[alibaby]

wenwen,

I read your other post today where you say that you're 23 years old and have been with your boyfriend for 5 months? I understand that you want to marry this guy, but you haven't known him long enough. Do you really want to be with someone that disrespects you and ignores you when you care so much about him and his problems? He will not be a good husband or father. You have to separate yourself from this guy. You said that you have a lot of problems with boyfriends. Give yourself a break...no boyfriends for a while. Get your mind on other things, like school, hobbies, other friends, etc. When the time is right, you'll find the right man. But don't waste your time waiting for this guy. Hopefully when you leave, he will see that he has a problem and do something about it. In the mean time, live your life. You deserve to be happy, and if you stay with him and the porn, you won't be.

[lynnswin]

Hes a Loser

Listen, he's just messing with your head because hes an emotional abuser. No guy in any circumstance should say that to someone whom they are loving, if he had a reason to mean what he said he wouldnt be with you right now would he? FVCK him oh an yeah what I have done to excersize, one good thing is a bike stationary, another is when you go pee and you hold it you are tightening your muscles so if you hold it in spurts while in the bathroom that should be an effective excersize as well.
And also, it really just depends on the guy you are with really, I've been told the same thing before but you know I am with a guy now that can never get enough of me, it took a few visous *******s to get here but hey it was worth it because I told those *******s off and it felt good. You can get any guy you want, what girl cant really? Ive found out that 80 percent of men are insecure about there penis size and if they arent doing anything for you sexually there first instict is to accuse you. Just tell him to go play with his pencil d1CK in front of the fake 6 inch screen and have some fun with your life girl!! Its a process......... Good luck

[wenwen]

Thankyou!
Your replies is means to me, such a special power, thats i should think optimistic. I hope I can change him, not jus for me but good to him as well..

[Iseult]

Thankyou!
Your replies is means to me, such a special power, thats i should think optimistic. I hope I can change him, not jus for me but good to him as well..

I truly feel for you, but you can't change people. A person can only change one's own self, not others. To attempt to do so is soul-destroying because it can never work if the focus of your efforts is not interested in changing himself.

In my humble opinion, you should either accept someone for who they are and get used to feeling as upset as you do at present (because there will almost be certainly be a lot more misery to come) on account of your boyfriend's words and actions; or leave him in order to be happy in yourself. He is clearly dragging you down because of his own inadequacies and I hate to think of you wasting your time on such a loser; only to find out that your endeavours have been fruitless.

From your posts, it doesn't sound like your boyfriend has any interest whatsoever in changing himself for the better or even listening to you, so I feel the smartest thing for you to do would be to leave him and make yourself happy; whether with someone else or not. You do not have the power to change your boyfriend or even influence his actions, but you have full power over yourself, so please exercise that and accept only the love and respect that you know you deserve; nothing less.

[buck]

ran into ur posts while researchin some shtufff on the net.. Your bf sounds very immature. In my opinion, you shoulda dropped that suckah soon as he started talkin about ur goodies. The ladies up there are right.. the problem is NOT with you, girl.. it's with your boyfriend. He sits on his and beats his meat.. fantasizing about these other women.. and then takes it out on you.. That's bs. He's insecure and probably is just now figuring out that he's got a small . Ok, I'm sorry.. I'm very upfront bout what I have to say.. Sorry bout being well ... rude I guess to any of yall that I may have offended. I'm down to earth.. been there, done that. BEEN WIT 2 TOO MANY FOOLZ FOR WAAAY TOO LONG WHO TREATED ME LIKE SHiiii.... and the best advice I can give you is TO GET AWAY
!!! DUMP THAT FOOL AND LET HIM CRAWL ON HIS HANDS N KNEEZ.. AND WHEN HE'S DOWN THERE.. SPIT ON HIM AND NEVER ANSWER A CALL FROM THAT SUCKER FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!!! TRUST ME... Look for the signs.. derrr!! They're practically smackin yah in the face and crushin ur heart right now. If you think what he's doin right now to yah is bad... wait 5 years down the road. He is acting like a child.. and you are NOT his mama to have to put up with this . Drop him. I know how u are feeling right now.. vulnerable.. torn.. I love him so much and I want him to be my life partner. TRUST ME I KNOW !!!!!!!!!!!! GET THE UP OUTTA THEM RELATIONSHIPS WHILE YOUR STILL AHEAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LADIEZ GET AT ME!! AM I RIGHT, OR AM I RIGHT!!! Hunny, yo man is a dueche bag.. and you sound like a WAAAAAAY TOOO SWEET OF A CHICKA TO HAVE TO DEAL WITH HIS BS. Keep yah chin up... there are so many fish out there is retarded. Best of Luck. oh yeah.. i signed up to this site just so i could reply. I hope u read.

