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Kate, I'd also like to put out there that if you don't want to do this, then I wouldn't. It's great that you want to please your guy, but everyone has their limits. The first time we tried, it was because my husband wanted to. It hurt like h*ll, so we stopped. We didn't try again, nor do he mention it, until years later, and I brought it up that I wanted to try again. He was shocked and I told him that I did a lot of research on it. If you do go for it, please take your time, get really aroused, and you take the lead. Let him know this beforehand. When all this happened, for me, it was an amazing experience.Comment
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I would NOT recommend the anal lube the desensitizes. That can be dangerous, you need to be able to feel everything that is going on to be safe about it. When you are desensitized you lose the feeling and may not know when to stop because things have gone too far. Stick with normal lube, it will be for the best.
One thing, is you need to be in control of the penetration. Push out as if you are making a bowel movement. This opens the muscles up down there and makes it for more comfortable penetration. Take is slow and well lubed (non desensitizing lube). Work your way up, don't try to go all porn star when doing it because it won't end well.
Last thing, you have to be open, comfortable and relaxes about it. If you are not, you will be tense and it will be uncomfortable.Comment
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The first time my husband and I attempted anal it went right in, it felt amazing! So of course we wanted to do it again and Ohh myy did it hurt I yelped and did a dance around the room holding my butt and cussing. Lol obviously I wasn't ready... We have tried many more times and no matter how lubbed and excited I am its still 50/50 if he gets it in. And when we are successful in getting it in, sometimes it just doesn't rock my world and feels uncomfortable and burns. But other times I love it. Lol I don't no if this helps but I've never told anyone about my anal experience haahaa.Comment
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