[jpane]

Please help me. I don't know what to do. My girlfriend's suggested I try a women's forum so I am hoping to get some opinions. They have varied opinions and are partial to me. To keep it short, I love him and I don't want to lose him. We have had multiple arguments about him ejaculating -trying to be clean here- :-) in my mouth during felatio -again being PC. I just don't want to. It does not appeal to me. I don't know how common it is for a woman to "want" it, or just tolerate it or whatever. Maybe if I explain that it is normal for me not to (if I had other supporters) or just get others opinions on who likes it and who doesn't etc that may help my cause. He makes me feel like it is a normal thing to do like the missionary position or doggie style. Thanks guys.

[ItsASecret]

Some love it, some absolutely hate it, some honestly try it and do not like it, some will never bother to even give it a try. The thing is you will not get a set opinion, you go to a "cumlovers" website and you will get a bias towards women loving to take it in the mouth. You go to a reserved womans website and you will get the bias of never trying it because it is disgusting. You go to an open forum like this you will get all answers and you have to take what you want as your answer. Personally I have tried it, I have tried it many times but I simply cannot stand the texture (my bf's is goopy, thick, chunky, and very chlorine tasting). I will not longer try it unless there is a special occasion because I know my bf appreciates that I give it a go. However I do not and will never ever love it. Not my thing, I tried it and did not like it. You should never be forced to do something you really do not want to do. If he says something like "but other girls love it so you should too"...do not believe that, you are not other girls, you are you. If you decide to try it and cannot stomach the taste or texture then simply say you are sorry, you gave it an honest try and did not like it. Do not let him force you to do anything simply because some porn model fakes her smile, or you read a girl could drink a gallon of it because she loves it so much, or "girls should want to do it"...do it only if you want to give it an honest try. You do not have to swallow you do not have to take all of it in your mouth, you can do what you want and if you simply cannot see yourself being able to do it then do not.

[Texinator]

Some women love it, some women hate it. There is no "normal" there one way or another.

There is a certain sense of intimacy there for men, as it makes them feel like you love and accept every part of them. However, at the same time, you should never do something with which you don't feel comfortable, and he should accept your wishes.

This isn't something over which you are going to lose him, and if he were actually to decide that being to ejaculate into someone's mouth is more important than your bond, then there wasn't much of a relationship to begin with.

[nic22]

if he decides to break it off with you just becuase he can't cum in your mouth thats a guy you don't need anyway. I respect my girlfriend and she doesn't like it and I don't try to do it or bug her about it. Not a big deal and definetly not a deal breaker.

[T-man]

Hi,

A man here, hope you don't mind me giving you my opinion. It's great that you are reaching out and looking for support and asking questions. I would advise not going to him and saying, I've asked lots of other girls and they don't like it etc. He won't like that. And, honestly it's not important. The only thing that's important is your feelings.

I had a girlfriend who didn't like it and right before I came I would let her know and she would finish me off with her hand. My current girlfriend loves it.

The difference in feeling for a man is so extreme. Think about the thing you love the most for reaching orgasm, cunnilingus, penetration, fingers etc. Now imagine it was going great, your were feeling fantastic, the stimulation was perfect, it was warm and you were cresting and about to cum and then most sensation is removed, suddenly it's cold and you limp to a finish. It really is like that. From hot and full of sensation to cold and almost feeling nothing.

And then there really is an emotional feeling to it too. When a girl receives it in her mouth there is a deep emotional connection, her receiving you, accepting you. This is topped only by cuming inside a woman which is the ultimate.

Anyway, I'm telling you this not to try and convince you to do it, but to show you why it's so important to him. But you shouldn't be made to do something you can't tolerate. If you do stop and go to your hands please use to, to keep the penis as warm as possible. Perhaps suggest one day that instead of cuming in your mouth he cums on your body, he may like that, not sure if you will, you could use positive mental re-enforcement to make yourself like it etc.

But these are just suggestions. If you're truly set on not receiving it I suggest you sit him down one night, fully clothed, when things are not sexual and have a conversation that does not get heated at all.
Tell him you love his penis, you love kissing it, sucking it, having it in your mouth etc. (even if you don't) tell him this is pleasurable for you. Tell him you love when he comes, it excites you and makes you feel good but that you really can't stand the taste/texture of cum in your mouth. (don't le him interrupt here buit don't argue)
Tell him you're worried. Tell him, you used to really enjoy going down on him but now, everytime you do, you feel anxious because of what will happen at the end. Tell him, the cum is making you dislike blowjobs and that you really don't want this to happen. You love kissing and sucking him but your getting a bad feeling and you're worried that in the end you may really dislike giving blowjobs just because of that.

Important! I really need to stress here that you should not threaten to stop giving him blowjobs. If he feels threatened in anyway this will backfire. You need to show him that it's in his interest to not cum in your mouth, i.e. more willingness for you to initiate bjs in the first place etc. and that if you guys can't solve this problem together it may have the opposite effect. Please, please don't threaten him. It will backfire.

Put like this, ideally he should then run with things and hopefully get the necessary outcome, perhaps with you offering that he cums on you or whatever.

I would do it like this. From what you have told me I believe you would be telling the truth not lying in anyway if you say that and it should help you guys come up with a solution.

Remember, discuss it not during sex, out of the bedroom. Be patient and do not get angry or threaten him. If he's in anyway open to discussing and solving problems with you then this should be the way to do it because remember, the two of you have a problem.

You hate when he cums in your mouth, he loves it. You're asking him to give that up too. So this is a joint problem.

Best of luck
;-)

T-man

[Begonia]

I'm not a big fan. The only problem is the taste for me, plug the slightly stingy feeling it leaves on my tongue. If it was salty or something, it wouldn't be a big deal. His tastes entirely like how bleach smells. It doesn't bother me too much though. He never forces me to and always asks if it's okay, but the benefits for him outweigh my distaste (forgive the pun) for it. If you really do not want to do it, then don't. If he leaves you because of it, he didn't value your relationship and you'd probably be better off. Plain and simple. Maybe try explaining to him your reasoning for not doing it, but be kind. Tell him it's not that you don't want to please him, it's just that you have your boundaries and it would make you dislike giving him "favors" in the first place. Maybe you could try to come to a compromise. Is there something else you'd be willing to do in bed that would make up for it a bit? Hopefully you will choose something you are both into. Good luck.

[kristalyn_04]

It really depends on how I feel about the guy. I only enjoy it if I have feelings for him.

[Texinator]

I have a proposal for all men who demand their partner lets them come in their mouth. Next time you masturbate, ejaculate into a cup and then drink it down. I'm not kidding.

If you refuse to do it outright, why should she do it? If you try it but can't stand the texture or taste, why should she do it? If you try it and you don't mind, then remember that everyone has a different opinion, and it might make her uncomfortable after all, just like you might not be comfortable with absolutely everything she wants.

[rosekitten]

I disagree with the cup idea. First, unless you're swishing it around your mouth, it is *not* the same. I do not care for the texture, and the way around that is to make sure he's more to the back of your mouth, than towards the front. The only "taste" I get when my husband ejaculates is a minor after-taste, which I don't mind. It makes him happy, it makes me happy, and we don't have anything to clean up afterwards.

[Guest]

"Normal" is what you think is best for you and your body, mind, etc. NOT what he thinks or Cosmo tells you or your GFs tell you.

This is one of those topics where there is no right or wrong answer and never will be. It has also been discussed to death in this forum yet will not go away.

Do what you think is "best" for you, for whatever reason, and go with that.