[Guest]

I appreciate the replys

It's not me trying to keep a secret, I'm really down about things, and frustrated and confused.
You said, "yeah, women will ALWAYS say it is the size that matters," but do they really mean it or is it just something they say to sound impressive or something? And not all women do say that the size matters, are they lying? I don't know.
I don't know what I would do if someone dumped me because of my size. Like I said in my post, I'm not even close to 8 inches, but I'm not really small either.

Are you really gonna let the size of other guys and what women say get you down? You were blessed with your own size for a reason. Some women feel that if the guy is too small for their liking that they won't be please. They get a guy with a 13-inch penis and he ends up bruising her cervix. That makes her rethink what she considers "pleasure."

For some it's not the size, but the technique. It depends on the woman. Know you hear this from a lot of them and it brings you down, but you have no reason to feel so. They don't know what you can offer them.

Cheer up and don't be so sad about something that is out of your hands: the mind and words of a woman. Just be yourself and make sure that you're happy in the end.

[tinkerbell930]

still nobody-
I would have to say that when women talk about size mattering...we are usually in a group having a good time...man bashing or talking em' up...ya know. Sometimes it's an ego thing...or a maturity thing. To be honest...I have NO CLUE what size my husband is....what I do KNOW is he is PERFECT size for me....he is not small and he is not HUGE....
He does know what to do with it and I am very happy.
I hated to hear you are down...I hope it isn't about your size...and if some brainless woman has told you that you are "too small" then you have no use for her anyway!
NO, size is NOT what matters to a woman...what matters is how you treat her and love her....if you spend time on her whole body and mind, she will adore you....
I really hope you put a smile on your face....
Women can be just as ****** as men...it's like saying ALL MEN CHEAT AND LOVE PORN...there are tons of men out there that are good and faithful and the only porn they want to see is the actual love making with their wife or significant other.

[Still Nobody]

I appreciate the reply I don't know if this thread is working properly, I didn't see miserable mom's reply.

miserable mom said "Your just hearing girl talk here, its the same as when men talk about womens breast or their butts"

Well I know for a fact that when most men talk about breasts and butts it's just that -- talk! I knew this one guy who always talked about how a women had to have big breasts and a butt that had to look a certain way. He seemed to have this ridiculous requirements and if a woman didn't meet them, they weren't worth spit. At the time, I just happened to be crazy about a woman who worked with us, and she didn't meet HIS requirements at all and bad mouthed her in front me, behind my back and every other way he could think of. Sure, she had small breasts and her butt wasn't anything special, but I thought she was beautiful. HE thought she was a skank.
Fast forward a couple years, he comes back into town with his new wife for everyone to meet, and I'll be d*mned -- she didn't meet any of his requirements. In fack when I looked at her, she kinda' reminded me of the girl I was crazy about. Needless to say, I was pretty p!ssed when I met her.

[Still Nobody]

Are you really gonna let the size of other guys and what women say get you down? You were blessed with your own size for a reason. Some women feel that if the guy is too small for their liking that they won't be please. They get a guy with a 13-inch penis and he ends up bruising her cervix. That makes her rethink what she considers "pleasure."

For some it's not the size, but the technique. It depends on the woman. Know you hear this from a lot of them and it brings you down, but you have no reason to feel so. They don't know what you can offer them.

Cheer up and don't be so sad about something that is out of your hands: the mind and words of a woman. Just be yourself and make sure that you're happy in the end.

I do appreciate your words, I really do.

I do have plenty of other things getting me down, this is just one I didn't need, since I'm in the process of rebuilding my life, my confidence and my self-esteem.

The weird thing is I guess I must carry myself with a lot of confidence, because I've had women (co-worker and friends) actually come right up to me and ask if I'm huge, or they'll ask "how big are you?"
What do I do?

I don't know what to say when they ask that. What if I say yes, and if turns out I'm not as big as the last boyfriend they had?

The worse part is, a girl I was really crazy about asked me, and I didn't know what to do. It surprised me when she did it, it seemed so out of character, but we were flirting quite a bit, so I guess it made sense to her.

[Still Nobody]

still nobody-
I would have to say that when women talk about size mattering...we are usually in a group having a good time...man bashing or talking em' up...ya know. Sometimes it's an ego thing...or a maturity thing. To be honest...I have NO CLUE what size my husband is....what I do KNOW is he is PERFECT size for me....he is not small and he is not HUGE....
He does know what to do with it and I am very happy.
I hated to hear you are down...I hope it isn't about your size...and if some brainless woman has told you that you are "too small" then you have no use for her anyway!
NO, size is NOT what matters to a woman...what matters is how you treat her and love her....if you spend time on her whole body and mind, she will adore you....
I really hope you put a smile on your face....
Women can be just as ****** as men...it's like saying ALL MEN CHEAT AND LOVE PORN...there are tons of men out there that are good and faithful and the only porn they want to see is the actual love making with their wife or significant other.

