[Troop]

I'd like to get an outside, impartial opinion from the ladies here as to whether I'm overreacting or not.

When my wife and I were dating, she once told me she wanted to this one guy because she "got a good look at his package" and he's really big. We had a fight, and so on, I told her I hated this guys guts, etc. Now fast forward to last night, I get a friend request from this guy on Facebook and I of course decline. Then I notice that my wife has already friended him and they had been chatting it up. I let her know that I'm EXTREMELY upset about it and she knows why. She gets all peed off at me, claims she didn't know/remember about the incident and that since nothing ever happened between them I should stop acting like a child and just get the over it.

I believe her when she says that nothing happened between them, but she's cheated on me repeatedly in the past, and every time was because I wasn't big enough (and I am extremely small), so I've got zilch going on when it comes to any self confidence, she knows this.

Am I overreacting?

[acerousme]

oh boy. This is a tough one

Do you trust her? And the size of a mans package should never be an issue. Its HOW he uses it that counts.

If she has cheated before, I really dont think you are over reacting at all. You let her know how you feel, so thats a start.
Do you get the feeling that she could do it again? This sounds like major trust issues.

And...how did she get a good look at his package before? were his pants THAT tight?

Bt the way. No swearing please. Ive edited your post.

[Little]

I don't see any overreaction. What I'm seeing is very a very rational response (at least to the most recent incident: gut-hating aside) to a DEEP hurt that your wife is refusing to acknowledge. She's also minimizing your legitimate feelings by telling you that you're acting like a child. She's not playing fair, and my red flags are going up.
Did she have a buildup to her cheating before?

[Troop]

Sorry for the swearing, still kind of upset.

Yes, I do trust her. Completely? No, that's gone forever. She has cheated before and she's not the only one. My girlfriend before her cheated on me as well for the same reason - my lack of size. So yeah, convincing me size doesn't matter isn't going to happen because in my world - it's an undisputed FACT that size matters.

Do I think she'd cheat again? No, but that doesn't stop knee-jerk reactions like this. According to her, he was wearing sweatpants that day and going commando so he was all hanging out and saw him "swinging".

As far as a buildup, not that I ever saw. I never even caught her, she confessed to me so I was totally blindsided. All this happened a LONG time ago, but it still hurts because of her (as well as my 1st GF's) reason. I AM extremely small, that will never change, so there's some part of my brain that keeps reminding me that the REASON for their cheating is still there. All this time later, she tells me that it's because she was young and stupid and she'd never hurt me like that again, and I do believe her.

I just wanted to see if anyone else thought I was overreacting to the situation. Thanks ladies!

[acerousme]

its okay. I understand. we all get upset.

And for your information, my boyfriend is quite tiny as well. He's made me cum more than ANY other man before, so once again. Size doesnt matter.

But irregardless, i hope everything turns out for you. Being cheated on is something that cuts deeper than any knife and Im sorry you had to go through that.

[Little]

Ace, we've been up and down the Size Tree with Troop lately. His opinion on that isn't budging.

Troop, take heart. You are being more than fair in an unjust situation.

[Troop]

Heh, "size tree". Anyway, thanks ladies. And true, my opinion can't budge. In my "worldview" it's been proven beyond a shadow of a doubt. Aside from some sort of weird world-wide "size revolution" where large ones are suddenly objects of ridicule and the butt of jokes in the media instead of small ones, it is what it is.

[stariana]

my question is, why are you still with her if she has cheated "repeatedly"? that is horrible for your self esteem, in my opinion. she is absolutely wrong in friending a guy you clearly have issue with, rightfully so. and then defending herself on top of that.

so, just what kind of relationship do you have with her? clearly, there are other flaws besides facebook. she doesn't show you respect. that speaks loudly.

[dlanier248]

As a guy, I would say I am not sure I could trust her. My wife and my ex-wife got into it on facebook about my Mom. (kind of funny, kind of not) Needless to say, I was "made" to block her even though my wife KNOWS that I didn't trust my ex and would never cheat with her. If your wife loves you and respects you, she will befriend him and loose all contact. AND... ask these women here.. If a female sees one that is long enough to swing, they do not forget it. Not saying they would cheat with him, but they don't forget it...

[Guest]

I wouldn't trust her mate ! It actually sounds like she takes fun in your "apparent" small size maybe? Be careful you don't get hurt with her.