[Stephen857]

Hi girls.
Alright basically I'm a young guy 26.I do look younger though.
I must be considered good looking cause I get decent enough attention from women and young girls and in fact I got asked out randomly on friday by a girl I don't even know but anyway the thing is this
...I have a major thing for older women.but not necessarily the glamorous type. The housewife mature women thing is a turn on.
The problem is how in gods name am I supposed to pull women like that. And my question is if it was you how likely would you be to have sex with a much younger guy.
Would you be too self concious to consider having sex with a guy that young if you were say in your forties.

[caterpillar79]

Going for the cougar, eh? LOL.

I don't think this is a taboo, at least not that much anymore. You'll still get the "looks" from other people but who cares, as long as you and your girl are happy together. The problem with this is, more than likely, this type of girl you're looking for has been married before and has kids(daughter) your age and what not....

For a woman full of wisdom to fall for a younger man like you, first of all, means to me that you show some degree of emotional maturity that guys her age do not posses. That, I believe is crucial. Most of these women have grown weary of the older men they have met along the way who act emotionally juvenile.

I have an acquaintance who married a much younger man who is in his late 20's while she is in her early 40's. She has 2 kids and he's a bachelor. They are happy and I think to myself sometimes, it's a perfect match. Because at age 40 - ish, (most) women tend to become more sexual than when they were younger. Likewise, most men in their 20's are in the same spot, so I'd say....go ahead and find her. Good luck.

P.S.

To answer your question if I'd be self-conscious if such is the case, I won't be. It's all on how well the two of you get along in every aspect of your life together. I won't be affected by what people might think because it's my life not theirs.

[DreamP346]

Depends on what you are looking for - sex, or relationship. Most women in their 30's I know are a lot more sexually aggressive and know exactly what they want and go for it. At the same time, I know many women in their 30s that are still single and feeling desperate for a relationship. They tend to jump into relationships faster. But these are all smart, intelligent women and have no problem dumping a guy that doesn't meet their expectations. Of course these are generalizations based on my own friends.

Personally, now in my late 30's, if I found myself single again, I would definitely be interested in a younger guy but I would only be looking for something sexual, not a deep connection, so would feel a younger guy would be a better NSA relationship. I have kids and I know I would not introduce any guy to my kids for a very very long time.

The best place to meet older women are at single parents get togethers. Get involved in activities where more mature women go. In my neighbourhood its the ballroom dancing classes. If you flirt a little, and the woman is not turned off by it, ask her out. Even if she says no, she will be flattered that a young guy is asking her out so don't feel like you got rejected. Your best bet may be asking somebody to set you up. There are also some dating sites specifically devoted to this.

[Pretty RI Lady]

I tend to have chats with younger guys more than men my age and I seem to be drawn to their more carefree attitudes. In talking with them they are mature enough that I want to continue to get to know them more. I think younger men who truly have an innate desire for older women are sort of "old souls" themselves and I could definitely enter into a relationship with someone younger than myself. But the harsh reality with age difference is younger men, some, will definitely want babies one day. I am done with that. I have a grown child. So that is the biggest roadblock in a younger guy/older woman relationship in my opinion.

[Natalie1962]

If you're looking for a relationship you will have more problems finding a "mature" women than if you're just looking for a friend with benefits. Speaking as an older woman (52) I am physically intimate with many young men I meet all over the place. Now when we meet they know there is no chance in the world that we are going to be "boy and girl friend." They know it's just sex with a bit of friendship thrown in the mix.

Now Stephen857, from your post it seems that you're not looking for a long term relationship but a good "snuggle and a hug" with an older woman. Just be yourself. Go to a bookstore and if you see who is browsing the books. Find a way to introduce yourself but don't be pushy. If it were me and you came up to me to ask about a certain book and I liked you I would continue our conversation. If I had no interest I'd answer your question and keep on reading. You just have to learn the signals. You might be surprised at what you find out there. As you talk offer to buy her a cup of coffee at the bookstore coffee shop. If she says yes your chances are good that in the near future you will wind up in her bed. You certainly would if you had approached me.

Don't be shocked everyone. My name is Natalie and I love sex. Sorry if it offends you.

Natalie

[Baboy]

I somehow doubt that Stephen, who made his first and only post 3 years ago, is coming back to read your advice Natalie.

[Fallen1]

Please stick with current threads. This thread is O L D and the O/P has not been back.

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