EY !!!! WEN WEN --- YOU CAN'T CHANGE THE MAN !!! (either yall reply quick or my comp. slow dang) YO. HOMEGIRL'S RIGHT.. HE IS A VERBAL ABUSER.. HE TRIES TO PLAY WITH UR HEAD.. PREYING ON UR EMOTIONS. HE KNOWS HE'S GOT YOU RIGHT WHERE HE WANTS YOU AND THE REST WILL BE FOR YOU. HE DESERVES TO GET SHOT IN THE NUTS. IF YOU WANT .. I'LL DO IT FOR YOU ;p OH YEAH AND TO LYNSWIN --- I FEEL YAH !!! FEELZ TOO GOOD TO TELL THEM OFF. I ACTED LIKE A LITTLE . FINALLY DUMPED THAT FIRST FOOL AFTER 3 LONG YRS.. THEN I GOT WITH THIS GUY I TOTALLY FELL FOR HEAD OVER HEALS.. THOUGHT HE WAS COMPLETELY DIFFERENT... HEX NO... AFTER 2 YRS. OF HIM MESSING WITH MY EMOTIONS.. ONE NIGHT I DOWNED A COUPLE SHOTS OF JACK.. HAD ME A COUPLE BEERS AND THEN JUMPED UP IN THE AIR (ey, cuz he's tall lol) AND DECKED HIM IN THE FACE FOR ALL THE EVERY MAN IN MY LIFE HAS DONE TO ME. MEN WHO MOLESTED ME IN MY OWN FAMILY.. .. ****TY FATHER WHO'S RICH AND DOESN'T WANT TO HELP MY FAMILY OUT WITH .. AND FOR THE FROM RELATIONSHIP #1 AND THE #2 PUT ME THROUGH AFTER I OPENED UP TO HIM. AND GUESS WHAT?
HE TOOK IT LIKE A . FELT GOOD. AND AFTER THAT NEEVVVVEERRRRR AGAIN!!!!!! FEELS GOOD!

[HURT&CONFUSED]

ok still new to this but the dates are from 2007 but post as 2008 so I am going to respond. In my opinion, maybe the problem is the guy and not you. Did he ever think that maybe is package is not big enough and maybe he is just trying to pass his insecurities off on you. The porn thing is not bad if it is something you choose to do together and my gosh if he is talking about you being too loose, have you seen what is done on porn? 2 sometimes 3 guys at a time. Sounds like he has tunnel vision and tunnel issues with himself. I dated a guy once that was bi-polar and claimed to be a sex freak and have all this experience and lets just say that he wasnt all that but because of his issues with his size or lack there of he would always say things like what you are going through. The exercises are great for anyone because it does help everything including the bladder but if you really want to shock his *** next time you do have sex if YOU decide you want to, practice a good old squeeze on him right before he's about to get off and then send him to the curb. Tell him not only did you tighten up but you toughened up and decided he is package is no longer enough for you. If you enjoy sex and he is holding out then send him packing. If you denied him sex can you imagine what he would say and do. Let him love his porn and find someone who will treat you like a queen. Life is too short to not have great hot sex and if he makes you feel uncomfortable you will never allow yourself to really enjoy all your sexual options.

[owlhunter]

First, there is most probably nothing wrong with your vagina. The Kegel exercise will help YOU enjoy sex more. My lady friend has had 4 kids and we fist. However there is NOTHING wrong with her equipment - nothing.

Re the porn watching. If he watches porn rather than "be with you" when the two of you are together, then there is a real problem. There is nothing wrong with viewing porn per say but if he does it to the detriment of your relationship, then it is a problem. Just as if he sat at computer and chatted with other women when the two of you were supposed to be enjoying each others company.

Many men view porn because it gives them a "safe" relationship with women. They don't have to actually interact with the women, and they can "make them go away" at the flick of a switch. Could this be his situation.

I believe you have to seriously re-evaluate your relationship. It is not clear how old you are, that can make a big difference. But do not accept a relationship with anyone where you are treated like a toy that is brought out to be played with when it suits him.

That will only lead to disaster!

