[Elanor-Jane]

i understand that. but i think the two are related. i think youd need to honestly find out if everything was great for both of them, not just one persons opinion and then see if any sex stuff stemmed from or was related to that. a woman refusing to have sex or try new things often stems from resentment (shes not being satisfied etc emotionally, sexually, the whole spectrum) or on an extreme end, punishment. if this related to me, i would never exercise this power on a person who was satisfying me sexually, why would you give up something that good? only if it was medicore would a woman see other uses for sex. maybe being asked to try new things is getting on her nerves

[Guest]

I want for my wife to learn to ejaculate (we are trying to get it to), and when it does (if ever), I am planning in showing her how much my desire for her is and will eat her out completly. Maybe,this is what she needs to start swallowing - sometimes I think that she may think that if she does it for me completly, that perhaps, I would want it all the time after that....anyhow, she says someday.....I keep asking every week or other week about. She now understand that she has to deal with the fact that I would communicate to her everything I want / desire and feel. And that she needs to communicate back and never but never go or say something like I am tire of hearing you say that, since it is not my fault to have a fantasy (share by thousands fo men so i am not the only one) and she has to listen and be cool with it. Otherwise, you start feeling like something is wrong with you when it is not

[ItsASecret]

Maybe,this is what she needs to start swallowing - sometimes I think that she may think that if she does it for me completly, that perhaps, I would want it all the time after that....anyhow, she says someday.....I keep asking every week or other week about.

Would you ask for her to do it every single time she gave you oral? Thereby confirming her possible worry that you would be continually asking/expecting it? Asking all the time for someone to do something they are not keen on doing/do not want to do can create resentment, and resentment is not an easy thing to get passed.

She now understand that she has to deal with the fact that I would communicate to her everything I want / desire and feel. And that she needs to communicate back and never but never go or say something like I am tire of hearing you say that, since it is not my fault to have a fantasy (share by thousands fo men so i am not the only one) and she has to listen and be cool with it.

If someone does not want to do something they are not required to accept it and do it anyway simply because a man has a fantasy. If that person really does not want to do it they are not going to do it. Communication of fantasies is fine and all but there is absolutely no requirement to act out those fantasies, everything is subjective and no one should be told they need to be doing something or other simply because someone has a fantasy.

[TheWisePanda]

Some problems i have come by with my past girlfriends was theyve NEVER tried it before, and they go by what people say and by what they've learned about semen. You can never ever go by what one of your friends says about the taste of their boyfriends semen, because not every guys semen tastes the same. Some of my ex's got curious and tried and they said it wasnt all that bad and they somewhat enjoyed the erotic feel of the semen in there mouths. Guys (including me) find ejaculating in the mouth a way to show our orgasm, and it is a huge turn on for some men that want it because you are literally sharing the man's orgasm with him. Also a mans orgasm is heightened by friction, so if your giving him a BJ, and you stop before he orgasms and use your hand or let him finish himself off, there is MUCH less feeling. But you also need to respect yourself and say if you've already tasted and felt semen inside your mouth and you didnt like it, let your guy know and try to find an alternative. Hope i helped!

[Elanor-Jane]

Unfortunatly, some women just don't like it guys! Time to get over this fact and move on with your lives. No man I've ever been with has ever complained when I've taken it out and finished with my hand, they've still squirted enough to paint the walls so I don't believe taking it out makes the mans orgasm suffer!

When it comes down to it, I'm a fan but only when I really love the guy and when it turns me on at the time.
And frankly, most guys taste awful, smell awful and come out too chunky lol.

U need to get it through your heads that if a woman doesn't want to do it---she shouldn't have to be convinced. Get real!!!!

[rcoreyus]

As with all things sexual: If you don't want to do it, don't. If its important to him then he is free to find someone else. No one should need to have an unhappy sex life.

[cherry2]

If you feel uncomfortable then don't do it. But if you are on the fence then it may not hurt to try.

I'm not a guy but I'm under the impression that the actual swallowing is just a turn on. The oral sex is the important part. I just asked my boyfriend if he cared if I never ate the ejactualtion and he didn't care. The ejaculation doesn't taste good, but to me it's not so bad that I would stop. I just keep a glass of water around in case I feel the need for it.

So do you give him oral sex? You don't have to swallow in order to have oral sex. For me, I really like giving my boyfriend oral sex. I used to not be interested at all, but eventually I tried it and I really liked it.

But like I said, if you're uncomfortable then don't do it. If he can't accept that then that is a real problem.

[JohnnyRocket]

Sounds Good

I have a proposal for all men who demand their partner lets them come in their mouth. Next time you masturbate, ejaculate into a cup and then drink it down. I'm not kidding.

If you refuse to do it outright, why should she do it? If you try it but can't stand the texture or taste, why should she do it? If you try it and you don't mind, then remember that everyone has a different opinion, and it might make her uncomfortable after all, just like you might not be comfortable with absolutely everything she wants.

That sounds fair, the only other thing I would add is that it should be ok if the next time your husband or boyfriend goes down on you that he be allowed to put his fingers or in your vagina and get it all wet and sloppy and then present to you to clean off and taste. Fair is fair. If you are unwilling to do this then no oral sex for you.

[ItsASecret]

the only other thing I would add is that it should be ok if the next time your husband or boyfriend goes down on you that he be allowed to put his fingers or in your vagina and get it all wet and sloppy and then present to you to clean off and taste. Fair is fair. If you are unwilling to do this then no oral sex for you.

I can see what you are saying. Personally I am not the biggest fan of oral to begin with and my bf has done the whole "well you should want to taste yourself because it is supposed to be erotic"...well it is not I do not like the taste nor the act of licking it off but I did it anyway for the sake of trying. My bf almost came from me doing the very quick lick so he gets the arousal not me. I am fine without oral but he is the one who wants to do it, so even me saying "you do not have to do it" does not factor in. That is fine for me because if he wants to do it then okay great that is his arousal he can go ahead, but the whole "here taste yourself and now enjoy it" type scenario does not work for me personally.

[Guest]

My wife loves me to dead, that I am sure, but she hasn't found in her (YET) to swallow all my load, she says that is too much, I say is because she is doing a great job, the more incredible the pleasure taking you to orgasms the more one ejaculate - isn't it?

Thus, I am still with the fantasy in my mind of seeing to whom I adore and desire so much, to go after my semen like ice cream....that would be incredible in my mind and heart, but she is not ready and decided to let it go and enjoy with what I do have with her that is amazing.....good luck!