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Okay. I don't know if I'm in a nit-picky mood but... I don't agree with this and think it is taking a step backward. You're basically saying a woman should just do whatever, because her partner finds it important? I think "it has to be ok for both of us" is way more appropriate of an answer.
Semen is often times unpleasant, that's the bottom line. What do you expect, for women's taste buds to magically change?
If I misread your post then I apologize, really, but that's how it came off to me.
I would also appreciate a brief explanation of the differences between a "woman's" reaction versus a "man's" reaction toward sex. What about the number of women who post on here complaining that their partners cannot give them orgasms? Does that really compare with a woman not wanting to swallow....?
I don't know. I'm just suddenly feeling very odd about this thread.Last edited by Mes T; 09-30-2011, 01:42 AM.Comment
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No, I'm saying that either partner should do whatever they can that is important to the other. Or at least make that the focus.
You've fallen entirely to what I would call cart-before-the-horse thinking. Let's try to reverse the attitude a little by looking at the underpinnings here: It's Important. If It's Important (note the caps), then THAT'S the bottom line. Do you expect THAT to magically change?I think "it has to be ok for both of us" is way more appropriate of an answer.
Semen is often times unpleasant, that's the bottom line. What do you expect, for women's taste buds to magically change?
The attitude shift has to be away from:
"I don't find it pleasant, so no way."
to
"I don't find it pleasant, but others have learned, so I will try and try because my partner finds it so important."
If, in reverse, it is so incredibly important for you to avoid something that is incredibly important for your man, then you have set yourself up for disaster.
Don't try to oversimplify this with thoughts of "it's a partnership, both should be caring." Of course, that only makes my point stronger.
Men are half the planet. What they find important cannot be simply overlooked without trying everything you can to solve the need.Comment
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