[Laverne]

wenwen, if u want to make your relationship work try the kegel excercises, they really work, just tighten your pee muscle for a few seconds at a time. but i think your bf has a problem and you should tell him like it is. don't compare u to the other girls in the porn movies that he looks at all the time.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Ah, glad this came up, I haven't had my fill of year old irrelevent threads this week. Buck, you're a fool. Both for your necroposting, and for you're abusive use of capital letters and the letter 'z'.

You lose.

Also, releasing life-long pent-up anger physically on one guy is pretty lame too.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

ran into ur posts while researchin some shtufff on the net.. Your bf sounds very immature. In my opinion, you shoulda dropped that suckah soon as he started talkin about ur goodies. The ladies up there are right.. the problem is NOT with you, girl.. it's with your boyfriend. He sits on his and beats his meat.. fantasizing about these other women.. and then takes it out on you.. That's bs. He's insecure and probably is just now figuring out that he's got a small . Ok, I'm sorry.. I'm very upfront bout what I have to say.. Sorry bout being well ... rude I guess to any of yall that I may have offended. I'm down to earth.. been there, done that. BEEN WIT 2 TOO MANY FOOLZ FOR WAAAY TOO LONG WHO TREATED ME LIKE SHiiii.... and the best advice I can give you is TO GET AWAY
!!! DUMP THAT FOOL AND LET HIM CRAWL ON HIS HANDS N KNEEZ.. AND WHEN HE'S DOWN THERE.. SPIT ON HIM AND NEVER ANSWER A CALL FROM THAT SUCKER FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!!! TRUST ME... Look for the signs.. derrr!! They're practically smackin yah in the face and crushin ur heart right now. If you think what he's doin right now to yah is bad... wait 5 years down the road. He is acting like a child.. and you are NOT his mama to have to put up with this . Drop him. I know how u are feeling right now.. vulnerable.. torn.. I love him so much and I want him to be my life partner. TRUST ME I KNOW !!!!!!!!!!!! GET THE UP OUTTA THEM RELATIONSHIPS WHILE YOUR STILL AHEAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LADIEZ GET AT ME!! AM I RIGHT, OR AM I RIGHT!!! Hunny, yo man is a dueche bag.. and you sound like a WAAAAAAY TOOO SWEET OF A CHICKA TO HAVE TO DEAL WITH HIS BS. Keep yah chin up... there are so many fish out there is retarded. Best of Luck. oh yeah.. i signed up to this site just so i could reply. I hope u read.

EY !!!! WEN WEN --- YOU CAN'T CHANGE THE MAN !!! (either yall reply quick or my comp. slow dang) YO. HOMEGIRL'S RIGHT.. HE IS A VERBAL ABUSER.. HE TRIES TO PLAY WITH UR HEAD.. PREYING ON UR EMOTIONS. HE KNOWS HE'S GOT YOU RIGHT WHERE HE WANTS YOU AND THE REST WILL BE FOR YOU. HE DESERVES TO GET SHOT IN THE NUTS. IF YOU WANT .. I'LL DO IT FOR YOU ;p OH YEAH AND TO LYNSWIN --- I FEEL YAH !!! FEELZ TOO GOOD TO TELL THEM OFF. I ACTED LIKE A LITTLE . FINALLY DUMPED THAT FIRST FOOL AFTER 3 LONG YRS.. THEN I GOT WITH THIS GUY I TOTALLY FELL FOR HEAD OVER HEALS.. THOUGHT HE WAS COMPLETELY DIFFERENT... HEX NO... AFTER 2 YRS. OF HIM MESSING WITH MY EMOTIONS.. ONE NIGHT I DOWNED A COUPLE SHOTS OF JACK.. HAD ME A COUPLE BEERS AND THEN JUMPED UP IN THE AIR (ey, cuz he's tall lol) AND DECKED HIM IN THE FACE FOR ALL THE EVERY MAN IN MY LIFE HAS DONE TO ME. MEN WHO MOLESTED ME IN MY OWN FAMILY.. .. ****TY FATHER WHO'S RICH AND DOESN'T WANT TO HELP MY FAMILY OUT WITH .. AND FOR THE FROM RELATIONSHIP #1 AND THE #2 PUT ME THROUGH AFTER I OPENED UP TO HIM. AND GUESS WHAT?
HE TOOK IT LIKE A . FELT GOOD. AND AFTER THAT NEEVVVVEERRRRR AGAIN!!!!!! FEELS GOOD!

???? Elvis left the building in 2007 and so did most of those posters.... but sounds like your venting want to create a new thread in 2008? doesn't sound good an you may need your own advice, sorry for what happened to you.

CW