[CHANDLERS WISH]

I think again, we are all different in our thought patterns.

Whilst, I do not disagree with women using Dildos, OR partners that enjoy that experimentation, adventure and definately don't disagree with women not pleasuring themselves, :-

I have to admit, I don't personally find them of value...and I am not a prude by any means.

I am of the opinion that the only thing I want inside of me is my fiance...To me, sex is not just sex, it's bonding...Naturally, horney sex is different, but again, I prefer to be taken, than to use a dildo....

I do wonder also in the OP's situation whether or not as she is using a large Dildo, she has experienced something that she can't experience with him and therefore, their sexual relationship may be very strained if that has now become her preference, which is sad because the bond is not there.

[Guest]

I think again, we are all different in our thought patterns.

Whilst, I do not disagree with women using Dildos, OR partners that enjoy that experimentation, adventure and definately don't disagree with women not pleasuring themselves, :-

I have to admit, I don't personally find them of value...and I am not a prude by any means.

I am of the opinion that the only thing I want inside of me is my fiance...To me, sex is not just sex, it's bonding...Naturally, horney sex is different, but again, I prefer to be taken, than to use a dildo....

I do wonder also in the OP's situation whether or not as she is using a large Dildo, she has experienced something that she can't experience with him and therefore, their sexual relationship may be very strained if that has now become her preference, which is sad because the bond is not there.

Chandler Wish:

Very well stated. Thank you for your thoughts. I agree completely.

[angelstrawberry]

She could be cheating and resentful that shes married to a man that not as big as she would like. I had a similar experience. My husband was not pleasing me well because he just wasnt enough of a freak and I felt like my sex is great so he needs to step it up. Im sure I said hurtful things but sometimes it feels unfair to be in bed bored and hes having a great time.

[Lovcookie]

I thought size does not matter but clearly for some women it is something they would like to experience. Sounds like she is speaking her fantasy out loud to you. So far I my life, size has never come up and I am average so I do believe that size is not an issue for the great majority of women. Maybe she had an affair recently, but maybe not. Does she watch porn a lot? She is upset with you about something else?

[Awoman2]

I'm more of the mind that she's being mean to you because she's seen a bigger penis that she wants (read that: she wants to cheat). Or she's looking for an excuse to cheat. Maybe she wants you to give her permission to go with someone bigger to make her happy. I doubt you've shrunk over the 8 years you've been having sex.

I just don't believe this has anything to do with using a larger dildo and wishing you had that size, because she can actually have both. She can't seriously be comparing you to a dildo.. Maybe she should get it to pay the bills.

But honestly, I think it's someone else she wants. It's ridiculous to compare you to someone she had a relationship with so long before, and her doing that speaks volumes.