[Guest]

I have read in more than one source that women's preferred method of orgasm is oral sex provided her man knows what the heck he's doing. Supposedly their second favorite way of reaching orgasm is manual stimulation. I have had many women tell me this is true. However, I talked with a women last weekend who told me this is not necessarily true.

So what's the real deal? How do women prefer to reach orgasm? Oral sex does make sense because a man has two hands to caress other areas while he's working on the most sensitive area of the human body.

Just curious. If I have it wrong, I want to get it right.


Thanks,

Taos

[Little]

We really prefer to be treated like individuals, entitled to each have our own opinions and preferences.

I, too prefer intercourse over every other road to orgasm. I promise that I have had sufficient experience with other methods that came close (and by which I came more than close! ) but the distinctly different orgasm that intercourse gives me is my favorite.

Though you shouldn't be vilified for trying to give supreme pleasure to your partner, thinking of sexuality as a science with absolute facts is both unnerving and unproductive. Instead, perhaps your time would be better spent pleasing your current partner in the way that's best for only her.

[Guest]

WildChild & Little,

Most women can't orgasm during intercourse except some can when they're on top. I have known very, very few women who can have an orgasm during intercourse. My ex-wife never had an orgasm during intercourse. It was either oral or my fingers. I have never had a woman not orgasm during oral sex.

But both of your are right. All women are different. If they don't give me cues during dinner conversation, and I always listen to women when they talk about sex and how they talk about it, then when we're in the bedroom I will ask them what they want me to do to them.

I prefer women who aren't shy in the bedroom. They know what they like. I prefer they tell me. After all, my motivation is to give them the greatest pleasure they have ever had....many times!


Take care,

Taos

[ItsASecret]

Oral does pretty much nothing for me so I could pass on it. I need a more firm pressure than some barely-there flutter of the tongue or minimal pressure of the lips to make me orgasm. My preferred way is during sex. Having an orgasm during sex is not simply pump away and bam you orgasm, it requires the manual stimulation. My bf has tried countless times to rub the way I do when we are having sex but it simply does not feel the same so I need to be the one rubbing myself while he goes in and out of me. I can orgasm that way, but it is not every single sex session. I cannot do multiple orgasms though, not because I cannot but because I need to rest for a good amount of time after and then I am not looking for another orgasm. One is enough for me, but it is still not a goal when I have sex. I am fine if I do not orgasm, it is a nice surprise if I do but by no means required.

[Elanor-Jane]

Every woman is different. It's always taken me ages in any way and I never had success with intercourse til my new bf and NOT from me on top. Missionary actually! So that just proves there's no standard even for the same person. Mine changes weekly! something that worked last week won't nessesarily work this week. Anything is possible I believe but I think alot of it has to do with right time right place right person. Just because your ex wife was like that then doesn't mean she won't be different down the track! I get really insecure from being told i take forever Like I'm the only one! and alot of men assume most women don't take as long but alot of them must be faking it (younger ones anyway) from what I've heard here alot of women don't come hardly ever

[Little]

I can hardly ever orgasm from being on top. It's probably my least favorite position, in fact. Missionary ranks highly, as well as doggy-style (though I have a hard time orgasming in that position due to the intensity of the feelings - ironic!) I like oral, but it's definitely just the garnish on the frilly girl's drink of my sex life.

I hate to hear scientific-sounding statements like "most women can't do this or that," especially when they're afterwards qualified by exceptions. Even the same woman, as she learns, grows, has different partners with different skill levels, goes through childbirth and menopause, will change the way she reacts to sex and how she orgasms. Chaining "most" women down to one form of pleasure that works "best" is downright laughable.

[Guest]

Hola Little,

Info gleaned from magazines, especially informal polls, is never scientific and lacks validity. I believe most of those magazine polls are designed to subliminally coax shoppers to buy them.

From my personal experience, I have never had a woman not have orgasms (many) from oral sex. In fact, I have had women have such intense orgasms from oral sex that it has taken them minutes to recover. Abandoning humility for the sake of this cybersation, I have had women tell me that they never knew oral sex could be so fantastic. Maybe I just have a knack for it. But the reality is I have learned how to create mystical sexual experiences as opposed to using women to satisfy my needs. I am more excited by assuring the magical and passionate sexual satisfaction of any woman with whom I am lucky to create mystical sexual experiences. In short, I have taken time to learn because to me it is very important to share sexual experiences.

[edited for explicit content] I am have many women tell me that I have given them the best orgasms they have ever had. I have had more than one ask me to do it again after they have recovered. My old girlfriend, who had a high testosterone level, could literally go all night. And I loved doing it because it made her feel oh so good.

