[BabyGirl]

Lol * Jim,

Well I kinda agree with the girls, on my man wanting me to get turned on, even slightly, by a guy other than him. I would be wondering what he was up to ? I'd probably " spin " it in my mind.. Hmmm he wants a guy to rub my body while naked, take a chance that I just may be aroused even a little.
Then...
Does that mean he thinks he can't get me excited or rub me down himself and he needs another man to get me in the mood, does he have a problem himself, like ED, so if I'm a bit more excited, I might be more willing to help him " get er up '.

We don't know Why Nodak wants a Cute Guy to deliver the Massage. As he hasn't answered BD's Question yet.

But Naw.. even if my SO paid for a Full Massage as a " Gift or Surprise " I would not have a Young Sexy or Hot Male, do it. I would not be comfortable with it, but then again I would not be Comfortable with some 50 plus year old Guy, rubbing my body.. Well maybe George Clooney or Patrick Stewart, Pierce Brosnan, and the List goes on ..

Hmm I don't have an SO. And that Fantasy would never happen and most likely would be a " Bummer " anyway. I think, that when and if I meet my SO, Massages, will be on the Check List for Comparability ..

[lizzardb63]

The next thing that would cross my mind in addition to what BabyGirl said is, since he says its okay to get a massage from an attractive man and possibly get "turned on"...does that give him a green light to do the same for him with an attractive woman without feeling guilty?

[BabyGirl]

That had crossed my mind also Liz. And the fact that it could be used in a Future Argument.

" Well you had that young stud rubbing his hands all over your body, getting you aroused "

But the main issue is Nodak's willingness for her to have a Male masseuse , which in itself can show a security and trust in his marriage. Though the Masseuse being a young and sexy man, is an issue in my mind.
If it is just that Nodak, feels she should try a male Masseuse and that wouldn't bother him in the least.Wouldn't any male of any age , looks, be acceptable, as long as he was qualified ?

Say This guy ?
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[lizzardb63]

Well... to get a massage for sexual pleasure is against the law to begin with (but I am not stating that he would send her there to "get off"), but that's not the reason they are there. They are there for a job, regardless of what they look like. Just my thought. I have a friend who is a masseuse and she's given my fiance a massage a few times and he's a good looking guy, but she's very professional and would NEVER cross those boundries and ever felt she was causing some sort of arousal, would stop immediately to save her reputation and her job.

[SaharaJim]

I don't think anyone;especially the original poster, was suggesting that the message be the type found in sleezy near prostitution places. But message that does not touch any sexual places; when performed by an attractive person, can be "stimulating". AND nothing was said that would suggest that the masseuse would be preforming anything remotely like a sexual act. That it would be "stimulating" was probably in the back of the OP's mind, but certainly not an overt sexual act.

[lizzardb63]

No, I didn't say anything about the masseuse doing anything in a sexual way, or going to a sleezy place, or anything of the sorts, but I think it would be inappropriate to go in with those intensions (to receive some sort of sexual pleasure- I would assume he would think she'd get aroused by it, which is a type of sexual pleasure). That's all. However, I am sure it happens all the time. I just wouldn't advise of it on purpose.

Just makes me think of the movie "Couples Retreat" where the husband and wife purposely get the opposite sex to give them massages and the guy ends up getting a major boner and the masseuse runs out horrified. LOL- funny on the movies, but I would think a little unnerving in person (yes I know she won't have a boner, but you know what I mean!)

[SaharaJim]

lizzardb63...I think we are viewing it from gender specific perspectives. If a pretty woman; or on some days ANY woman, were to give me a message that wasn't the deep painful sort. I would get "turned on, enough so that I would be "embarrassed" if asked to turn over. But what I am hearing is that the WOMEN on the forum...and he did ask on a women's forum...say that that is NOT true for them. Which is why he asked. We guys can ; with the "best" of intensions, assume that women would respond as WE WOULD.....wrong!

[lizzardb63]

Well...some women probably would...it all depends on where you let your mind wander! lol

[BabyGirl]

I guess what I'm trying to say is that if the Massage is for relaxation purposes, and not to " turn her on" why does the Nodak say

I think she would really like it if she were to get one from a cute guy

Instead of a saying just a Guy. I'm wondering, is there another Hidden Motive , outside her just experiencing male versus female technique or pressure of hands.
Again, I think he should just make her an " Appt, with " Steveo " and let her change it to female if she wants. That is the " safest " way,as she will know he approved or was not concerned about a Male , it shows her he trusts her and their relationship.

And a less chance of her being insulted or feeling pressured that she has to say yes or no to a guy rubbing her body, that isn't her hubby . To me, it kinda puts her in a Spot to ask her outright or even Suggest it. As Nodak stated, how would she feel about it, answering with, no thanks, because she thinks he ( Nodak ) might be Testing her , or a think ....Sure a Guy can do the massage as well as a Girl .

**** And Jim, you are correct in saying, that the women think about it differently, But I also think, as you said that " you " would possibly get turned on, if an pretty woman massaged you .. And be embarrassed to turn over for the frontal massage.
Then you said, what made me

or on some days ANY woman, were to give me a message that wasn't the deep painful sort.

So a Gift to You if I were your SO, would be a Full Body Massage from a Very Experienced Woman Masseuse that has a waiting list for her talents. One that may Cost more, but her Demand in Expertise, outshines all the Younger ones ..

Of course my gift would be so you have the Best Woman Masseuse there might be and to show you I trusted you with another Woman rubbing you Body ..

Lady Masseuse.jpg


It probably would be Embarrassing to turn over with a "Woody", just because the Massage felt so good for you.. Then again, it might just "Make Her Day that she still has it in her .. "

Hmm He ..for Girls, She for Guys.. Decisions Decisions.. Or the " Train at Home Classes " .. hehehe

[SaharaJim]

Thanks BG...but as of now there is no SO. or for that matter any O at all. lol