[mrdee]

I am recently married and am looking for something a little extra. Me and my wife have a great sex life, but I would like to return the favor of going down on her more than I do now. I dont know exactly what Im doing when I do, and it isnt long before she is anting to move on from it. But I am wondering what I can do that she will like, that will make her want me to stay down there longer. Any advice or tips to really make get her hot would be great! Thanks.

[LanaBear]

Do you know why she is anxious to move on from you giving her oral? Is she uncomfortable with it? Is she too aroused by it and wanting to further things? Does she enjoy it? Can she give you any indication as to what feels good and how she wants things done?

For me personally, I really really REALLY have to fight myself from pulling him up and in me because I get too aroused by him being down there. But when I do let him stay down longer it is overly amazing. It is awesome when he sucks on my clit and on my inner lips, when he combines that with two fingers playing with my g-spot, I feel like I'm going to pass out. Long slow licks from the bottom all the way to the top are wonderful too.

However, not all women respond or even enjoy oral sex performed on them, so you really need to open up the lines of communication on this and find out what she likes, if anything.

[lizzardb63]

I don't find it to be anything amazing. I wish I got the pleasure from it that you do LanaBear. My clit is VERY sensitive, and if played with too much, I find it uncomfortable and I guess painful. Or...maybe it just was never done "right" on me...not sure. But, yes not EVERY woman is comfortable with it, or even enjoys it. It still makes me feel a little uncomfortable when my fiance wants to do it.

[mrdee]

Thanks for the reply! Shes not anxious or uncomfortable with it I know that, as shes mentioned that she does like it when i lick her. And we have talked about it as well. She really enjoy when i lay my tongue flat and slowly lick up her and a usually make a slow circling motion that drives her a bit crazy well. I havent exactly found her clit when Im licking her but would love to try sucking on it if thats pleasurable to most women, Im sure she would enjoy that as well. I also havent tried fingering her while im licking her either. Maybe I should try that? Ive thought about maybe tying her hands to the headboard or something when I go down on her so she cant pull me up from her as well but Im not sure if that would be hot or not? When she does pull me up from going down on her I dont think its because she wants me in her and is really horny because most of the time she goes right down to give me head. I have tried to go down on her afterwards but after she gives me head, she usually gets on top?!?!?!

[ItsASecret]

Ive thought about maybe tying her hands to the headboard or something when I go down on her so she cant pull me up from her as well but Im not sure if that would be hot or not?

First talk to her about it to make sure she is into that type of thing. I did that once with my bf because he wanted to try it out and I was not exactly aroused by the thought I figured okay why not just try.....I did not enjoy it. For some that lack of control is arousing, for others like myself, it causes major anxiety to build up.

[mrdee]

Thanks for the input! Much appreciated! Is there any type of thing like that that is maybe a little less than going right to hand tying? She is open to most toys/roleplay and kinky stuff.!??!

[ItsASecret]

Is there any type of thing like that that is maybe a little less than going right to hand tying? She is open to most toys/roleplay and kinky stuff.!??!

You would really need to ask her what she thinks would be arousing. Women are all different so a sex thing can extremely arouse one woman while the next woman could be very bored by it. Just communicate with her to find out what she likes and simply build off of that.

[LanaBear]

Definitely talk to her about what you want to try and what she is open to.

I love being tied up and restrained, not having that control. Like IAS says though, some people absolutely do not.

Also, there are some excellent books on this thread. You may want to take a look and pick some up.

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/sex/12032-books-sex.html

[mrdee]

Thanks again. I think she may be find it a turn on as shes mentioned being dominated before.... and she has cuffed my hands and feet and gone down on me. That was amazing, so Im assuming she does get very turned on by that. Maybe Ill have to try! One other thing as well, just curious mostly..... There is a woman at a night course i take thats alos a bit older (she's 36), and she gets a little bit flirty every time we have our course. Its nothing harmful, just playful fun I think. She has met me and my wife, and ever since then she mentions little things about having a threesome. She sits next to me and was talking a bit dirty one night and I couldnt help but get a bit excited. It was quite obvious as I was wearing gym shorts with loose fitting boxers so nothing was holding that back. But she looked down and said "You obviously like dirty talk. I bet it would be fun to be in bed with you and your wife." She is incredibly sexy, I say that in honesty, and when I mentioned it to my wife, it kind of caught her interest. I have no idea what I would do in that situation!?!?!?

[MeghanCouture]

You might want to ask her why she pulls you up quickly. for me and my husband I loved it but at first I was so senstive that it hurt and I couldn't have him down there very long. after he asked he me why I always pull him up I told him because his tongue hurt me, the next time he went a little more let's say gentler and it felt sooo much better. Or it might be because she just feels uncomfortable having you down there, some women hate oral they just don't want to tell there husband because they think it might upset them and they think there soing something wrong. So just just talk to her!