[suntan]

If you use biting as part of your foreplay, be very certain how much you bite. You don't want to leave scars. Always be in control.

No I do it gently as if I am caressing her

[BabyGirl]

Suntan, I am not one to Judge you in any way, but I do inquire as to your true happiness and dedication to your Faith that you have chosen ?


When you first posted and explained you were a Monk and living in a Monastery and someone accidentally left a computer behind and that was how you found WH. I was very confused, not by your coming here for advise, but because Monks and Nuns are not allowed to own Computers and even guests are not supposed to bring them , or Cell phones and other worldly Goods.

Monks are to Follow the Simple pious life. And .. Well Simply the Pious life is not found often on the Internet, nor even Real places. And from my studies, a Monk has a few " Rules " such as but not Limited to the ones below.

A monk is a man who devoted part or all of his life to a religion. The word comes from Ancient Greek, and can be translated as solitary. In Greek, the word can be used for men and women alike, but in English,a woman who does the same is called a nun. Monks practice asceticism. They either live alone, or together with other monks who share the same ideals. Monks can be found in different religions, most often in Buddhism, Christianity, Hinduism, Jainism and Taoism.

The monks who live on their own are usually called hermits, those living with other monks do so in monasteries. Nuns living together do so in a convent.

Some laws monks might choose to obey:

Poverty: the monk cannot own anything.

Chastity: the monk cannot have sex or a sexual relationship and cannot start a family or get married.

Solitude: the monk should always be alone.

Silence: the monk shall not speak unless it is necessary.

Generosity: the monk should always help other people.

Stillness: the monk cannot travel far unless it is necessary.

Sometimes this means that the monk must be cloistered which means that they must not leave their monastery (especially Warsa period).
Sometimes they can be allowed to leave, but must not go very far.

Duty: The monk must do some things every day. For example the monk must pray or meditate and must do some work [/COLOR]



So you may hopefully understand my confusion here ?

One, as to your beginning posts and questions about sex and sexuality, your admission to being a virgin and curious. When in most Monastery's or Monk communes, no internet is allowed.

Two, your willingness to read and respond and welcome the advise and also post for others and ask for help in your frustrations and desires. Instead of going to your Priest about it , to discuss the Faith and Allowances.

Three, that you have risked your Piety and Vows. For a woman, for a woman's love, a woman's touch and to be able to Sexually Experience it.

And now you are Experiencing it almost word for word of what we advise or discuss here on this site .
And I wish to warn you , that not every thing we say on here Works for others. I think one person was a bit responsive to your biting a woman's vaginal area and wisely put in her feelings. Possibly she may have been " Bitten " Viciously. I don't know,

You responded with a Gentle bite and it is your " Society to Bite as affection ". And now your New Love is not Harmed and likes it .

That is really a good thing.
Though again, in your Monastery " Habitat'. And only to me, isn't it very hard to have sex, 3 times a day ? Especially in the location and Vocation you are in ?

OH Sooooo, you got to try it all in 2 weeks ?
Might get me even hot here .. Doggy Style, Oral on both sides. Tongues and Penis and fingers ..
Oh MY .. That would probably
Burn up any Internet Connection I had ..

Is that in the Very fast Quickie Time you get to Share with the woman you Love ?
If so and true. I hope you will make a choice of your Faith and decide to live by the Buddhist Faith that allows Marriage and Followings that do not ask for your " Monk Hood ". You State ( other posts) that she also was a Virgin.

And you are "learning from us here at WH" but she is not allowed to ?

You are Cheating Yourself if you cannot Chose one. This Woman that you Wish to Continue Sexual Relations with .
Or even Your Promise as a Monk. Which is a very Respected part of so Many Communities . For You to Trust your Belief and your Vows. And seek your Wisdom as a Elder.

We also must have the Respect and Belief in You . As A Monk or Pious person. I respectfully ask you .

How do we get the strength to no have sex.

To not want to be sexually active ?

To walk by an attractive person and not think of them in a Sexual way ?

You Suntan

May be able to teach us also . How to be a Monk or Nun and Keep our Faith .
How to resist and Chose when and where to Defy.. Not only the teachings but the Inner Soul ?

[suntan]

Suntan, I am not one to Judge you in any way, but I do inquire as to your true happiness and dedication to your Faith that you have chosen ?