Conversely, I have had women tell me that they don't like oral sex because their husbands/boyfriends don't know how to do it. Keeping in mind that sex is an experience and never and act, many men think that jumping down there with the erroneous thought of a few licks is all it takes don't have a clue. No wonder some women don't like oral sex! Very recently a woman told me she hated it when her boyfriend went down on her because he didn't know what he was doing, and it frustrated her. She said she would rather give him oral sex than have him anywhere between her legs.

Little, the sad reality is that many men have no idea that women function fundamentally differently from men. With women, it is a process. If many men would take time to learn, there would far less less-satisfied women in the world. And here is where I would advise listening to women. Some men become jealous when women talk about old boyfriends as though they were supposed to be virgins before they began dating them. These men are cheating their girlfriends and themselves. I always listen to a woman when she talks about sex. This is how I learn about what she likes.

One of my old girlfriends with whom I fell in love was so comfortable with me that I knew a lot about her previous sex life. I put that information to good use. She was telling me what she liked, which was wild sex. And she told me that I was the the first man who made her orgasm by oral sex. She said my giving her oral sex were the best orgasms she ever had. She said I was the first man she had ever been with who knew how to do oral sex on her. By far, it was her favorite way to orgasm. In the middle of intercourse her desire for oral sex would become so intense that she would stop, grab my head, and push it between her legs. I never once denied her. My job, which I loved and performed to perfection, was to assure that she wafted upon puffy clouds of ecstasy.

So, Little, I do think that if a man knows what the he's doing, women do prefer to orgasm from oral sex. Or maybe my sample population has been skewed towards oral sex. Anyway, from my direct experience, women love oral sex. But then again, as I have written, it is not a couple licks and then intercourse. It is a process that begins with passionate kissing and loving her entire body while paying close attention to cues she is giving me. And the dominant cue indicating she's ready for my going down on her is her thrusting her hips into my abdomen.

Finally, oral sex assuredly won't work if a man hasn't a clue how to do it. And I think many men have no idea where a woman's clit is, and if many do know where it is they don't know what the to do with it!


My best to you, Little,


Taos

[Little]

I think that if you compare your "sample population" to an actual sample population necessary for study, you'll find it ... lacking. Unless you're roughly as prolific as Gene Simmons.

Your post boils down to this assumption: that I'm not getting good enough oral sex. Believe me, I've had a good gamut, though I certainly don't live up to the same Gene Simmons records I'm asking you to reach before making "scientific" statements. I've had crawl-up-the-wall, screaming for Jesus, so much blood in my genitals that my lips turned blue, involuntary twitching for half an hour after, so good you'll wanna slap yo momma oral sex. And, let me break this down for you:

Intercourse. Is. Better. (for me!)

End of story. Nobody is better equipped to tell me what I like best, than ME! I love me a penis! I could sing and dance about it. I probably have before. Penis + vagina = ohmygaahhhh. I don't even need oral beforehand. Just get horizontal and go. Rawr.

PS, I edited out part of your thread for being too explicit. If it reads like a paperback novel with Fabio on the front, it's out. Fair warning

[Guest]

Elanor-Jane,

Every woman has a clit. The clitoris is the most sensitive organ on the human body. There are more nerve endings on the clitoris than on any other organ of the human body, both sexes included. Moreover, it is the only organ on the human body that has sexual pleasure as its only function. The clit's only function is to provide sexual pleasure to women. So in that regard women share an extremely pronounced commonality.

If a man knows what the he's doing, unless some medical/physical preclusion is present, a woman will have intense orgasms from oral sex; unless, of course, I have somehow managed to only have women surrender themselves to me who have all had the commonality of loving oral sex. Since this defies probability, then it is reasonable to conclude that if a man knows what the he's doing he can expose a woman to the mystical sensation of wafting upon puffy clouds of ecstasy.

Elanor, I hope to God that you experience this in your life. From what many women have told me, orgasms from a sexual experience that includes oral sex is the best it gets. I have had many women tell me that there is nothing that comes close to oral sex orgasms, not even a great vibrator! But maybe your mileage will vary.


Take care,

Taos

[Guest]

Little,

You are pretty darn cool. I love women who know what they like and want, which is why I loved your: "End of story. Nobody is better equipped to tell me what I like best, than ME! I love me a penis! I could sing and dance about it. I probably have before. Penis + vagina = ohmygaahhhh. I don't even need oral beforehand. Just get horizontal and go. Rawr."


Take care,

Taos