[DSemcho]

Yes he does actually believe that. I think it's not his way of avoiding it, I think he's scared of my vagina suctioning to his face lol

[DSemcho]

Oh, also, I talked to him about it this morning. He said he wouldn't be interested in it at all and wouldn't do it. I said what if I lose 20lbs by my birthday, he said sure I guess.

So I have until Novemberr 29th to lose 20lbs.... And order the items I need.

But all I'm going to be doing is tying him down, using a tickler maybe, and a blindfold, and giving him great fun. And he doesn't have to do anything at all.

[ItsASecret]

Just take it slow. Remember, if he is not into it already then it can be a slippery slope. There could be possible outcomes including loving it entirely, or when it is all said and done you ask him how it was and he says never do it again. Just be cautious, it is not everyone's desire.

[rosekitten]

Yes he does actually believe that. I think it's not his way of avoiding it, I think he's scared of my vagina suctioning to his face lol

Sweetie, sounds like your husband doesn't know how to give oral. He isn't supposed to bury his face in your vagina.... In fact, I know I can't stand that when there's a nose, and stubble, and a chin, etc. buried in my vagina. Maybe he needs to learn how to give oral and stop being such a jerk to you. Losing weight won't really change the "size" of your lips.

[Guest]

Since you've already asked him and he's said it's "not his thing", ask him if he'd do it for/to you?

As an "oral enthusiast", I can't imagine a fellow man that is not, but based on what many of you ladies have said, of course I believe you.

That being said, I am also a student who is frequently trying to improve my sexuality and performance, especially when it comes to pleasing my SO, through literature. Porn is not my thing and the only thing men learn from it - IMO - is a bunch of misconceptions on how to do things properly.... again, just my opinion.

As for being a bigger gal and him using that as his excuse, that's exactly what it is...an excuse. Please ask him to read She Comes First by Dr. Ian Kerner Ph.D. It's a very good book - IMO and helped me improve some of my methods and techniques. There is a "books on sex" thread in this forum that you may find helpful as well.

Prop your backside up on several pillows, that you've covered with a towel, to give him better access to the area and it may improve his desire.

A man giving his lady oral, when done to the best of his ability, is one of the most pleasurable and satisfying experiences there is during intimacy. Wow!

He is really missing out!!

[DSemcho]

Ooh no he definitely knows how to give oral..... And he's good at it.. He does enjoy oral, he loves doing it... It's just me he doesn't do it to.. He's even said if I was skinnier he'd do it all the time... I don't even ask him to do it at this point. But I love going down on him.