[Laraa]

Ive been known my hubby since we were 15 and weve pretty much been together since im 26 hes 28 now. Weve been married for 5 years and have a toddler.

i am finding that if i dont make a move on him he rarely will and if he does it will be twice a week maximum. Now he does work very long hours, leaving for work at 5am and returning home 7pm. So i do realise that he is tired and he very rightly just wants to rest once hes at home. But surely work cannot get in the way of a healthy sex life.

Weve always been very compatible with our sex drives but right now i feel he seems to have lost interest, maybe hes just had enough of being with the same partner, i really dont know. I want things to be like they were before.
I dont pressure him, i havnt really expressed my feelings to him about the situation too much because i dont want to come across as inconsiderate. But id like to feel desired and wanted more, its seems to be me making all the moves these days.

Any advice will be welcome thank you in advance

[Mes T]

Have a look around the forum, there are tons of threads with this exact same problem, and lots of great advice out there. Bottom line is you gotta figure out the cause of his low sex drive (there always is a specific reason), and the only way you can do that is by communicating. Maybe write out a few words in advance, just to see the tone of your message and make corrections here and there if need be. And then go for it. Have a nice, heart to heart chat, about intimacy, how much you love being close to him in that way, and that you miss it sometimes. Non-accusatory. Only your hubby knows why he's acting the way he is, the rest of us can only guess.

[jns]

Is there a way he can reduce his hours so as to be less tired? When he has time off, such as vacations, is he friskier?