When you first posted and explained you were a Monk and living in a Monastery and someone accidentally left a computer behind and that was how you found WH. I was very confused, not by your coming here for advise, but because Monks and Nuns are not allowed to own Computers and even guests are not supposed to bring them , or Cell phones and other worldly Goods.

Monks are to Follow the Simple pious life. And .. Well Simply the Pious life is not found often on the Internet, nor even Real places. And from my studies, a Monk has a few " Rules " such as but not Limited to the ones below.

A monk is a man who devoted part or all of his life to a religion. The word comes from Ancient Greek, and can be translated as solitary. In Greek, the word can be used for men and women alike, but in English,a woman who does the same is called a nun. Monks practice asceticism. They either live alone, or together with other monks who share the same ideals. Monks can be found in different religions, most often in Buddhism, Christianity, Hinduism, Jainism and Taoism.

The monks who live on their own are usually called hermits, those living with other monks do so in monasteries. Nuns living together do so in a convent.

Some laws monks might choose to obey:

Poverty: the monk cannot own anything.

Chastity: the monk cannot have sex or a sexual relationship and cannot start a family or get married.

Solitude: the monk should always be alone.

Silence: the monk shall not speak unless it is necessary.

Generosity: the monk should always help other people.

Stillness: the monk cannot travel far unless it is necessary.

Sometimes this means that the monk must be cloistered which means that they must not leave their monastery (especially Warsa period).
Sometimes they can be allowed to leave, but must not go very far.

Duty: The monk must do some things every day. For example the monk must pray or meditate and must do some work [/COLOR]



So you may hopefully understand my confusion here ?

One, as to your beginning posts and questions about sex and sexuality, your admission to being a virgin and curious. When in most Monastery's or Monk communes, no internet is allowed.

Two, your willingness to read and respond and welcome the advise and also post for others and ask for help in your frustrations and desires. Instead of going to your Priest about it , to discuss the Faith and Allowances.

Three, that you have risked your Piety and Vows. For a woman, for a woman's love, a woman's touch and to be able to Sexually Experience it.

And now you are Experiencing it almost word for word of what we advise or discuss here on this site .
And I wish to warn you , that not every thing we say on here Works for others. I think one person was a bit responsive to your biting a woman's vaginal area and wisely put in her feelings. Possibly she may have been " Bitten " Viciously. I don't know,

You responded with a Gentle bite and it is your " Society to Bite as affection ". And now your New Love is not Harmed and likes it .

That is really a good thing.
Though again, in your Monastery " Habitat'. And only to me, isn't it very hard to have sex, 3 times a day ? Especially in the location and Vocation you are in ?

OH Sooooo, you got to try it all in 2 weeks ?
Might get me even hot here .. Doggy Style, Oral on both sides. Tongues and Penis and fingers ..
Oh MY .. That would probably
Burn up any Internet Connection I had ..

Is that in the Very fast Quickie Time you get to Share with the woman you Love ?
If so and true. I hope you will make a choice of your Faith and decide to live by the Buddhist Faith that allows Marriage and Followings that do not ask for your " Monk Hood ". You State ( other posts) that she also was a Virgin.

And you are "learning from us here at WH" but she is not allowed to ?

You are Cheating Yourself if you cannot Chose one. This Woman that you Wish to Continue Sexual Relations with .
Or even Your Promise as a Monk. Which is a very Respected part of so Many Communities . For You to Trust your Belief and your Vows. And seek your Wisdom as a Elder.

We also must have the Respect and Belief in You . As A Monk or Pious person. I respectfully ask you .

How do we get the strength to no have sex.

To not want to be sexually active ?

To walk by an attractive person and not think of them in a Sexual way ?

You Suntan

May be able to teach us also . How to be a Monk or Nun and Keep our Faith .
How to resist and Chose when and where to Defy.. Not only the teachings but the Inner Soul ?

In fact I take you as a Guru and in fact teaching me a lot of about sex and the technique with we can enjoy it on the one hand and on the other how we take it socially or in my particular life of monkhood how I deal with this. I title you as a sex Guru . You have very graciously written through a multi lens and your ideas come from I suppose a good source of knowledge and experience. I like your writing style, vivid, compact and direct something I secretly envy.

Yes I have to shoulder a lot of challenges and my life will be incongruent and that is what I enjoy in life to live differently and not molding myself into the patterns conventionally set by our traditions and customs and I will experience this in defiance of everything .
I do not believe in heaven and the way I have been told and all I believe is human character. Asceticism is not always a virtue and sex is the manifestation or emergence of our emotional and biological needs