ejaculation happens often during this. If it is an orgasm then it is really lame and not worth all the effort.

Please let me know if I am normal!

[kak919]

I have been interested in this topic for a while. I was married for 20 years. I never had an ejaculation but I have had clitoral and g spot orgasms during sex. I am now divorced and with someone else. Our sex is awesome but I don't usually orgasm during sex. However, I do ejaculate without orgasm. I think!...LOL It's strange. It feels great, like a release, and usually happens when I'm on top or there's a little something he does when we're in the doggie style position. I hope I can say this.....he takes himself out and sort of slaps it against my c**t. yikes!! I squirt alot. He loves it. I know it's not urine because I go before and after. But I just don't feel that typical orgasm feeling.

To answer your post, what the others said before me is right. relax, let your mind go, and please talk to him about this. you will put him at ease too. you will get there !!

good luck!!

[InLoveWithHim]

Hi. Im New.

When i have sex with my boyfriend of 10 months I never orgasm but I do ejaculate.. He loves it and thinks ive had the big "O" but i have never had one with any guys... what should I do? Im confused.