[michelled]

My guy is 35 and we have awesome sex but I have noticed over the past month when I give him oral that when he cums, there is alot less of his love juice than there used to be. In the past he has had several large shots. Now there is barely one. Should I be worried?

[jns]

How long have you two been together? There could the situation where the newness has worn off and therefore his excitement levels have diminished. There could be the case where his hormone levels are diminishing and therefore his libido is being affected. There could be the case where he is masturbating to porn and it is diminishing the excitement he has with you. It could be that there is more stress at his work and it is causing this side effect. There could be the situation where he is drinking more and the anesthetizing is causing less of a response. Please give more background on his situation (stress, weight gain, poor body image, diabetes, etc.) and yours (such as weight gain, not dressing sexy, etc.: things that he might find less appealing).

[a_dub]

If a man is making withdrawals from his account frequently, his balance will be lower than it was before.

[Hopeless Dork]

Meh, that stuff varies so dang much. One night we had sex and it was.. abundant. We did it again the next morning, literally may be three hours later? It was EVEN MORE abundant. So my whole notion of less meant it was being 'too spent' went out the window lol.

So while it may be true in some cases that less means he's ejaculating frequently, it may not be the case. Or, it may be. Who knows lol. Diet, hydration, sleep, drugs/alcohol/medication, stress.. all could play a role in the outcome.

One thing I notice though... the longer you keep the build up going: Like for example spending the whole day/evening teasing or say during oral, doing the 'peaking' where you go right up to the point, stop, restart... etc - it seems like the longer you keep the build up and anticipation going that always seems to bring about huge results :P

[Tim]

Most importantly, if this is what you're asking...it likely has nothing to do with you specifically, if that's what you're worried about. If he is ejaculating from your oral to begin with, you can be nearly 100% certain that what you're doing is providing plenty of pleasure, else the orgasm wouldn't happen.

As others have mentioned, the time factor is what it mostly boils down to. The more recently the orgasm, the higher the likelyhood of less volume during the next orgasm.

BUT...say the sex is on a 24 hour cycle, every orgasm 24 hours apart, and the lower volume is still happening. If more build-up time is put into play, say with you wearing something hot for him hours before the sex, or perhaps more teasing-type oral with more kissing and licking time as compared to direct in-and-out oral stimulation, and longer overall duration of the oral...the build-up unquestionably will produce more fluid, regardless of time lag, producing more volume for that orgasm. You'd be bringing about the old "blue balls" scenario, whereby the sexual frustration builds to a point of a larger explosion.

Many guys teach themselves how to hold back to accomplish this, because more volume also almost always equates to a more fulfilling orgasm for men. It always does for me. It just should not be done all the time, because it stresses the prostate too much.

[Tim]

I could not edit the above post due to time restrictions that I was not aware of, so hopefully this will show up:

There could be 24 hours between each orgasm for him, but the amount of BUILD UP can definitely create more volume. Wearing something hot a few hours before, or referencing something during the day to him about how you can't wait to have him in your mouth, etc (of course this is all hot stuff for men) helps add to the basic "blue balls" effect that creates more volume.

For me personally, I have always preferred receiving slow and sensual oral over the fast in-and-out gig we see in adult films most of the time. For me, this adds to the build-up tremendously, while also adding to the "acceptance" thing that some of us men love when receiving oral. I think far too many men (and women) do not try give this technique enough of a chance. For me, my volume unquestionably increases when the stimulation isn't simply mechanical, but instead slow and steady with occasional creativity and variance. I have also always had verbal or non-verbal timing communications with a woman (back when I had sex, it's been a while, lol) that would let her know she could rest when I was not not "peaking" or needed the continued stimulation. The pleasure comes in cycles, I think for most people. So when the pleasure was in a downward swing, I'd let her know so she could break from the more steady stimulation, and this communication enabled a lot more control over the build-up.

For me, being stimulated through the entire orgasm with her mouth could also add to the volume. That doesn't mean she has to swallow, she can spit it out if she wants to, but knowing that her mouth/tongue was going to carry me through the orgasm enabled me to relax into it, knowing the same kind of stimulation that was so powerful getting me there, would continue to the end. And for me, nothing produced more potent orgasms, nor higher volume, than receiving oral.