[Little]

Still Nobody,
I've had two sexual partners in my life ... one a little over 8 in, one 5-6 in, and let me tell you ...
When it was good with the first guy, it was okay. Nothing against him.
It is ALWAYS good with the second guy. I don't know how or why, but if the sex lasts a minute, it is better than the sex was for half an hour or more with the first guy.
So, don't give up hope. It's all in the technique for a lot of girls (like me!)

[cowboychuck]

Ravsoma:

I'm curious where the statistic of average men being in the 4" range comes from? I don't mean that in a disagreeing-with-you kind of way (it actually made me feel pretty good about myself).

I just hope the answer isn't that big brother has web-cams in the washrooms!!!

PS did you read post #42 in the "Do women enjoy oral sex thread"? We're back on speaking terms, ain't we?

[Irelandlover]

Are you guys lying or exaggerating, maybe? I'll just tell you -- I am NOT 8 inches, and when I see women talking like this, I just want to give up.
According to what I've read, I'm slightly above average, about 6 inches when I'm not stressed out or tired from working my *** off.
I see some forums where women will say it's not a matter of size and others where they act like THAT is the only important thing in a relationship.

So, I admit, I'm so **** confused and frustrated and i dont know..

People measure from different points firstly, that can make a difference of 2". Most women can't take 8 inches in them completely anyway. You can be a fantastic lover, regardless of the size of your penis. Just like a woman can be a fantastic lover and have samll breasts - its the attention you give your partner and the effort you go to which matters. Plus if the woman has slept about here there and everywhere she will be tight and width will not matter either

[Irelandlover]

I do appreciate your words, I really do.

I do have plenty of other things getting me down, this is just one I didn't need, since I'm in the process of rebuilding my life, my confidence and my self-esteem.

The weird thing is I guess I must carry myself with a lot of confidence, because I've had women (co-worker and friends) actually come right up to me and ask if I'm huge, or they'll ask "how big are you?"
What do I do?

I don't know what to say when they ask that. What if I say yes, and if turns out I'm not as big as the last boyfriend they had?

The worse part is, a girl I was really crazy about asked me, and I didn't know what to do. It surprised me when she did it, it seemed so out of character, but we were flirting quite a bit, so I guess it made sense to her.

Can't believe you have had several women randomly come up and ask you how big you are just say "wouldn't you like to know! and smile!"

[Irelandlover]

You know this is the first time I've really participated on a forum, most of the time I lurk. I haven't had much experience and I didn't realize that I totally "hijacked" this thread. I apologize to Stacy, I didn't realize how this stuff worked, and I was pretty upset when I started.

But Thanks tinkerbell930. I really appreciate it.

I do try to joke and flirt my way around their question when it comes up. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't, they look frustrated that I won't give them a straight answer.
But I don't feel right telling them I'm huge or anything like that, because
what if they've seen bigger, and what if they're disappointed?
I might be bigger than the last guy they were with and I might not.
I know plenty of guys who do stuff like that and sometimes it blows up in their face, and they've got a nasty rumor going around started by the disappointed girl.
I've been wondering lately if it's just part of the flirting on their part, just keeping things going in the conversation and -- boom the size thing
is introduced, but instead of going along with it, I seize up and get out of conversation.
Then I wonder, what if it's just a test to see how I handle the size question and they could honestly care less what the truth is, as long as I answered it with style and grace and didn't p!ss myself. You know, like they want to know if this guy can think on his feet and handle pressure when it comes up. I don't know.

These women you work with are they 16 year old Saturday girls? This all sounds sill to me. The idea should be that you get an idea of the person decide you like them want to be with them have sex with them and have great fun. Unless she is some ***** she is not going to be able to look at your penis and know what size you are, or be interested in size if she cares for you and finds you really sexy. Plus like I and everyone else has said if you give her lots of attention and time she will ADORE you whatever!

[BloodDragon]

firstly id like to say "dude, size really doesnt matter"

my friend who shall remain nameless ( lol it isnt me b 4 u get ideas) is only just over 4 inch and he really doesnt care, hes had more bloody women than iv had hot meals, he is just confident with his body, and the women LOVE IT!! which is something i have learnt in the past year and a half, and thanx to that i met my gf, which we just had our 1 year anaversery

don't worry dude, everything will be fie and dandy , confidence is the key.


just think of it like setting up something, even if you dont know what your doing, pretend you do :P... works for him

[Still Nobody]

thanks

Still Nobody,
I've had two sexual partners in my life ... one a little over 8 in, one 5-6 in, and let me tell you ...
When it was good with the first guy, it was okay. Nothing against him.
It is ALWAYS good with the second guy. I don't know how or why, but if the sex lasts a minute, it is better than the sex was for half an hour or more with the first guy.
So, don't give up hope. It's all in the technique for a lot of girls (like me!)

Thanks for the post, Little. I appreciate it.

[Still Nobody]

People measure from different points firstly, that can make a difference of 2". Most women can't take 8 inches in them completely anyway. You can be a fantastic lover, regardless of the size of your penis. Just like a woman can be a fantastic lover and have samll breasts - its the attention you give your partner and the effort you go to which matters. Plus if the woman has slept about here there and everywhere she will be tight and width will not matter either

Thank you. I've never been hung up on breast size or anything, so, I agree with you. I think that might be why I get upset about the penis size thing, I've never been one to base my attraction solely on what a woman's breasts or butt might look like.

[Still Nobody]

Can't believe you have had several women randomly come up and ask you how big you are just say "wouldn't you like to know! and smile!"

LOL. Yeah, I've come up with a few different things to say to them. I try to keep it funny and flirty, but I don't know if it works on them or they just automatically think -- small penis.

[Still Nobody]

These women you work with are they 16 year old Saturday girls? This all sounds sill to me. The idea should be that you get an idea of the person decide you like them want to be with them have sex with them and have great fun. Unless she is some ***** she is not going to be able to look at your penis and know what size you are, or be interested in size if she cares for you and finds you really sexy. Plus like I and everyone else has said if you give her lots of attention and time she will ADORE you whatever!

I appreciate all of your replies. Actually, one of the women was 40 and the other one was a year younger than me. I'm not sure how old the other ones were, but it doesn't matter, I don't think I responded the way that they were hoping I would.
The response I gave the girl that I was crazy about was kinda' pathetic and I don't think she expected it. The funny thing is, later that year her and her boyfriend broke up, she knew how I felt about her, and she wanted to be with me.
I don't know if she just didn't remember my reaction to the conversation her and Cindy (the 40 year old who asked me that time) were having about penis size or what, but she wanted to be with me.
It was kind of confusing at the time, during that conversation that they were having --and pulled me into -- size seemed to be pretty important to both of them, but then later, like I said, she wanted to date me.
I almost reminded her of the old size conversation, but I decided against it.