[AUDbal82]

Learning how to masturbate will definitely help in this situation! It will also help if u relax a bit ... the stress of trying to get there can kill the mood.

The vaginal (G spot) orgasm and the clitoral are a bit different ... I think the clitoral is much more intense.

THe way I feel about sex toys and masturbation is weird...
I feel many different ways:
-embarrassed (especially about buying them)
-like I am cheating... cheating not in the "I cheat on you" kind of way, but cheating in the "I am cheating the way its supposed to be"... I feel like orgasms should come about as a result of the intercourse with my husband.

I have a question for Ben... you said that you feel when your partner is about to come.... is that true? is it harder for a man to come when the woman is not there with him? I always thought that women can fake it and men are completely oblivious to the fact....

My husband knows how hard it is for me, and he feels bad about it and it makes me feel bad about it... circulo vicioso.

thank you for all your help.

what does "come" mean to you ?

OK.

Women go through phases:

1. Excitement
2. Plateau
3. Orgasm
4. Resolution

A females vagina is lubricated by the "Bartholins glands" thats what makes them wet, this lubricates the vagina to lower friction on the penis.

If you think "come" is lubricant you are correct.

If you think come is "orgasm" you are incorrect.

A guy if he is smart can tell if you are faking an orgasm.

Easy to tell if a guy has ejaculated or not usually because he ejaculates.

Sometimes he may not have much ejaculate left or have none left still if he keeps the stimulation going he will still orgasm but there may be little or no sperm ejaculated.

Also the orgasm for a guy will be more intense.

Note# Orgasm is very difficult to achieve, most women I would imagine would not experience it in there lifetime.

It took me and my partner 7 ~ 8 hours to get there, if you are both skilled enough maybe you can achieve it, in your life time.

Foreplay is important, if you don't do enough foreplay you won't even get close.

I use my hands for foreplay, gentle caressing all over a womens body for a long time, when your shoulders are aching change over.

Learn to kiss a women gently and passionatley - women love that it really stirres them up, once you have found something that workes keep doing it.

What your initially looking for is the sweat above the top lip, when you see that your making progress, when you are both soaking wet your almost there ...

Then you enter the women and well just keep the foreplay up and then ...

Orgasm. yummy he he he

[PixieDuzt]

Most women will never orgasm from penetration alone. Look for toys you can use with your partner. Don't expect yourself to orgasm because of your man's penis. I was having sex for 7 years before I actually came as the result of penetrative sex. And that is with 10+ years of masturbatory experience.

Sounds like you are worrying far too much, not easy to stop it as its a natural reaction to this type of thing. Masturbation is so natural and although not as advanced as nowadays people have been using sex "toys" for years and years just it hasn't been talked about so openly.

Women can fake it and men have no idea. There are some sensations that a man could tell but mostly not!

Most people can't have an O just through intercourse you need other stimulation as well.

Took the words right out my mouth.It looks like if you want an orgasm that you'll have to get one yourself.

[Irelandlover]

THe way I feel about sex toys and masturbation is weird...
I feel many different ways:
-embarrassed (especially about buying them)
-like I am cheating... cheating not in the "I cheat on you" kind of way, but cheating in the "I am cheating the way its supposed to be"... I feel like orgasms should come about as a result of the intercourse with my husband.

I have a question for Ben... you said that you feel when your partner is about to come.... is that true? is it harder for a man to come when the woman is not there with him? I always thought that women can fake it and men are completely oblivious to the fact....

My husband knows how hard it is for me, and he feels bad about it and it makes me feel bad about it... circulo vicioso.

thank you for all your help.

Sounds like you are worrying far too much, not easy to stop it as its a natural reaction to this type of thing. Masturbation is so natural and although not as advanced as nowadays people have been using sex "toys" for years and years just it hasn't been talked about so openly.

Women can fake it and men have no idea. There are some sensations that a man could tell but mostly not!

Most people can't have an O just through intercourse you need other stimulation as well.

[I_Have_Questions]

THe way I feel about sex toys and masturbation is weird...
I feel many different ways:
-embarrassed (especially about buying them)
-like I am cheating... cheating not in the "I cheat on you" kind of way, but cheating in the "I am cheating the way its supposed to be"... I feel like orgasms should come about as a result of the intercourse with my husband.

I have a question for Ben... you said that you feel when your partner is about to come.... is that true? is it harder for a man to come when the woman is not there with him? I always thought that women can fake it and men are completely oblivious to the fact....

My husband knows how hard it is for me, and he feels bad about it and it makes me feel bad about it... circulo vicioso.

thank you for all your help.

[petite25]

Do you feel icky doing it? Or do you get embarrassed?

I don't feel icky at all...I guess i feel more embarassed than anything which I don't understand because it's not like i'm being watched lol

Hi Everyone,
I have read all your posts about orgasms, and I am still in the dark!
I have been married for over a year now and I do not think I have ever experienced one.
We have tried many different positions, and still...
The only times when I get really close is when he does clit. stimulation with his fingers... but even then, I feel like I am climbing a big mountain and right when I am about to reach the top... nothing.
Could someone describe what an orgasm feels like?
and what should I do/change to get one?

I do not use any sex toys, and do not masturbate.... any hints?

You'll be soaked in sweat, so much so that your partner will be able to literally skim the water off your back, his penis will be thrusting in and out after awhile and then on the onset of orgasm a guy can feel the vaginal barrel start to balloon out at the end and constrict around the penis - which is just freaky, but if you just relax and go with it, eventually the vagina grips so tight that thrusting is nearly impossible, and this eventualy leads to ejaculation and the women or girls vagina starts to rythmically and sporadically quiver uncontrollabley which sent me into heaven the "feeling" is incredible to say the very least, ( have to be there to know and understand what I mean.

After the orgasm, you feel so incredibly close, an amazing feeling of intimacy that you generally never feel with your partner.(must be the vassopressin and oxytocin kicking in) If you have never felt the feeling that you get from it, its definatley worth striving for.

I just used my hands (foreplay) and she performed oral on me.

I think that maybe our modern life style is not compatible with really good sex.

Most women are exhausted after a hard days work, and this is probably the same with men.

Hope that is enlightening.

B.

I actually don't feel comfortable masturbating lol strange I know but I just can't! I've never had an orgasm either and I guess I probably never will since I can't bring myself to masturbate. I feel extremely weird even though alot of people do it....it's just something I can't seem to overcome.

Do you feel icky doing it? Or do you get embarrassed?

[petite25]

I actually don't feel comfortable masturbating lol strange I know but I just can't! I've never had an orgasm either and I guess I probably never will since I can't bring myself to masturbate. I feel extremely weird even though alot of people do it....it's just something I can't seem to overcome.