[stressed]

You can't get back to how you were together. He obviously isn't in love with you anymore and this doesn't have to do with you, what he's said shows immaturity. Who on earth tells his g/f: "you're a bit chubby but your personality makes up for that" ??? Seriously??

Leave this guy, he's got nothing to offer you, be it emotionally or physically. Porn isn't your problem, he is your problem. And a quite big one. This guy harms your self-esteem, get rid of him asap.

[sarah14]

idk. i kno he still loves me cause he just stuck up for me and told them no wonder we cant have a proper relationship when this happens to them

[stressed]

But this way you'll become dependent on him and get used to him protecting you from the world. You have to defend yourself, not expect others to do so, especially boyfriends. Not physically, but verbally. If your mother is often abusive you have to report that to school.

[sarah14]

i like him protecting me, i do protect myself as well we dnt live together so i kinda am defending on my own. I dnt go to school anymore and i dnt live wit my mother either my boyfriend helped me get out of that situation and thats one of the things i love abt him he will stick up for me when i cant

[jns]

i like him protecting me, i do protect myself as well we dnt live together so i kinda am defending on my own. I dnt go to school anymore and i dnt live wit my mother either my boyfriend helped me get out of that situation and thats one of the things i love abt him he will stick up for me when i cant

Just because he stuck up for you against your mother doesn't mean that you two were meant for each other. It could be going from the frying pan into the fire.

[Little]

Like drunk people, angry people often say what they really mean.
It sounds like you need the time and space to grow on your own, away from any potentially controlling or abusive situations.

[sarah14]

ive talked to him abt wat he says to me hes says that, thats wat he felt at the time. i love being around him and it makes it harder everytime i stay wit him i just want to b around him more and more i never use to b like this it was the other way around when we first met i use to have to tell him to go away to leave me alone to my own space but now its him doing it to me and now ive adjusted to him and hes adjusted to me. But like someone said to me ive got to make time for myself for him to miss me

[Tucci]

Hun, you need to lose this guy. He's become so lost in his addiction he's lost sight of what he's got. The comment on your weight really should put it into perspective for you. He sees all these other "thin" women online, and is comparing you to them. In lamence terms, he is choosing porn over you 100%. I read your other post, and you are so young. Get rid of him, focus on your life, and getting yourself straight, before he completely ruins your self esteem. Every time he rejects you, its another blow. Go out and meet someone new, I know he's your first love, but if he isn't about compromising, or trying to make things work, he isn't worth it. Someone else mentioned the "best friend" image, I think that may be what's going on, and in my opinion, the porn can somewhat be held responsible. He's lost his physical attraction towards you, because he's found a new ideal image in the women he sees online. If you're not ready to break up, take a break from him. Stay with a friend, don't talk to him much, and see if he chases after you.

[sarah14]

i tried talking to him abt what i think is the problem and how i find it annoying coz he can satisfy himself but not me. mayb its me mayb ive got a bigger sex drive then. he says its not all abt the sex which is true he says wat do u want sex or love y not both