Thanks Tinkerbell. I really appreciate everything you said.

[miserable mom]

Still Nobody,
Its not just women that talk this way as you know already, I have spoke with men before and have heard men talk about women. Comments like did you see what so and so was wearing? Did you see her big ****bounching and those tight sweats where you can see that shes wearing a thong. Now I work in workplace where there are only 3 women and the rest are men, and I have heard guy friends talk about other women.
However Ive also heard my girlfriends say yeah I was with this guy and he was huge, or I was with this guy and he was small. Its just our nature to talk, talk and talk. Theres really no need to let this affect your self esteem, I have had men ask me questions like what size bra do I wear? Now that right there is the same thing as a women asking what size is your penis? Of a guy asking me hey do you have a big butt? I don't let that bother me as you shouldn't let it bother you when women talk about other guys being big. Size is not really an important factor as I had stated before. Cheer up and don't let this bother you too much.

[tinkerbell930]

still nobody-
I can't believe women actually ASK you what size you are! That is crazy to me. In my whole life I have never done that! To me that is disrespectful.
Anyway...as far as what you should say to a woman that asks that...well, I would be very polite and say that it is a secret. I think that politely tells them IT IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!!! If getting to know you means "knowing" what size you are, then they aren't worth your time.
I am also really sorry to hear you are down about so many things...I know of thought that from your very first post on this thread. If there is anything I can do to cheer you up, please tell me. If it is girl problems, don't get too down about that....there are a million fish in the sea...dumb to say, but so true. You will meet the "perfect fit" for you...in ALL aspects of love! Please keep your chin up!

[cowboychuck]

still nobody:

Hey, man must be somebody there! Especially if you have the girls coming right out and asking you how big you are. I have never heard of "chicks" asking somebody they thought was a low-life that kind of question. Generally it means they see something (Somebody) they're interested in.

It's absolutely right that it's none of their business, but know what? If someone I was interested in (as you said the one woman was) I'd say: "Let's go for a drink and I'll show you later!". The worst that can happen is they say you look small. Fine. My attitude is: "Yeah, but the other 4 inches is my tongue." That'll either shut them up or set you up with them. Win-win, yes?

"Hang" in there, bud.

[Still Nobody]

still nobody-
I can't believe women actually ASK you what size you are! That is crazy to me. In my whole life I have never done that! To me that is disrespectful.
Anyway...as far as what you should say to a woman that asks that...well, I would be very polite and say that it is a secret. I think that politely tells them IT IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!!! If getting to know you means "knowing" what size you are, then they aren't worth your time.
I am also really sorry to hear you are down about so many things...I know of thought that from your very first post on this thread. If there is anything I can do to cheer you up, please tell me. If it is girl problems, don't get too down about that....there are a million fish in the sea...dumb to say, but so true. You will meet the "perfect fit" for you...in ALL aspects of love! Please keep your chin up!

You know this is the first time I've really participated on a forum, most of the time I lurk. I haven't had much experience and I didn't realize that I totally "hijacked" this thread. I apologize to Stacy, I didn't realize how this stuff worked, and I was pretty upset when I started.

But Thanks tinkerbell930. I really appreciate it.

I do try to joke and flirt my way around their question when it comes up. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't, they look frustrated that I won't give them a straight answer.
But I don't feel right telling them I'm huge or anything like that, because
what if they've seen bigger, and what if they're disappointed?
I might be bigger than the last guy they were with and I might not.
I know plenty of guys who do stuff like that and sometimes it blows up in their face, and they've got a nasty rumor going around started by the disappointed girl.
I've been wondering lately if it's just part of the flirting on their part, just keeping things going in the conversation and -- boom the size thing
is introduced, but instead of going along with it, I seize up and get out of conversation.
Then I wonder, what if it's just a test to see how I handle the size question and they could honestly care less what the truth is, as long as I answered it with style and grace and didn't p!ss myself. You know, like they want to know if this guy can think on his feet and handle pressure when it comes up. I don't know.

[Still Nobody]

still nobody:

Hey, man must be somebody there! Especially if you have the girls coming right out and asking you how big you are. I have never heard of "chicks" asking somebody they thought was a low-life that kind of question. Generally it means they see something (Somebody) they're interested in.

It's absolutely right that it's none of their business, but know what? If someone I was interested in (as you said the one woman was) I'd say: "Let's go for a drink and I'll show you later!". The worst that can happen is they say you look small. Fine. My attitude is: "Yeah, but the other 4 inches is my tongue." That'll either shut them up or set you up with them. Win-win, yes?

"Hang" in there, bud.

Thanks Cowboy. I wonder that, too, in retrospect. I think I've messed up some great opportunities because I thought she was trying to insult me, instead of seeing it as her flirting with me. But, I don't know.