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Hi Everyone,
I have read all your posts about orgasms, and I am still in the dark!
I have been married for over a year now and I do not think I have ever experienced one.
We have tried many different positions, and still...
The only times when I get really close is when he does clit. stimulation with his fingers... but even then, I feel like I am climbing a big mountain and right when I am about to reach the top... nothing.
Could someone describe what an orgasm feels like?
and what should I do/change to get one?

I do not use any sex toys, and do not masturbate.... any hints?

[Guest]

It feels like an explosion...O_O Sorry. That's the only way I can explain it.

Why don't you use toys or masturbate? If you find out what you like you can tell him exactly what to do.

"Please yourself before you let someone please you."

[Irelandlover]

Ravsoma is so correct. You need to understand your own body first, if I hadn't masturbated I think I would have found it hard to orgasm. But because I did when I was younger I did every time with b/friend.

[cyn]

I think you might be psyching yourself out. You seem to be VERY stressed out about trying to get to the climax. If you're thinking about it the whole time "i wish it would hurry, whats taking me so long?", etc..then you'll have a harder time getting there. You should definately take some time, alone, to explore your body in depth. Masturbating will help you find out exactly what gets you going. Then when you're bringing yourself to climax, you'll better be able to show him where to touch, how much pressure to use, etc. If you're comfortable enough, let him watch you. He'll see what makes your body react and learn by example. Men don't come complete with the knowledge on how to please a woman and most love it when you tell them exactly what you like. The main thing is learn how to please yourself first.. Like some of the others said, aquire a vibe after you're getting good at climaxing manually. Get some good erotica to read (helps you relax AND turns you on) or find some type of porn that YOU like. Good luck to you in your journey to sexual oblivion.

[petite25]

I actually don't feel comfortable masturbating lol strange I know but I just can't! I've never had an orgasm either and I guess I probably never will since I can't bring myself to masturbate. I feel extremely weird even though alot of people do it....it's just something I can't seem to overcome.

[Guest]

I actually don't feel comfortable masturbating lol strange I know but I just can't! I've never had an orgasm either and I guess I probably never will since I can't bring myself to masturbate. I feel extremely weird even though alot of people do it....it's just something I can't seem to overcome.

Do you feel icky doing it? Or do you get embarrassed?

[GentileBen]

Hi Everyone,
I have read all your posts about orgasms, and I am still in the dark!
I have been married for over a year now and I do not think I have ever experienced one.
We have tried many different positions, and still...
The only times when I get really close is when he does clit. stimulation with his fingers... but even then, I feel like I am climbing a big mountain and right when I am about to reach the top... nothing.
Could someone describe what an orgasm feels like?
and what should I do/change to get one?

I do not use any sex toys, and do not masturbate.... any hints?

You'll be soaked in sweat, so much so that your partner will be able to literally skim the water off your back, his penis will be thrusting in and out after awhile and then on the onset of orgasm a guy can feel the vaginal barrel start to balloon out at the end and constrict around the penis - which is just freaky, but if you just relax and go with it, eventually the vagina grips so tight that thrusting is nearly impossible, and this eventualy leads to ejaculation and the women or girls vagina starts to rythmically and sporadically quiver uncontrollabley which sent me into heaven the "feeling" is incredible to say the very least, ( have to be there to know and understand what I mean.

After the orgasm, you feel so incredibly close, an amazing feeling of intimacy that you generally never feel with your partner.(must be the vassopressin and oxytocin kicking in) If you have never felt the feeling that you get from it, its definatley worth striving for.

I just used my hands (foreplay) and she performed oral on me.

I think that maybe our modern life style is not compatible with really good sex.

Most women are exhausted after a hard days work, and this is probably the same with men.

Hope that is enlightening.

B.

[petite25]

Do you feel icky doing it? Or do you get embarrassed?

I don't feel icky at all...I guess i feel more embarassed than anything which I don't understand because it's not like i'm being watched lol

[I_Have_Questions]

THe way I feel about sex toys and masturbation is weird...
I feel many different ways:
-embarrassed (especially about buying them)
-like I am cheating... cheating not in the "I cheat on you" kind of way, but cheating in the "I am cheating the way its supposed to be"... I feel like orgasms should come about as a result of the intercourse with my husband.

I have a question for Ben... you said that you feel when your partner is about to come.... is that true? is it harder for a man to come when the woman is not there with him? I always thought that women can fake it and men are completely oblivious to the fact....

My husband knows how hard it is for me, and he feels bad about it and it makes me feel bad about it... circulo vicioso.

thank you for all your help.

[Irelandlover]

THe way I feel about sex toys and masturbation is weird...
I feel many different ways:
-embarrassed (especially about buying them)
-like I am cheating... cheating not in the "I cheat on you" kind of way, but cheating in the "I am cheating the way its supposed to be"... I feel like orgasms should come about as a result of the intercourse with my husband.

I have a question for Ben... you said that you feel when your partner is about to come.... is that true? is it harder for a man to come when the woman is not there with him? I always thought that women can fake it and men are completely oblivious to the fact....

My husband knows how hard it is for me, and he feels bad about it and it makes me feel bad about it... circulo vicioso.

thank you for all your help.

Sounds like you are worrying far too much, not easy to stop it as its a natural reaction to this type of thing. Masturbation is so natural and although not as advanced as nowadays people have been using sex "toys" for years and years just it hasn't been talked about so openly.

Women can fake it and men have no idea. There are some sensations that a man could tell but mostly not!

Most people can't have an O just through intercourse you need other stimulation as well.